Do you think you're nice?

melody921 · August 2013

I always thought I was a nice person. I try to be considerate of others. I'm compassionate and truly care about what family/friends/even a lot of strangers are going through. But quite often, people seriously piss me off or just ask for me to silently ridicule them. So it makes me wonder if perhaps I'm not actually that nice after all. This should be my early UO. Maybe I need to try to be a softer version of myself.

jenmbott · August 2013

I think I'm nice but people that don't know me well think I'm bitchy. It is bc I'm shy and am terrible at small talk so I give one word responses and the conversation ends awkwardly haha. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and feel comfortable saying things.

danabsd · August 2013

jenmbott said:

I think I'm nice but people that don't know me well think I'm bitchy. It is bc I'm shy and am terrible at small talk so I give one word responses and the conversation ends awkwardly haha. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and feel comfortable saying things.

This is EXACTLY what I came into say. EXACTLY.

bosha711 · August 2013

I always start off nice, but it only takes one small thing to turn me into a bitch toward someone & I will hold a grudge forever.

watercolor5 · August 2013

jenmbott said:

I think I'm nice but people that don't know me well think I'm bitchy. It is bc I'm shy and am terrible at small talk so I give one word responses and the conversation ends awkwardly haha. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and feel comfortable saying things.

I'm shy and introverted, but people tend to just use my quietness to assume I'm nice. I don't consider myself to be particularly nice, and I have to work at it to be warm to people I don't know. Of course I'm nice to family and friends, but I don't think that really counts...

mrsbhk22 · August 2013

I am a nice person, unless you attack someone in my family or a super close friend. Then the crazy Irish comes out in me if I feel like you are testing my loyalty.

IRL: I'm rarely confrontational. I guess here in the past sometimes I've typed things may come off wrong (short or condescending) but I'm not one to be bitchy just because I can (not that I don't appreciate that trait in others).

ETA: I'm also incapable of saying no. Our family schedule is always crammed full because I just can't say no when people ask for something.

hmp1 · August 2013

I think I am nice but I am also probably a little cold or seem that way because I am shy. I will offer anything I have to someone but I know I don't compliment people enough. Like the other day we were at this festival thing and a woman next to me was wearing a gorgeous dress. I wanted to tell her how much I loved it but felt so awkward starting a conversation with a stranger.

bosha711 · August 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

I think I'm nice but sarcastic, which sometimes translates to bitch.

I am probably 90% sarcasm & MH HATES, I means HATES it. I tell him he just doesn't know how to take a joke, lol.

I will never forget my high school art teacher telling me I was "delightfully sardonic". After I went home & looked up what sardonic meant, I chose to take it as a compliment.

tinyhumantoe · August 2013

I'm nice but a bit of a pushover.

jenndub · August 2013

I'm nice. Until I'm not nice. And then I'm really not nice.

I'm mostly just sarcastic and have a low tolerance for bullshit. But I'm very caring and will do anything for people until they shit on me. And then they're dead to me.

melody921 · August 2013

danabsd said:

jenmbott said:

I think I'm nice but people that don't know me well think I'm bitchy. It is bc I'm shy and am terrible at small talk so I give one word responses and the conversation ends awkwardly haha. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and feel comfortable saying things.

This is EXACTLY what I came into say. EXACTLY.

Yes, for years people thought I was unfriendly or aloof when I was really just kind of shy. Then, I got better about starting/continuing conversations, but somehow also started getting an edge, lol. I feel like I traded one thing for another.

BeebopandBuddy · August 2013

Nice, yes. Friendly, no. My bleeding heart gets me into helping people all the time that give little to nothing back. However, to establish a friendship, I require some give back and I find people largely disappoint me in that respect.

BPer · August 2013

LoisLayn23 said:

I think I'm nice but sarcastic, which sometimes translates to bitch.

This. And H's family never seems to 'get' my sarcasm. I think I make MIL uncomfortable.

BPer · August 2013

mathlete said:

Also, terrible at small talk.

I should just wear a shirt that announces that I'm a math major. It totally explains my awkwardness.

I am terrible at small talk because I really just hate it. I'd be more comfortable sitting next to someone in silence than being all 'Oh, how are the wife and kids? Attending college in the fall? Great.'

MRoxy0628 · August 2013

Yes, but not when I'm driving. Like others, I think I can come across snobby when in new situations or big groups, but once I feel comfortable, I'm friendly.

hmp1 · August 2013

mathlete said:

Also, terrible at small talk.

I should just wear a shirt that announces that I'm a math major. It totally explains my awkwardness.

I feel like if we ever manage a GTG, we will just stare at our kids the entire time since we both seem to be terrible with small talk. :-SS

jayja2007 · August 2013

I'm shy but nice to strangers. Once I get comfortable with people I get a little mean (as in not watching what I say) but not on purpose. I say 'no' to my family a lot BC they think I'm too nice but they turn around and call me mean. It's confusing

redneckmomma25 · August 2013

Depends on who you are. I wear my emotions on my sleeve. When I don't like you, you know it. When I am grumpy/pissy/aggravated/frustrated, you know it. If I know you and like you, I will bend over backwards and give you the shirt off my back. I am nice to people I just meet and or don't know. For the most part. Unless you catch me on a bad day. Maybe I am not a nice person.

AKB090609 · August 2013

I'm blunt. That often comes across as mean, it's not. I am nice, to the people and in the situations that matter.

bosha711 · August 2013

mathlete said:

bosha711 said:

I always start off nice, but it only takes one small thing to turn me into a bitch toward someone & I will hold a grudge forever.

I will forever remember "bitches get stitches"

bwahaha. Words to live by, no?

linzeek44 · August 2013

I think I'm nice but I'm a know-it-all, and that can be annoying.

jenmbott · August 2013

BPer said:

LoisLayn23 said:

I think I'm nice but sarcastic, which sometimes translates to bitch.

This. And H's family never seems to 'get' my sarcasm. I think I make MIL uncomfortable.

same here. DH likes to tell me that his mom thought I was bitch bc she didn't translate my sarcasm to me joking around. She knows me now though

pharmer78 · August 2013

I definitely think I'm a nice person. I make an effort to be. I think you can either be a jerk and add negativity to someone else's day, or be decent and pleasant. Don't get me wrong, this kitten's got claws when need be, but I try to be positive for the most part.

LyndseylovesHugh · August 2013

jenmbott said:

I think I'm nice but people that don't know me well think I'm bitchy. It is bc I'm shy and am terrible at small talk so I give one word responses and the conversation ends awkwardly haha. It takes me a long time to warm up to people and feel comfortable saying things.

This is my H. People often think he is an ass because he has a hard time in groups where he does not know people. But once you get to know him you realize its just that he is shy.

I think I am a nice person, people tell me I am nice and I try to be polite and considerate. I am not shy at all and will chat with anyone, so I think that makes me come across as nice. I am even nice to people that bug the shit out of me, my H says that I am very political because I am good at the superficial nice stuff, ha.

fireflygirl12 · August 2013

I'm definitely nice with all of my friends and it takes a million screw ups before I write someone off. I always give people the benefit of the doubt and forgive too easily. I'm also super chatty and friendly with strangers, but I'm in sales so I usually have a motive

icedcoffeeluv · August 2013

jenndub said:

I'm nice. Until I'm not nice. And then I'm really not nice.

I'm mostly just sarcastic and have a low tolerance for bullshit. But I'm very caring and will do anything for people until they shit on me. And then they're dead to me.

This is pretty much me too!

Flamingemu · August 2013

No. I am not nice. I am a judgey, blunt, low-tolerance for crap, NJ hothead.

That said, I play nice with most people while my eyes are trying not to roll themselves out of my head. My MIL told me that having a child has softened me, so maybe I am getting nice for real, or better at faking it around her - idk.

I also love the shit out of my family and friends. And would do anything for them. I am uncomfortable around the homeless people in the city because I want to feed them all and take them to my house to live. I have bought extra sandwiches, but not taken anyone home, ha!

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