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Is bed sharing creating a bad habit?

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I never intended to bed share with Elliott. I have always been worried about safety, etc. however, over the past week, his sleeping routine is making us all a little nutty. He sleeps fine from 8pm until about 2am, then forget it! So I've started bringing him into our bed, and he has been sleeping great til about 6 or 7 am. And to be honest, I'm starting to love it! But now that I'm past the safety issue, I'm worried that I'm creating a bad habit. For STM or people who have experience, how hard is it for LO to return to crib after bed sharing? I don't want to keep doing this, and I'm worried I'm going to end up with a toddler in my bed before too long!
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Re: Is bed sharing creating a bad habit?

  • Debbie0580Debbie0580 member
    edited August 2013
    We haven't bed shared much yet with DD, the odd time after her early morning feed I'll keep her in bed with us if she's having trouble falling asleep. With DS we did the same thing, but I feel like he was in there way more often. When he got older he needed us to lay with him to fall asleep. Once he was asleep we would move him to his crib. I thought we'd never get out if that habit, but around 11 months we sleep trained using the No Cry Sleep Solution and he was able to fall asleep on his own in his crib, but when he would wake in the middle of the night I would just bring him to bed instead of dealing with it. Now some nights he sleeps thru, some nights he still wakes up...but I don't mind when he comes to our bed. The toddler cuddles are rare so that's the only time I get them now. We were just gone for 4 nights where we had to share a bed with him. I worried when we got back we'd be in trouble but he's gone to bed on his own every night AND slept thru. So who knows!! I'm in the camp where you do what you need to get sleep.
    ETA: finish post!!! It posted before I was done.
    ETA2: I'm also in the camp where they won't go to college still needing to sleep in your bed, using a bottle/sucky/etc., being rocked, etc.
    Oh and I find DS sleeps much better since getting rid of his sucky. He often was waking up trying to find it in the middle of the night. But that's just a random observation.
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  • Kmape36Kmape36 member
    Agree with PP that you do what you can to survive. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Habits can be broken. My oldest slept great on her own in her crib until she was 2. Starting around 2 she came into our room at night. She's 5 and we still struggle with this. So my point is that we never bed shared when she was a baby but we are still battling sleep issues. So you just never know. Don't stress too much...go with what works.
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  • fireflyz56fireflyz56 member
    I bed shared with DD from 2 weeks to 3 months... she just slept so much better beside me. I was worried about how to break our "habit" as well, but she had no problems whatsoever transitioning to her crib in her own room at 3 months. I know it depends on the baby but I also don't think habits can be made this early in life. Do what works for your family.
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  • Kate_CKate_C member
    We did the same thing with my son Elliott (great name choice BTW). By 6 months he was in his crib. His sleep regressed for a week or two but he wasn't STTN yet anyhow and I wanted my space back. He didn't cry or have issues with the transition. He's still only a mediocre sleeper, but I think that's a personality thing unrelated to bed sharing. GL!
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  • MandmeeshMandmeesh member
    bed sharing helps us! It definitely makes a baby more connected to you and your own sleep helps regulate their sleep.  I don't think it creates a bad habit...you have to teach them to sleep in the crib at some point anyway.  I say, allow yourself and baby to sleep.  The extra snuggles are a nice bonus.  Transition when you're both ready
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  • danuli8danuli8 member
    We bedshared from about 3 weeks to about 3 months with pretty good results, but then he got very thrashy and no one was getting any sleep. I started him in the crib at the end of July and he sleeps there nicely at night (wakes up twice a night, but that is a big improvement over where we started). I was still bedsharing with him for naps until a week ago, and I enjoyed it, but I can't spend 4 hours during the day in bed! So we are working on getting all his naps in the crib right now as well.

    I agree with PP: do what you need to do to get some sleep and don't worry too much about habits just yet.
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  • ClandestineXClandestineX member
    I still bed-share. I put him in his Pack N' Play during naps though, I will transition him to his own crib when I am able to buy one for his room. I will probably sleep train (If I have to) in October or something. I am not worried about where he sleeps, he doesn't move around a lot and I have a big enough bed. I am worried about the way he needs to be put to sleep though.
     
     
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