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rachaelT28rachaelT28 member
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So as many of you know my husband decided he did not like being a husband and father when I was 12 weeks along, we have two going on three children together. Anyway at first he was super mean, then he went to tolerant. He's been on this lets be friends kick for quite a while then he started asking for sex. He still has his girlfriend and two of her three children living in our home. Anyway, the other day he starts telling me that now he is cheating on his live in with a bunch of women he meets at work, and that his girlfriend thinks hes faithful. I got grossed out, hes 37 for crying out loud and has five kids between two women! Well I have decided after his little tell all session that next month I am filing for divorce and finishing this mess. I mentioned this to him and he got so angry, telling me that I must want a divorce because I am hot to marry some other man. WTH??!! I am 31 weeks pregnant with our baby, when would I be dating let alone getting married??! Why is he doing this? I am so hormonal, because I am high risk I could deliver at any minute, I am usually left confused and so hurt after any discussion we have. Do any of you kind ladies have any experience with this?
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  • mamaHippo23mamaHippo23 member
    If my ex ever made comments like that to me after cheating and sleeping around, I would just say "Okay, whatever", calmly shut the door in his face, and drive straight to the lawyer's office. No need to get dramatic or even acknowledge his opinions. He's just trying to poke at you and make you feel out of control. You've already decided to divorce, so besides discussing custody arrangements, there's no need to even engage him in personal conversation anymore. You are moving on and he has no say in your life anymore.
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  • tig594tig594 member
    edited August 2013
    mamaHippo23 said:
    If my ex ever made comments like that to me after cheating and sleeping around, I would just say "Okay, whatever", calmly shut the door in his face, and drive straight to the lawyer's office. No need to get dramatic or even acknowledge his opinions. He's just trying to poke at you and make you feel out of controThis.l. You've already decided to divorce, so besides discussing custody arrangements, there's no need to even engage him in personal conversation anThis!ymore. You are moving on and he has no say in your life anymore.
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    I agree with mamahippo also.  Being a child of divorce, the one thing I am happy about is that my parents never fought in front of me and my siblings.  We knew there were problems between our parents but that was it.  If he does this to you, especially if its in front of your children, it's very damaging. The best thing to do is what mamahippo said.
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  • bullybuttbullybutt member

    Why the hell is he, his girlfriend and her 2 boogerpickers living in YOUR home?  Why have you not filed for a divorce sooner?  Are you thinking that he's going to change and go back to playing "husband" again?

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  • rachaelT28rachaelT28 member
    No I don't think he will change, I had to wait to have money to file and I will have it in two weeks. That's when I am filing and moving on with my life for me and my sons.
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