WWYD?

EKGibs · August 2013

My DH is always asking what I want for Christmas, birthday, etc. I mentioned that I would like to have a charm bracelet and I even showed him the European style which is what I really wanted. They are so easy to add to, I really don't like dangly bracelets & there are tons of cute charms.

Long story short, he gave me my birthday present early (it's in October) & it's a normal charm bracelet. It is really sweet because it has the birthstones of my niece, my three nephews, & our angel baby. It's going to be really hard to add to it & of course the charms dangle. He was so proud of himself so I hate to say anything.

Would you say something? The place he bought it from has a 30 day return policy so if I'm going to ask to exchange I need to do it soon. I just really, really don't want to hurt his feelings.

MommaAshley12 · August 2013

Aw that's tough....I don't know what I would do. If you think you won't wear it very much maybe you could tell him that you really won't wear that one, because it jingles and snags your clothes?? If you say it sweetly maybe his feelings won't be hurt. Then let him go with you to exchange and pick out the new bracelet and charms.

good luck!!

MsAmandaPants · August 2013

Awwww. I don't think I would have the heart to say anything.

KingLED · August 2013

I don't think I would be able to say anything. But if you don't think he would be offended, you may as well tell him. I think it would more depend on how you think he would react. If it's going to hurt him, don't do it. If he wouldn't care, tell him.

KMW08 · August 2013

I would keep it and not say anything. If you know you aren't going to wear it a lot due to the dangle charms, I would plan on wearing it for special occasions. I know that it means a lot to you for him to give you this gift but you might give him warning that you won't be wearing it all the time because of the dangles. I bet he would understand

Eliz77 · August 2013

You know your DH better than we do. I know there were a few things over the years my H bought me that wasn't really my taste. The things that I had requested that weren't exactly right (as is your situation), he was much more understandable about why I wanted to exchange. I know if I were in his shoes, I'd rather you be honest with me and then we go out and get the right thing. I think if it was a spontaneous buy, I could see him hurt, but since you asked for something specific...

On the other hand, you may grow to like it! I remember one time I was talking about how I wanted a silver, clunky watch with a big face. He got me a very expensive, dainty watch. At 1st I wasn't sure, but I grew to love it and now when I pull it out when we get dressed up, I'm glad I kept it.

Tricky situation, that's for sure!

carlsonbaby2014 · August 2013

Aww - if it were me, I think his excitement would only add to its charm, so I'd keep it.

SandSunBliss · August 2013

I would probably keep it and learn to love it. Just remember his excitement in picking it out. If you really want a change, I had the same idea as mlal about mentioning that it just wasn't functional for our job or lifestyle to have the dangles and hint at the one without dangles.... GL!!

LaRomana09 · August 2013

mlal78 said:

Oh man, that is a hard one EK. Could you wear it around him a couple of times so he sees you with it on, then mention that it keeps getting snagged and you are afraid it might break? That may ease in to a conversation about looking for a different style.

I don't know that I would bring it up out of the blue though, I know my dh would be hurt is I hinted that I didn't like it.

I think this is a really good idea. I feel like your intention is for this bracelet to be something really special that you wear often, and if it's not going to be that, then I would lean toward saying something in a very gentle way.

EKGibs · August 2013

Veganlady said:

Ugh, this is so tough. Since he got it early and was so proud, I might have a hard time telling him I don't like it.

My DH knows he sucks at picking out stuff like that, so if I told him he got the wrong bracelet he'd just be like "of course I did WTF do I know about bracelets? I need to go to the garage now." If yours isn't like that, maybe just keep it.

Was it expensive?

It was about $40. I know because I saw it on our online banking. I think I'm going to take everyone's advice & keep it. I couldn't bear hurting his feelings over something like a bracelet.

MrsWallick · August 2013

Awww I don't think I could tell him. I'm glad you're keeping the bracelet but it is definitely a difficult situation. Maybe in a few months or years ask for an upgrade. My friend did that with her wedding ring. After 5 years of marriage she told him that she deserved an upgrade haha.

ashtonblair123 · August 2013

I wouldn't tell him. My husband is always unsure of his gift giving though so if he was proud I would just let him be proud.

EKGibs · August 2013

Thanks for all the advice, ladies! I think I'm going to keep it. I'll just have to wait a little longer for the other one

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Began trying for a baby January 2012BFP 4.25.2013 EDD 1.3.2014 MMC 6.3.2013 D&C 6.19.2013BFP 11.3.2013 CP 11.6.2013BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014

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