April 2014 Moms

Is anybody leaving their careers to be a stay at home mom?

I'm in the military and have to decide whether I want to stay in while being a mother or separate and be a full time mother. I want to be at home with my baby but idk if my husband can take on all the bills on his salary. And advice on which jobs stay at home moms can do?

Re: Is anybody leaving their careers to be a stay at home mom?

  • Oh I wish this was a possibility! I do have a friend who sells jewelry (I forget what brand, lia Sophia like) and she has really done very well with it. Enough that she could stay home with baby.
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  • I wish i could stay home we cant afford it either [-X need to hit the lottery wish me luck! Lol $-)
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    I didn't exactly leave my career but I did put nursing school on hold. 
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  • I am considering it.  My husband and I talked about it. I have been doing a little research into stay at home jobs.  I keep seeing ads for "medical coding - work from home".  Totally not in my field and i'm not sure how legit these ads are but i'm open to options.
  • I wish!! Me too I have my nursing school on hold

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  • I don't have a choice about it, the materials I work with aren't good to breathe in while pregnant and I can't get under and around vehicles pregnant. ): I don't know if you're very creative, but sewing has paid off tremendously for me. I'm a fiberglass sculptor on most days but during my last pregnancy and the months after delivery that I was unable to return to work, I sewed children's boutique clothing and sold them to boutique owners in my area. That's what I'll be doing again this pregnancy, and it definitely helped financially with the new baby.
  • I may stay home for a year (or at least half a year). Thanks to moving to an area where cost of living is substantially lower than where we used to live (the Bay Area in CA), so we saved up a lot of money that we didn't need for a house. 

    I don't think I want to (or could financially afford to) leave my career permanently, since I do really love teaching, but I've always dreamed of being a SAHM for that first year at least and would so love to be able to do that. 

    DH isn't 100% on board, but is open to the idea. We'll see when we get a little closer :)
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  • I am staying at home I took the summer off to spend with my daughter and found out I am pregnant so I am just gonna do the stay at home thing including home school for my 7 year old. I was lucky enough to stay home with her too at least for 2 years and I cherished it.

     

     

  • We're thinking about it. I'd love to for just a couple years!
  • I was a SAHM mom for almost a year (over 11 months)... I would love t do it again but I went a little stir crazy last time. Also, DH work slows down A LOT in winter.
  • I did it. I left a very successful career in HR/IT.  I was making a load of money but I was miserable... project after project as I got promoted I felt "old" and resentful for what I was missing out. It took me 2 1/2 years to make it happen (sold a condo and DH had to change industry). It is tight and it is definitely a big lifestyle change,  but we will never look back. (ps: I opened my own little company online and that is helping also to keep the door open for later...)
  • I did with this baby so far best decision but I plan on going back when my baby is 6 to 8 months seeing how far I can push it. I would like a year ideally since this will be my last little baby :( . Hubby would like if I never go back but I didn't work hard to be a stay at home mom as rewarding as it maybe.
  • I've stayed home the past two years with my son as it allowed me to finish my masters. I got offered a really good job the day before my BFP. If love to keep staying home but we can't afford it anymore.
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  • I'm going to do it! I can't wait! DH has 6 months to find a full time gig. ;) honestly, he is looking forward to being the provider. I've had a job of some kind constantly since high school (over 10 years) and it would be really nice to get to focus on family rather than working in a traditional job. I will probably work in some fashion, but it will be minimal and it will be from home.

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  • That's the ultimate goal. At very least ill go part time after this one :)
  • I had to quit my job when my son was born due to him needing me for surgeries and doctor appointments. I plan on hopefully staying home till the new little one is at least a year. Can't spend like we use to but it is worth it. If you are crafty maybe you could open some sort of shop on etsy? Or host for things like candlelight, oragami owl, and Mary Kay.

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  • I'm quitting at Christmas.
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  • I have been a SAHM for seven years I will go back to work when this baby is 2 I am itching to get back into the work force, although I have loved staying home.
  • Technically I have a job and not a career which makes it so tempting to leave. I actually told my sister I'm considering resigning when the baby is born and then looking for a new job a few months later (or while I'm still there). As much as I'd like to we can't afford for just one of us to be working. I think I'll do a trial run of this Etsy thing and if I start to do well ill propose it to my boyfriend.
  • I want to stay home aprox. 2 years.
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    I never thought I wanted to be a stay at home mom because teaching is a pretty family friendly job to begin with and I get a little stir crazy on my breaks sometimes. However, now it's sounding really tempting. But alas, our student loans are killing us. DH has a decent job, but not decent enough to pay our combined almost $1000/month in student loans. Plus I'm going to start working on my master's part time which will add some more to those loans. Just not in the cards right now. :(
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  • We have a 23 month old and I took a 12 month mat leave (Canadian mom), then went back to work. I owed my employer 6 months of employment since I took their maternity benefits package. So I worked the 6 months and have been a SAHM mom since mid-March. Now that we are expecting our 2nd I have no plans to go back to work. I'm very fortunate and grateful that my husband's occupation allows for me to be at home.
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  • If we end up with only one baby, I will be going back to work. If twins are really in our future I will have to stay home and i have no idea how we will afford it. Unfortunately, we have no family around where we live and the cost of daycare for 2 newborns in NY wouldn't make it worth me working.

    And it sucks. I love my job, but would love to raise my kids. So frustrating.

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  • I would LOVE to be a SAHM.  I keeping asking DH but he refuses since he thinks we cant afford it right now.  I keep thinking of what I'll be missing out on by putting our baby in daycare or hiring a nanny and it kills me.  When #2 comes in a couple of years (wishful thinking) maybe I can stay home then.
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  • I've been a SAHM to my 2 kids for going on 3 years. I taught high school before DD came along. We had to live VERY frugally for the first two years while DH finished his medical training, but we both agreed that me staying home was a must for our family (We decided that before even getting married!). It is a gazillion times harder than teaching high school, but worth it to us. We are considering homeschooling as well.
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  • We could probably afford it, but I'd be concerned about "opting out" at this stage of my career. It's so hard to find a job in the first place, I can't imagine how hard it would be to job search after being out of the workforce for several years. I know it will be hard and day care will be expensive, but in the long run I think the right choice for me is to continue to build a career outside of the home. 
  • I stayed at home with my first two, I do photography but other than that am a SAHM and plan to stay that way now until this one is in kindergarten. Then I will look into a job in town. I was in nursing school and that didn't work out as far as my kids being taken care of when things got really busy with school so I had to quit. There aren't many options in our town for daycare, most are full and not that great, so we decided I'll continue to SAH

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  • I'm really tempted to be a SAHM because my husband will be getting dependent pay for me and that is pretty much the same amount of money we make now. I want to have some sit us down and do the math to see if we can live comfortably. I'm just scared if I stay in the military that I will have to deploy and leave my baby. I just don't think I have the strength to do that.
  • A lot of how-to magazine contributors are SAHMs. If you sew, even a little bit, and have original ideas, you can propose them to magazines like Sew News or Sew it All. You can get anywhere from $150-400/article. Best of luck everyone!
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  • I am a SAHM and am an ndependent Designer for Origami Owl. While Orogami.Owl pays some of the best commissions, I live in a pretty small town so it definately does not make as much for me as a salary would. However it does give me something to do every once in a while and lets me have adult conversation. I honestly think direct sales is a very difficult field to make a decent amount of money in. You have to be very dedicated to make it work. If you really want to SAH start budegting, couponing, paying.off any bills, and then see what kind of financial situation you are left in.
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  • I am having the same problem, wanting to be a sahm but not quite able to afford it totally. I am trying to get a job in the marketing department with a company who says I can work full time till the baby comes and then after some time off go to part-time, mostly at home, some at the office. A lot of companies need part time graphic designers, or you could be an appointment setter. Good luck!
  • I've been a SAHM for six years, with a little bit of part-time work here and there, and I love being able to do both.  I wouldn't trade being with my kids for anything, but I love being able to get out and interact and earn a bit of play money.  :)

  • I will be staying home after the baby comes. I love teaching, and have been happily teaching for 7 years, but our plan is for me to stay home at least until our kids are in school full time. We're fortunate that my husband's business is doing well enough for us to lose my income... hopefully it will stay that way!
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