Missing pregnancy?

eandk18 · August 2013

Is this normal? My girls are almost 2 weeks old, healthy and beautiful. But a part of me misses being pregnant. I'm less than 5 lbs away from my pre-pregnancy weight and while that feels pretty good, I also feel like I'm so far away from my pregnancy. I don't know...maybe it's just my hormones? Maybe it's because I went through 4 years of infertility and wanted so badly to be pregnant? I was just so miserable for the last month, I can't believe I feel this way right now! Hoping this feeling passes. I'm already talking about a third, I feel like a crazy person!!!

JTA2426 · August 2013

I have 9 week olds and am still so thrilled to NOT be pregnant and uncomfortable and miserable anymore. I'm sleeping more now than I was when I was pregnant! But I'm already thinking about a third, too. I love having babies and its killing me how fast their infancy is flying by.

JAck5209 · August 2013

I felt the same way after my daughter was born. I loved being pregnant! I know it's going to be even worse this time because I know it'll be my last. I think the feeling is heightened because of the postpartum hormones so hopefully they will die down soon and you'll start to feel normal. GL!

aliwisewoman · August 2013

I think it is normal for some women. If it begins to feel overwhelming or unbearable, I would mention it to your doc. It could be post-partum depression. It is very common and not something you should feel ashamed about, if that's what it is. Just be aware. It can escalate quickly and it's all related to hormones. My sister and a couple of close friends have been through this. I am lucky, I feel euphoric after having a baby. I am so excited and relieved to not be pregnant anymore! Haha! I have another 5-8 weeks and I am so happy that I will never be pregnant again! But, these two little munchkins are number 3 and 4. So, it isn't a surprise that we will be done having babies. I know somewhere down the line I'll have a pang or two of disappoint or sadness, but not anytime soon!

TheDairyQueenx3 · August 2013

I did the same with my son it took me almost three years to get over and as soon as I did we got pregnant with these two

I know I will go through that all over again once the boys are here. We too had years of infertility and 3 losses so maybe that had something to do with it but it is very common. Just enjoy the infant stage while that lasts because that first year seems like a week and I think that was even harder than missing pregnancy!

lwatkins12 · August 2013

I didn't enjoy or miss being pregnant 19 years ago and haven't enjoyed being pregnant this time either. I'm definitely not one to say I love being pregnant. I can't wait to feel like myself again and be able to run and not feel like a giant roly poly!

mamatotwins0812 · August 2013

I felt the exact same way. Part of it for me was knowing they were safe and secure inside of me, and once they were in the world I missed that "intimacy" that we shared. Despite lots of issues, I loved being pregnant and miss it every day.

bumpuser924057 · August 2013

I felt that way with my first baby. With this pregnancy, I was happy to say that I'd never be doing that again. It does make me a little sad to see how quickly they're growing up, though, and knowing that as each stage passes it's definintely the last time.

Ruthie04 · August 2013

I felt the same way. I had focused on getting pregnant for so long, I didn't know how to enjoy not being pregnant. I also felt beautiful during my pregnancy and my post partum body is such a mess. However, I am nearly one year pp and I no longer miss being pregnant. The IF feelings are still very much with me, but I'm glad that I don't feel sick and that in able to pick up and play with my boys without a big belly in the way.

pinkmickey24 · August 2013

My boys are three months and I still miss being pregnant. I'd say your not a lone.

kari.sandall · August 2013

Four months here and I still miss it. But it took us 3 years of IF to get these beautiful babies and I don't know if I'll ever get to be pregnant again.

kbeach82 · August 2013

As physically demanding as my pregnancies became toward the end (especially my twin pregnancy), I missed being pregnant shortly after giving birth both times. I didn't miss the aches and pains, etc. obviously, but I very much missed the feeling of my babies moving inside of me and knowing that my body was doing something absolutely amazing. DH and I always wanted 3 kids, even before IF and all of that, and that idea always went along with 3 pregnancies for me. Since my last pregnancy brought us the twins, I will most likely never get to experience it again and that makes me sad. I just try to focus on my 3 healthy, beautiful children and how proud I am to be their mommy.

eandk18 · August 2013

Thank you all! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one and this can be "normal." I think it may have to do with my delivery, too. I had to go under general anthethesia due to breathing problems so I was not awake when my girls were born and couldn't hold them for hours later. I was so looking forward to hearing their first cries and how I would feel seeing them the first time.

I'm sure the sleep deprivation isn't helping either

PurrCrasher · August 2013

I feel very similar to MrsLee. I LOVED my pregnancy, it was beautiful and perfect and felt like it was over in a flash. I don't think we'll have any more and it makes me miss it that much more because I only ever got to experience it once. It's either totally normal to feel this way or I'm totally crazy.

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