To share or not to share- the name.

ToBeMrsC6907 · December 2008

So DH and I have our baby boy's name decided- it's Russell Cole. Previously we had planned on keeping it a secret/surprise until after he's born, but now we find ourselves referring to him by name and I'm wondering if we should just tell everyone now since we are 100% decided. My only concerns are getting negative comments/reactions or alternate suggestions, although really- I'm pretty independent-minded and could give a rat's asss what someone else thinks.

Anyone have experience with this, either positive or negative to share?

LovesGreenBay · December 2008

We do not share. We do NOT want to hear the negative opinions of a name we LOVE. And it's pretty unlikly that anyone will give you an opinion of his name when you are calling to tell them he is here. JMO.

And Russell Cole is SO cute!!!!

coachiek · December 2008

Our initial plan is to keep it a secret (as of now we haven't decided between Abigail, Allegra or Natalie) but I think it will be hard. I really want to keep it quiet though because I don't want every jerk in the world's opinion on it.

heyyohe · December 2008

So, we shared our names with Dh's family. Big mistake.

We like Liam Sean for a boy, and Isla James for a girl...we also have several other girl names sans middle names...like Olive, and Audrey...

Basically, my MIL said we picked stupid names and I should consider naming my child Nathan or Jonathan or Mary. So, apparently she had her own ideas ahead of time.

However, other people are more supportive. It's up t you, but prepeare for alot of shrugging off of bad comments.

brandistrionfo@gmail.com · December 2008

we haven't kept it a secret, because we don't really care what people think, we love the name.

And Russell Cole is fantastic!

Covergirl137 · December 2008

We are not telling. I had contemplated it, until I received an unsolicited email from MIL telling me which names were and were not acceptable. Why were said names unacceptable you ask? Just because she REALLY doesn't like them. I already know she is going to hate the name we have picked out for DD, so I'm just making it easier on myself, and waiting it out.

lkaylee721 · December 2008

1- I LOVE the name and 2- if you are 100% decided adn love the name than who cares what people think? I had to tell my mom to keep her opinions to herself and she already had her chance to name people 3 times. If you share just hold your ground and say this is it and there's no changing it.

ToBeMrsC6907 · December 2008

Funny- my MIL is my main concern as well, and I can't tell everyone BUT my MIL...so maybe we'll try to hold out and keep in between us 2.

Keep the responses coming!

amberwc · December 2008

We're keeping it all a surprise, from the sex to the name. I figure it's all subject to change once we meet the rugrat. I can just see us saying , "Wait you don't look like X." and changing the name on the spot.

LovesGreenBay · December 2008

Covergirl137:
We are not telling. I had contemplated it, until I received an unsolicited email from MIL telling me which names were and were not acceptable. Why were said names unacceptable you ask? Just because she REALLY doesn't like them. I already know she is going to hate the name we have picked out for DD, so I'm just making it easier on myself, and waiting it out.

SHE DID NOT??? OMG! I would have killed my MIL! What did you say to her?

JamieNIan · December 2008

If you really don't care of negative comments and are independent, then if you want to share, go ahead. We also refer to baby by name now and only tell when asked. There are a couple people who I KNOW will have negative comments, and I just tell them that we haven't picked a name yet.

lglastorl · December 2008

I love the name Cole! I wanted it as a first name, but I haven't gotten DH on board for that one. He prefers Caleb or Joshua, which are fine. The ILs like those names too, but MIL definitely did not like Cole. (I'm a Cole Porter fan, so I've always loved that name.) Anyway, we'll pick what we like for a girl or boy, and go with it, despite negative comments. It's just sad people can't be happy for you all around instead of picking on a name.

VintageSpirit · December 2008

We will share the baby's name when the ink has completely dried on the birth certificate.

GeminA1 · December 2008

I can see both sides, but we are not sharing

#1 I want something to be a surprise

AND

#2 I don't want anyone's opinions in my mind

itskacie · December 2008

First, Russell Cole is a very good name! I love it! Cole is on our list as a first name...

Second, I think you guys should keep it a secret. We have compromised with our families and have decided that we will tell them the sex of the baby when we find out but thats it. We are keeping the name to ourselves. We dont want any opinions or "why did you choose that?" We want that to be something that we have special between our new little family until the little guy (or girl) makes its debut in the world. I think everyone will be so excited to meet them that they wont react to the name.

AlliVe · December 2008

I would recommend from first hand experience not sharing. We shared our name and it has gotten some neg reviews. I can handle it but I think it bothers DH.

I like your name , but keep in mind some people just SUCK.

Covergirl137 · December 2008

LovesGreenBay:

Covergirl137:
We are not telling. I had contemplated it, until I received an unsolicited email from MIL telling me which names were and were not acceptable. Why were said names unacceptable you ask? Just because she REALLY doesn't like them. I already know she is going to hate the name we have picked out for DD, so I'm just making it easier on myself, and waiting it out.

SHE DID NOT??? OMG! I would have killed my MIL! What did you say to her?

Nothing *hides tail between legs*. I told DH about it, and he said, "If we wanted to name our daughter Emma (which was the BIG NO NO name) we would namer her Emma". It wasn't worth saying anything to her about it, just because that's how she is.

It's not so much that we care what other people think of the name choice, more just that I don't want to hear about it. We will name her what WE want, but I don't wanna have to start calling family members twatwaffles to their faces, so it's just easier to not tell til she is here.

Maershy · December 2008

We were going to keep it a secret, but so many people have asked that we gave up. I told my dad in Indiana last week and my grandmother in Florida called last night to tell us how much she loved the name. I didn't realize so many people are into what we name our son! So his first name will be Grady, but we don't have a middle name yet.

Coley645 · December 2008

We are saying we'll keep it a secret because we have some very opinionated family members.. I've already had DH's crazy aunt tell me what names that she and her daughter do not like.. like they will be involved in the decision or something.. I think not!! but it might be hard to keep it a secret once we find out gender and decide on the name.. We are set with our boys name - Calvin Daniel, so if it's a boy, it'll be hard to not start calling the baby by name..

Sonya Flanagan · December 2008

theres always something to be said about everyones names. It's the parents personal choice and if you're that stupid and insensitive you're going to make a comment, you deserve to be slapped. That's what I told someone about our names. I will even help you!

rouge411 · December 2008

Everyone likes our names (or at least pretended to like them). However, both the boy name and the girl name have meaning to our families!

JGM281207 · December 2008

First of all, I love the name, so cute. We aren't going to share, I don't want to hear the feedback from others, and it's kind of a neat secret to share with dh.

natnwayne · December 2008

I don't think I want to share. We're already telling everyone EVERYTHING (we have a baby blog), including the sex so this would be the one surprise they'd get. But, we've slipped a few times and told friends names we like, so I think we need to sit down here before the holidays and make a firm decision, are we going to share or not, and stick to it! I'm guessing I'll win Stick out tongue

Teddyswife · December 2008

I have no problem sharing our names because they have a lot of meaning to both DH and I. If anyone doesn't liek it, I really don't care becasue it is my kid, and I will be the one seeing MY kid daily, so really they need to take the stick outta their as*. We picked our names after family members, so both sets of parents are thrilled, everyone else doesn't really matter in my book.

tmp-493670500007520 · December 2008

Not sharing....

we wanted something private between us... and we're tired of people overanalyzing baby names.... people feel like it matters what THEY think.

librarianlisa · December 2008

I wish we had decided to keep our mouths shut. Initially I had DH liking the name Lola (which I love), but when he shared it with his mom, he came back immediately and suddenly didn't like it. Finally I got it out of him that MIL didn't like it. (Who cares that MY mom thought it was adorable? And that we've already committed to using MIL's name as a second name if it's a girl? ) So then, after much discussion, I agreed to Miriam, which DH loves. But no one has been enthusiastic when we've shared the name, and it started to bother DH, so now he's second guessing it. It's all so frustrating.

nuttybunch · December 2008

I talked about baby names with my SsIL before I got pregnant, so when it happened, they already knew. I wish we wouldn't have done that now, though. We don't know the sex and won't find out, so they won't know either way until the baby is here.

If you CAN wait, I think it's fun to wait. I have had negative reviews on my girl names (Stella and Nina), but I don't care. It bothered me at first, but it doesn't any more.

It's not necessarily about the reviews you get. It's about what's fun for you and DH. Do you want the surprise? If one of you accidentally slips, would you be mad? If you wouldbe mad, maybe it's better to tell people in a planned way than accidentally. Or would you rather not have the surprise and have people talk about your names now?

I love hearing people say, "Oh! I LOVE that name!!!" So it's ok, but I don't like when they don't like the names. We're naming our baby that, so stop telling me you hate it.

2bejunebride06 · December 2008

We are not going to share. DH says that our daughter should be the first one to know her name, plus I think he wants to see her first before absolutely deciding on a name. For me, it is more that I don't want to hear the comments on the names that we pick out. DH and I have both agreed that we don't want a traditional girls name and I haven't gotten a great response to the two or three names that I have decided to share with people. For example, I love the name Allegra, but everyone feels the need to tell me that it is the name of a sinus medication. We also like Delaney, but our friends point out that it is similar to the name of a bar that we all went to a million and a half years ago that is now closed down. No matter what we pick no one seems to like it, so now we just aren't going to share anymore.

2bejunebride06 · December 2008

By the way, I think the name you picked is very cute!

KatGapp · December 2008

We have shared, but said that we are not 100% for sure. One, everyone knows I'm such a planner and would probably be shocked if I said I didn't have anything picked out. But right now, it is something just for us. I don't want any gifts or anything with his proposed name.

eayode · December 2008

We will not be sharing her name. We're pretty much set on her name at this point and I don't need to hear people's opinions about it. They can wait to fall in love with her and her name when she's born.

Roothie427 · December 2008

I just don't care what people think so if someone asks me about the sex I just definitively say "we are having a little girl and her name is Sienna" If you say something like "we were thinking of..." or "we like the name..." then it leaves it open for them to state an opinion.

I have not gotten a lot of negative comments. The worst one would be my family making suggestions like "Have you thought of Lily as a middle name?" it is not negative really and it is just like they are trying to help so it does not bother me.

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