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Feeling like a terrible person :(

Knelson84Knelson84 member
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My partner has two nephews and our baby was to be the third grandchild and the first baby girl in the family so every one was super excited.

Now my SIL has just announced that she is expecting twins, due the day before our little one and they are showing to be identical little girls.

I am of course super happy for her and excited that there will be more babies around and cousins for our little one but also just feeling a little bit like she stole our thunder. I know that's horrible and selfish and I hate feeling this way :( arghhh I feel like a terrible, selfish person. Ill get over it soon I'm sure but we were just so excited about having the first girl and she has kinda trumped us lol

Before any one says I'm being silly etc, I am fully aware... Just needed to vent a little.
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Re: Feeling like a terrible person :(

  • Knelson84Knelson84 member
    Oh dear that does make me feel like less of an a-hole! Hehe it's been a few hours and those selfish silly feelings have passed. Thank goodness, now I am just so happy and excited for them as they have two older boys so I can just imagine how excited they are for two little girls! And it's going to be wonderful having two cousins for my little one to play with so close in age. :)

    thanks for your responses ladies ❤ much appreciated and you are 100% correct!
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  • KristinmoKristinmo member
    BLang23 said:
    Just remember, due dates are an estimate! You could always end up having your daughter first!
    Not likely with twins but it could happen.

    And it's ok to have these feelings, just don't people IRL.  Telling your SIL would make you an asshole.
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  • SmileyJaySmileyJay member

    I see how this would be really annoying. I just imagine anytime you complain about the pregnancy pains hearing "well be glad its not twins like so and so". When you complain about midnight feedings or the cost of diapers you hear "well just be glad you don't have two..." etc.

    Twins garner attention because there are two of them. It's just plain cute. But there is a big negative side... most twins are born premature (34 weeks is considered full term for multiples) and developmental issues are very common. There are also many risks to the mother.

    Also it's expected that close family will feel that they need to help the twin parents (who will then have 4 kids) more because two babies is tough. They will get more gifts, more help around the house, and more offers to babysit more than likely. If and when this happens you have to look at it as having the opportunity to relax with your new little one. Usually that is the most stressful time - the few months after the birth when you have not showered, you are so tired, and everyone wants to stop by every day to see the little one. 

    Also an amazingly cool opportunity for your daughter to have twin girl cousins her own age. How awesome is that! She gets two little friends and you guys will have so much fun watching them all grow up together! 

    All babies are exciting! The 1st girl or the 200th boy, it doesn't matter! Be happy and be SO glad you are only carrying one baby! :)
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