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How can I NOT tell co-workers today

smmr06smmr06
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I'm only 6 weeks and today my dept (consist of 4 girls) is going out for "drinks and apps" after work to exchange our gifts.

We are going to a restaurant and getting a table. I'd rather not tell anyone because i'm so early and have had 2 previous miscarriages. Plus one girl in my dept has been trying to get pregnant for months- and i dont want to hurt her feelings.

Is there any way to avoid telling them? I'm usually the first one to go out for a drink- so it will be weird if i didnt order a wine! Help

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  • anniemh20anniemh20 member
    Tell them you would be happy to join them, but are on some medication for something and can't drink with it right now.  OR, perhaps you need to go somewhere afterwards and just dont want to drink beforehand.
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  • tams148tams148
    You could try the old "I'm on antibiotics" trick, or order a cranberry/tonic or something that looks like a drink. That one worked for me, but I was in a big group and no one was really paying attention anyway. Good luck!
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  • FutureGosnellFutureGosnell

    Some good suggestions I have heard before are:

    * I am on medication I cannot mix with alcohol.

    * Are the roads bad? Say you really don't want to have even one drink and drive on potentially slick roads.

    * You have a headache.

    * Get there early and order a mocktail directly from the bar, maybe even clue your watress in.

    * Say nothing at all and let them wonder.

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  • MrsRoehl_2008MrsRoehl_2008
    Try to get there early, order a soda water with lime directly at the bar before going to a table (make sure they put it in a cocktail glass, not a soda glass) and sip on that slowly.  Cut out a little early to avoid having to order a second beverage. 
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  • BrookeAnnBrookeAnn

    I was on a softball team and we went for drinks after every game this summer so the trick that worked for me was the I'm on medication. I never told them what it was for....since it took us so long to get pg and had the m/c, most assumed it was for fertility and didn't ask any questions....the antibiotics works wonders too .  if they ask for what just say that you have an infection....most of the time they stop there.  I also used the whole, drink that really isn't a drink trick.  I ordered orange juice with ice and a straw and made it look like a screw driver.  Or when you first get there tell the bartender or waiter that what ever you order make sure it is a virgin drink and make sure you give them a tip. 

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  • txbabs111txbabs111 member

    Whenever someone says they're not drinking because they are on antibiotics, I automatically assume they are lying. I have never actually known someone who didn't drink for that reason. Maybe all my friends are drunks.

     I say go with a fake drink, say that you are trying or tell them you have to be somewher afterwards that would make it a bad idea for you to drink.

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  • salsa_wifeysalsa_wifey member

    I had a similar situation and faked a migrane headache and said I felt like I was going to throw up so I just drank Sprite.  It went well.

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    My friend worked in a daycare and she tested positive for the TB antibodies but didn't actually have TB.  The meds she had to be on for 9 months she couldn't drink while taking them.  Sucks, but she did it.  Honestly, at first when she said she couln't drink for 9 months I thought she was pregnant and then it only turned out to be meds for real!!!
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