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So I registered DD for part-time daycare, and MIL made me cry over it. Fuck.
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So I toured this daycare today, and loved it. The teachers seemed like a great fit, it's literally 2 minutes from my office, and overall, I just really loved it. I registered Hannah for 3 days a week, starting September 16th. Shortly after, MIL called and I shared the news. She seemed a little put off by the fact that her offer to occasionally watch Hannah on a Thursday, when they're not on vacation, wasn't enough. I got off the phone with her, and she called back 10 minutes later. She asked if I 'really wanted to sacrifice my time with Hannah for MONEY' (she emphasized money) and that I was lucky that I didn't need to work for money, and that Hannah was so young, and wondered if it was really worth 'missing out on so much'. So I naturally felt like shit, and called H bawling as soon as I got off the phone, and now feel completely not-confident in my decision. Just venting in the only place that I really can. Carry on.
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Re: So I registered DD for part-time daycare, and MIL made me cry over it. Fuck.
Nancy James 9.1.12
Calvin Donald 8.27.14
The interaction she gets at daycare will be good for her. The interaction you get at work will likely be good for you.
It's good for Hannah to socialize and interact with other kids. It's good for her to know that women can work and contribute to the household. It is good for her to have a mom that is fulfilled, and if that means you want to work part time and have adult time, then that's what your family needs. Period.
Your MIL sucks.
Don't feel bad about it. We plan to send DD as soon as we can afford it. She currently spends three days a week with MIL which is amazing and free. But we'd really like to get her more social interaction with more children. So we're looking into twice a week or even half days. I found a place I love and think would really benefit her. And I'm hoping it gives us a chance to meet more people with kids, we're the first of our circle to have a baby so we don't get playdates often.
You have to do what you think is best for your child whether others agree or not.
This x1010.
You don't have to justify your reason for wanting to go back to work. I work because I have to but I would also choose to work even if we didn't need the money. Men work while raising children all of the time and they aren't expected to justify their reason for working instead of staying home, why should if be any different for women.
It is none of your MIL's business. Her calling your husband crying is clearly an attempt to manipulate the situation. She needs to stay out of it. If you think working is the best thing for you, do it! Your LO will do great at daycare.
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She sucks. I hope you enjoy your wine.
Ideally this would come from your DH, of course.
Don't doubt your decision. If you hate it and you feel like you're missing things with H, you can cut back on work. It's not a life sentence, going back to work p/t. It sounds like the best of both worlds to me
And congrats on finding a great daycare!