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PrimRoseMama · August 2013

I think it's understood that we are all thankful for our children. However, the newborn phase is a gauntlet! Bitch here...

My boobs hurt from comfort nursing. He gets so pissed at milk when he doesn't want it. Strangely he will take a pacifier everywhere but in the cosleeper where I need him to (so I can give my boobs & finger a break).

My pants are falling off my ass but clothes still fit weird. Dammit! I gained a lb when I have been losing steadily. So the battle begins to get to my ideal weight. It's a big deal not for just my own feel-good, but to get this back pain under control. Being lighter will mean more manageable pain.

I would love more sleep than 2-3 hours a night. I know it's not forever and it's not all Alex's fault. He actually doesnt sleep horribly. My back pain makes finding a good position very difficult. So I'm exhausted but can't sleep on my stomach because it kills my boobs. Just a no win situation...

I feel like a zombie and DD is so rambunctious this morning. H is sleeping in and I know he works hard. I know he's tired too but I am so envious of him right now. I am playing blocks w/DD and wearing DS. I could fall over but then my sorry corpse couldn't even get comfortable.

Please share your misery with me. I doubt I'm alone.

martyn17 · August 2013

I am Day 3 of DH's business trip. He gets home tomorrow night. My baby is 7 weeks old today and has been so fussy the last 4-5 days. I have really been enjoying having a newborn but today I am starting to burn out a little. I'm tired and frustrated that I can't figure out what's wrong with my sweet girl. Is this just a fussy week or is this my new baby? I can't wait for DH to get home.

Stina2012 · August 2013

maryannespier said:
This is day two of "I'll only nap on mommy." I let him sleep for 20 minutes on me then try to put him down and he wakes up immediately. I tried to put him in the mei tai and he screamed. I just want to get my bagel and eat it.

Dude! My bagel is sitting in the toaster in the kitchen getting cold!

When will these leathery nubs I now call nipples heal? They don't hurt like they did before but I still have cracks on them. Also, I need to do a waaayyyy better job remembering to brush my teeth. Ew.

Stina2012 · August 2013

Also, it's my stupid MILs bday tomorrow. I don't want to see the ILs at all, as in that is the absolute last thing in the world I want to do these days. But since we are doing something with my Mom on Sunday I feel like we have to do something with stupid MIL this weekend. Uggghhhhh they suck!

klyann · August 2013

DS hates his carseat and refuses to be worn lately, despite the beautiful new Beco I just bought. Makes it very difficult when we go out of the house, and when we are hanging out at home and I need to get anything done.

DD is in the midst of the terrible twos/three's. They suck. And she refuses to try potty training. And preschool starts next week. Ugh.

DH woke me up last night at 2:30 and told me that he had been throwing up for the last hour and that I needed to go sleep in the guest bedroom and he would be quarantining himself. I've spent the rest of the night wondering if he has norovirus and we are all going to get sick soon. I'm actually praying its food poisoning.

Its nice to hear everyone else is having a hard time too. Misery loves company. Good luck everyone!

jemasa33 · August 2013

I also hate that my pants won't stay up! I compared pregnant pictures from ds1 and ds2 and I saw I completely lost my butt. Hopefully I can find it again sometime soon!

DenverBride2005 · August 2013

I am annoyed at our pedi's office and all of the doctors I have talked to about DS's reflux--I am not a FTM (no offense to the FTMs)--I know the difference between a hungry cry, a tired cry, and a "damn my throat is burning from all this acid!" cry! I feel like everyone dismissed me when I asked if it was herditary (the pedi we saw at the hospital--not our pedi, they dont go to the hospital where I delivered), and also the NP we saw at our pedi's office--she was trying to tell me it sounded more like colic. really? Spitting up out his nose three times and writhing in pain is just colic? He is in legit pain and this Zantac is doing jack squat for us, just like it was for his big brother--we need the Prevacid and pedi's office better be willing to prescribe it when I call this morning (they previously told us he was too young--well he's five weeks today and that is about the age DS1 was prescribed Prevacid, so I am hopeful). I have absolutely nothing to wear and even trying to shop a little to find a few things is proving fruitless--the only things that look halfway decent are workout clothes because they are stretchy! Denim is my arch enemy at this point. I am having a harder time with post baby body after baby #2--just looking forward to getting back to myself--for real this time (not the halfway "well why worry about my abs since I am just going to have another baby") since DH and I are done having kiddos. (ps sorry for lack of paragraph breaks, iPad posting)

rondokye · August 2013

LO has decided that she only wants to take a nap, on me, with a boob in her mouth. This has been going on for about a week now. Well, maybe longer but I've just now put it together. I'd love to sit and snuggle her for hours if I didn't have anything else to do like get dressed, pee, eat, clean or - and this is the big one, do actual pay the bills work. I am trying to start my own consulting business so that eventually I can work from home. I've not been able to do anything for my one client and I need to get my butt in gear.

And pumping...I hate pumping. I'm not an over producer and am nervous about my supply even though LO seems to be growing and thriving. So I've been trying to find the time to pump and build up a supply. How the hell do others pump and nurse at the same time? Every time I try, I end up with milk everywhere and a cranky baby. I seem to need both hands to support her and my massive boob.

jeng100 · August 2013

I. Want. Sleep.

Oh, and I feel like the biggest moron who doesn't understand baby wearing. I can't figure out any of my carriers except the ergo, and it's too hot for the damn insert.

dliz87 · August 2013

In the past 24 hours, I have I only slept for 3 separate hour segments. I am flucking tired. And I'm at the, I think I need a good cry, point.

karen0477 · August 2013

I am sooooo ready for my kids to go back to school.....I understand this is a common complaint at this time of year, but I have worked full time since ds was 1 and dd was 3, all of us are not used to spending this much time together, throw a newborn in the mix and jeez, there have been some ugly moments. I love them but I am ready for a daytime break from them.......

klyann · August 2013

rondokye said:

LO has decided that she only wants to take a nap, on me, with a boob in her mouth. This has been going on for about a week now. Well, maybe longer but I've just now put it together. I'd love to sit and snuggle her for hours if I didn't have anything else to do like get dressed, pee, eat, clean or - and this is the big one, do actual pay the bills work. I am trying to start my own consulting business so that eventually I can work from home. I've not been able to do anything for my one client and I need to get my butt in gear.

And pumping...I hate pumping. I'm not an over producer and am nervous about my supply even though LO seems to be growing and thriving. So I've been trying to find the time to pump and build up a supply. How the hell do others pump and nurse at the same time? Every time I try, I end up with milk everywhere and a cranky baby. I seem to need both hands to support her and my massive boob.

Are you trying to pump and nurse at the same time? Get a hands free pumping bra. Those things are awesome - Simple Wishes makes a good one. And just pump in between a feeding. You will usually have the most milk in the mornings.

opheliainwaders · August 2013

All of my pants are too big in the butt, but unable to zip at the waist. I am wearing jeans in a size I've never owned before, and I am PISSED. Also, they look weird on my butt.

And I love DD, I am happy to give up dairy for her, but right now, I would cut a bitch for some real cheese.

jmw222 · August 2013

Chunkymonkeylvr said:

My nipples are raw. I want to walk around with holes in my clothes around my nipples so I can function. Yes DH nipple stimulation was great for foreplay BEFORE kids.... now not so much.
DD I love you but you have to stop talking. I picked her up from school yesterday and she talked non stop. I cannot believe that I am that mother who looked at her child yesterday and said "I am done. You are not allowed to talk anymore." Of course it didn't last 5 min later she was talking again lol. *sigh*

I am tired of crying at stupid Carter commercials.

Haha! DD does this all the time. I told her we were going to play the quiet game. So, she whispered for a minute, then was back to her normal self!

aehamilton13 · August 2013

I'm lonely. I've been blessed with a very laid back, content baby who's put himself on pretty much a perfect 3 hour schedule, so I can get lots done... But... I miss outside contact. I went to a playgroup today, and it didn't help. I'm bad at meeting people. My Mum's been coming to visit a lot, which helps, but she's leaving next weekend for two weeks' vacation, and then what?? My friends all have, you know, jobs... Med school... Etc. I miss the social aspect of work. I expect this will get easier as Hunter gets more interactive, but right now, I'm just kind of bored and lonely.

Hilaboo86 · August 2013

My arm is tired from holding dd! She won't let me put her down, and all I want is to shower and brush my teeth!! Blah. Ill miss these days one day!

karirlaw · August 2013

I gained caboodles of weight this pregnancy and cannot fit in my fat pants without severe muffin top. Also, the amount of milk I produce is directly correlating to the amount of food I eat meaning weight loss will be slow going. Boo

Hilaboo86 · August 2013

karirlaw said:
I gained caboodles of weight this pregnancy and cannot fit in my fat pants without severe muffin top. Also, the amount of milk I produce is directly correlating to the amount of food I eat meaning weight loss will be slow going. Boo

I'm with you! My 16 are hard to button. I look like a can of busted biscuits! I'm sleep deprived but what do you mean milk correlates to food you eat?

Edit: autocorrect

aehamilton13 · August 2013

maryannespier said:

aehamilton13 said:
I'm lonely. I've been blessed with a very laid back, content baby who's put himself on pretty much a perfect 3 hour schedule, so I can get lots done... But... I miss outside contact. I went to a playgroup today, and it didn't help. I'm bad at meeting people. My Mum's been coming to visit a lot, which helps, but she's leaving next weekend for two weeks' vacation, and then what?? My friends all have, you know, jobs... Med school... Etc. I miss the social aspect of work. I expect this will get easier as Hunter gets more interactive, but right now, I'm just kind of bored and lonely.
Other than the schedule, which we definitely don't have, I feel the same way. I am bored and lonely, and then I feel guilty because I know lots of women would give an arm to be able to stay home on paid maternity leave.
DH keeps telling me to get out of the house and do things, but I don't think he understands that's not the simplest thing to do with a baby who wants constant boob action.

Glad I'm not the only one! Getting out does actually help usually, but it is hard.

amaburch · August 2013

I bit the bullet and bought 2 new pairs of jeans (2 sizes bigger) since I still look like a freshman in college that drinks too much beer but still thinks she is the same size (no ass with a beer belly). I want to take a poop that last longer than 5 seconds, I want to sit outside with a magazine and a huge glass of wine, and I want to sleep for longer than 2 hours at a time. I also wish that DS would take a pacifier instead of spitting out and sucking in my nipple a hundred times. Saying all that he is so worth it Damn it, he just woke up...

jeng100 · August 2013

I have another: I desperately want to swim but I'm only 4 w pp and the doc won't clear me till 6 w. I had a cs because I couldn't dilate so I don't understand why I have to wait the full 6 w. We have no air, and the only way to cool off is our pool. I'm dying.

karirlaw · August 2013

Hilaboo86 said:

karirlaw said:
I gained caboodles of weight this pregnancy and cannot fit in my fat pants without severe muffin top. Also, the amount of milk I produce is directly correlating to the amount of food I eat meaning weight loss will be slow going. Boo
I'm with you! My 16 are hard to button. I look like a can of busted biscuits! I'm sleep deprived but what do you mean milk correlates to food you eat?

Edit: autocorrect

Haha. Yeah! Meaning if I only consume a small amount of food I have next to no milk, if I scarf down everything in my fridge I could nurse the entire town. So I have to eat boat loads of calories in order to provide food for my LO. I doubt I'm burning off much at all each day.

minouvan · August 2013

maryannespier said:
This is day two of "I'll only nap on mommy." I let him sleep for 20 minutes on me then try to put him down and he wakes up immediately. I tried to put him in the mei tai and he screamed. I just want to get my bagel and eat it.

This is me, but it's been weeks!

JenniferF11 · August 2013

I want both girls to telepathically coordinate their sleeping schedules. Is that too much to ask for? I can't remember the last time they both napped at the same time during the day. And I hate waking one at night -who is usually in a deep sleep - just because the other is hungry. STTN seems so far away since I'm keeping them on a one up, both up schedule.

I'm pretty sure I've turned into a vampire because daylight burns my retinas. When I do actually leave the house people must stare at my transparent skin since its 98 degrees here. Oh what I would give for a nice day at the pool with a giant margarita. I guess I'll settle for a hot shower for now.

summerchild · August 2013

I would kill for a nap. DS won't nap longer than 10 min even though he's clearly tired. Please stop fighting and go to sleep!!!!! Sleep when baby sleeps?! Not possible.

JellyTwoPointO · August 2013

My biggest complaint right now is my weight/figure. Why do I weigh 19 pounds less than my pre-pregnancy weight but my pre-preg jeans look atrocious and tight on me?!?! Hellooooo muffin top. I've stopped losing weight despite exclusively breast feeding and it's pissing me off but I'm afraid to do any sort of diet or whatnot for fear of messing with my supply

[Deleted User] · August 2013

Jellybean902 said:
My biggest complaint right now is my weight/figure. Why do I weigh 19 pounds less than my pre-pregnancy weight but my pre-preg jeans look atrocious and tight on me?!?! Hellooooo muffin top. I've stopped losing weight despite exclusively breast feeding and it's pissing me off but I'm afraid to do any sort of diet or whatnot for fear of messing with my supply

Maybe you aren't eating enough? Someone posted about this a while back... Lacomechica I think. That could be why you aren't losing any more of the weight

PrimRoseMama · August 2013

Spartanmomma said:

And the refusal to try foods, argh! I think there are maybe 3 fruits and 2 vegetables in his repertoire of things he'll eat. How do kids instinctively know to try an unknown baked good, but refuse to put a beautiful bright colored fruit or veggie near their mouth? ETA oops posted too soon

DD is that way about green veggies after a bout of norovirus. She had eaten some spinach/kale/seaweed salad that night and puked it all up over the night. Anywho, to get her to eat anything that looks like a leafy green I blend it until its liquid and put it in a sauce with pasta sauce. Prego, or one of the tomato based sauces is always a hit. She doesn't know the difference. Also, juicing and making your own shakes can work. You can sneak a ton of veggies in that way.

PrimRoseMama · August 2013

Laurendag said:

Flame me all you want but I seriously wish they made baby Ambian. DS naps maybe a total of 2 hours during the day when I have him, sleeps the whole time I'm at work and he's with DH. Oh and then he's up every 3-4 hours over night.

I'm sure we all wish that baby Ambien was safe, legal and permissible! I can't flame you there.

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