sad for mom on my month board

Re: sad for mom on my month board

• kcs7 member

  August 2013

  I think I agree with you and it is a little sad. Hope she is ok and happy with her baby now tho and is able to be ok with it at least...

  
  

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• spicysurro member

  August 2013

  I always get sad when I read those because I know it doesnt have to be that way. Hopefully she will have a quick recovery with her new little one.
  

  
  

  
  

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• aylafsu88 member

  August 2013

  I agree with you.  It is sad that an OB decided when a woman gets induced based on his/her schedule. I hope she is recovering well and enjoying her new beautiful baby.
  

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• sschwege member

  August 2013

  I honestly don't think anyone was flaming you, just pointing out to you that while there are risks to induction, there are also risks to continuing a pregnancy past a certain point.  Now where that magic number is, nobody really knows and even if they could figure out the tipping point it would vary from woman to woman and pregnancy to pregnancy.  As a MW once told me, the placenta is the only disposable organ, after awhile it does get old and starts to not work as well.  For my own comfort level I would not take a pregnancy beyond 42w.  My office strongly recommends the evening of 41w6d, which I would have gone along with because that's close enough for me.  There are some MWs who will be supportive of women going to 43w with appropriate monitoring, I've seen some on this board.  So it would be like if you posted something about saying you were scheduled for an induction at 42w, your comfort zone and someone chiming in with, "I'm surprised by all these OBs who recommend inductions at 42w, there are real risks to inductions."  Wouldn't that bother you?  Just trying to offer you a more objective perspective.  

  
  

  That being said, I would never agree to an induction for convenience and it makes my blood run cold when I hear women say, "My doctor won't LET me go past this date."  Sorry, this requires your consent and if you don't give it that's the end of it.  So I get what you are saying, truly, just wanted to say I don't think you were being flamed, they were just offering a different opinion.   

  
  

  
  

  
  
  
  
  
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• nodito member

  August 2013

  @sschwege Yeah, you're right.  I shouldn't have called it flaming. 

  

  
  

  
  

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• SweetPeaK26 member

  August 2013

  Not to be rude or snarky, but its women like this, who don't stand up for themselves, who complain and then make drs sound like horrible people. Should her dr have pushed? No. Did she have to go in for her induction? No.

  January 2009: Goodbye TR (13 weeks) February 2010: Welcome DD1! March 2011: Welcome DD2!

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• DebateThis member

  August 2013

  SweetPeaK26 said:

  Not to be rude or snarky, but its women like this, who don't stand up for themselves, who complain and then make drs sound like horrible people. Should her dr have pushed? No. Did she have to go in for her induction? No.

  How many women actually know that they have an option to decline, though? Especially when OB's start throwing around stats about placenta deterioration and dangers of waiting and it's pretty hard to know where/when/how much you can push back and not risk your LO's life. Not everyone has the ACOG guidelines on induction standards memorized or is even aware they exist.
  
  I didn't read the OP but I'm not down with blaming a pregnant woman (or any patient, for that matter) for complying with her doctor - the entire US has a problem with trusting our physicians without question + physicians thinking they call all the shots, which is a sad state of affairs.
  

  Six years of infertility and loss, four IUIs, one IVF and one very awesome little boy born via med-free birth 10.24.13.
  
  

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