I know I'm getting post-happy with y'all. Bear with me because I promise it will slow down. One thing I've had anxiety over with giving my baby up is not breast-feeding.I know that many babies are solely formula feed and are so amazingly healthy, but I can't deny that there ARE benefits to breast milk. I've actually thought about pumping milk for the first few weeks and getting that to the adoptive parents, but I don't know if that is completely insane and if it's ever been done before. Thoughts?
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Re: Anyone heard of a birth mom pumping breast-milk?
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I briefly considered breast feeding my birthson and pumping but when I brought it up to my Dr. she acted as though it was an absolutely crazy idea so I dropped it. I wish I had pumped. I would of loved to of given that to my birthson, if his mom was ok with it. And if she was not, i like the idea of donating! And it would of really helped with the painful engorgement to slowly wean from a pump. FYI cabbage leaves just make you look funny with them stuffed in your bra. LOL. They don't help!
I don't think it is insane at all. As PP have said, there are some prospective adoptive parents who would LOVE to have this offer. Some PAPs may hesitate to ask about it, so initiating the conversation is probably a good idea.
Started TTC July 2012. Missed m/c & d&c 9/12 11w. Natural m/c 1/13 6w. Chemical pgs 3/13 & 8/13 around 4w. Currently TTA while saving for adoption.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller
We have had a baby placed with us now for the past month, and one of the things that was super important to his mom was that she pump and provide milk for us. And she has been. It's been amazing. She exclusively nursed him in the hospital, I've done adoptive breastfeeding with a supplemental nursing system and her breast milk since I've had him home and we also bottle feed him with pumped milk. It's amazing. And it is important to her because she feels like it's something that she can give the baby. She also nurses him occasionally when we hang out.
We have seen each other frequently enough, and her supply is strong enough that we pick up milk whenever we spend time together. The longest we've gone without seeing each other has been 8 days. So- unless you can find an intermediary, it might mean a lot of heavy contact with the adoptive family (with or without the baby) in the first few weeks--- you are probably going to feel exhausted physically and I'm sure emotionally things might be challenging as well should you decide to place---so be certain you have a good support system in place for what you need.
As an adoptive mom, I'm utterly grateful and thrilled that our baby's mom pumps for us. I think we're going through 6 months with the pumping...