A Sunday Vent

JMC11511 · August 2013

DH got some new video game Thursday night. He plays online with his other grown adult friends maybe once a week usually. Sometimes less frequently. But he got this new game and apparently it's the most awesome thing ever. I say this because he played until the wee hours of the morning Thursday night (he was off work on Friday). Then he played late Friday night, even though he knew he had to get up early on Saturday morning. I spent all day yesterday working on transcription and finally finished working for the night at 11 PM after starting at 4:30 AM. I assumed since H was tired he would be logical and go to bed at a reasonable hour. I went to bed at 11, and he assured me he would play for "a little bit." I have to be at church at 7 AM on Sundays, but got up at 3 to work on some more transcription. When I got up at three he was still playing. He said it was because he was waiting for my clothes which I had put in the wash before I went to bed to come out of the dryer. Except when I went to check them, they were still in the wash. He finally went to bed at 3:30. All I know is, he better still get up and take care of DS this morning. And I don't want to hear a single complaint about how tired he is all day. You choose to stay up and play a flipping video game for two nights straight? That's your bad. Anyone else want to join on this vent?

Arnegard · August 2013

My husband felt in until 9 yesterday because he was up late at a fantasy football draft Friday night. I was irked because I didn't get to go run before the heat and had emptied the dishwasher, dyed my hair and husked 6 dozen ears of corn before he did anything.

He also promised me a day to myself, which I did leave to go shopping but that was like 2 hours. Then I get to return to fix him dinner, do the dishes and fold laundry. Oh and to hear him whine how tired he is.

lightgetsin · August 2013

All I can say is that our husbands would get along very well.

lightgetsin · August 2013

My H does not play video games but he never gets enough sleep because he will stay up watching TV or on his laptop. I am always thinking "gee, I would like to stay up but our 3 year old gets up at 6, and 6 month old still sleeps in our room and nurses x2 at night", so I really can't afford to stay up because I will wake up grouchy (like he does every day). Also, if I do wake up grouchy I try to keep that to myself and not be a grouch to our kids, which he does not. I am always telling the older kids "dad is grouchy so give him a few minutes to wake up".

JMC11511 · August 2013

uscgirl1109 said:

CnAmom said:
I am so glad my H doesn't play video games. If he pulled that crap there would be words.
This.

See if this was like an ongoing thing that happened all the time, there would be an issue. Like I said, he typically only plays one night a week, if that, and that's while I am at Bible study. It's this new game...hopefully the novelty wears off soon...

notkateanymore · August 2013

I can't imagine having a grown husband who plays video games like a kid. I would lose my shit. Now, my husband keeps late hours...but he's working from home or out late due to a dinner mtg. If he was wasting all that time on things like video games, I would literally kill him i think.

jensriot · August 2013

Loppy19 said:

I don't understand how it is so hard to put things back where you got them. I organize the fridge every week, and every week he's just shoved everything in there. He even asked me to label it once. Uh, no?

This! And why is it so hard to throw away your own garbage? I just spent 20 minutes picking up little DH "puddles", little bits of trash he leaves behind (empty soda can, napkin, candy wrapper, etc) and putting things where they belong. He was with all three kids, so do I complain? Not this time.

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

DH also plays video games for a couple hours like once a week as do I. I used to be really bad about it, to where I would play all day. I would play WoW into the morning and still go to school or work that day. I just never slept. Skyrim was definitely a life sucker. One of my houses in that game looks like it belongs to a hoarder. Now I obviously do not have time, but I also get bored.

Andrewsgal · August 2013

Eh my DH is a grown man that likes video games. He still balances our work and family life. I hate when people trash "grown men" for a certain hobby. So DH playing video games makes him a child? FFS it is a hobby not very different from playing golf or watching football all of which both my 6 year old and DH do. Are these kid hobbies too?

notkateanymore · August 2013

Andrewsgal said:

Eh my DH is a grown man that likes video games. He still balances our work and family life. I hate when people trash "grown men" for a certain hobby. So DH playing video games makes him a child? FFS it is a hobby not very different from playing golf or watching football all of which both my 6 year old and DH do. Are these kid hobbies too?

Yeah, I don't agree with you at all. I think it's childish as hell. Plus, it doesn't sound like OPs husband is balancing things very well.

peacelove&mama · August 2013

I am so glad my DH isn't into video games. Every now and then the mood strikes him, but after 10 minutes he's like, "this sucks, lets go do something".

He gets sucked into working though, and I don't like that. Not just work work, but stuff around the house, stuff for other people... He doesn't know how to turn off and just relax. I'm trying to teach him

Andrewsgal · August 2013

I love that video games are childish as hell but other hobbies are fine. So please tell me what qualifies as adult hobbies?

I also agree there is a difference between playing all the time and not. But it is asinine that the act of playing video games makes someone childish. If that's the case I know tons of childish professionals.

notkateanymore · August 2013

Andrewsgal said:

I love that video games are childish as hell but other hobbies are fine. So please tell me what qualifies as adult hobbies? I also agree there is a difference between playing all the time and not. But it is asinine that the act of playing video games makes someone childish. If that's the case I know tons of childish professionals.

You can throw asinine in there all you want. You aren't going to change my mind. Video games are marketed to children therefore in my mind they are childish. I couldn't imagine a grown man sitting down to play hours on a video game. Playing with his child? Sure, maybe. Playing by himself until the wee hours? So ridiculous and I would be livid. If you don't have an issue with it, fine. But that doesn't mean I have to agree with you, as you very well know. If any of my friend's husbands played video games as a hobby, I would think it was completely crazy.

notkateanymore · August 2013

auroraloo said:

KateMW said:

Andrewsgal said:

Eh my DH is a grown man that likes video games. He still balances our work and family life. I hate when people trash "grown men" for a certain hobby. So DH playing video games makes him a child? FFS it is a hobby not very different from playing golf or watching football all of which both my 6 year old and DH do. Are these kid hobbies too?

Yeah, I don't agree with you at all. I think it's childish as hell. Plus, it doesn't sound like OPs husband is balancing things very well.

I would much rather my H play video games than golf. At least with video games, he's home. Also, cheaper.

And OP made it very clear this is not a usual thing, it's just a new game novelty.

Ugh, golf is so expensive. I'm so glad DH sucks.

Andrewsgal · August 2013

KateMW said:

Andrewsgal said:

I love that video games are childish as hell but other hobbies are fine. So please tell me what qualifies as adult hobbies? I also agree there is a difference between playing all the time and not. But it is asinine that the act of playing video games makes someone childish. If that's the case I know tons of childish professionals.

You can throw asinine in there all you want. You aren't going to change my mind. Video games are marketed to children therefore in my mind they are childish. I couldn't imagine a grown man sitting down to play hours on a video game. Playing with his child? Sure, maybe. Playing by himself until the wee hours? So ridiculous and I would be livid. If you don't have an issue with it, fine. But that doesn't mean I have to agree with you, as you very well know. If any of my friend's husbands played video games as a hobby, I would think it was completely crazy.

Ctuallu there are a lot of video games at are marketed toward adults. My DH has never say and played do hours, but I don't honk video games is any more childish than tailgating is college like. DH plays vide games and tailgates he is a child stuck in his college years.

notkateanymore · August 2013

Andrewsgal said:

. DH plays vide games and tailgates he is a child stuck in his college years.

Well, I'm glad we agree.

Tailgating rocks, btw.

notkateanymore · August 2013

What is a power kite and why does it sound so freaking awesome???

notkateanymore · August 2013

I'll be on YouTube if anybody needs me.

notkateanymore · August 2013

auroraloo said:

Our annual rockband party kicks ass.

That's different than spending hours in a basement playing by yourself or with people online.

Minipenguin · August 2013

Andrewsgal said:

I love that video games are childish as hell but other hobbies are fine. So please tell me what qualifies as adult hobbies? I also agree there is a difference between playing all the time and not. But it is asinine that the act of playing video games makes someone childish. If that's the case I know tons of childish professionals.

You can throw asinine in there all you want. You aren't going to change my mind. Video games are marketed to children therefore in my mind they are childish. I couldn't imagine a grown man sitting down to play hours on a video game. Playing with his child? Sure, maybe. Playing by himself until the wee hours? So ridiculous and I would be livid. If you don't have an issue with it, fine. But that doesn't mean I have to agree with you, as you very well know. If any of my friend's husbands played video games as a hobby, I would think it was completely crazy.

A lot of games are marketed toward children but I think anyone who has played them can agree that they're not children's games... there's a violence and graphic content in video games, even the ones that are marketed toward children and I would never let a child play them.

Since OP is talking about one that came out this week, I assume she's talking about ffxiv, which is an MMO and way too complicated for a child. There's just too much going on.

Minipenguin · August 2013

rockyrollgirl said:

DH also plays video games for a couple hours like once a week as do I. I used to be really bad about it, to where I would play all day. I would play WoW into the morning and still go to school or work that day. I just never slept. Skyrim was definitely a life sucker. One of my houses in that game looks like it belongs to a hoarder. Now I obviously do not have time, but I also get bored.

I've played WoW, as well. I think there are a lot of stereotypes about people who play video games, but particularly wow. I don't really understand it. MH's undergraduate degree is in video game design -- he studied how to write the code for them. He used to design and play them all day long at work. It never struck me as childish. But there are different types of games. Angry birds and mmorpgs are not in the same category.

penguingrrl · August 2013

DH is into video games, always has been. But he hasn't stayed up until the wee hours playing them since college. He has some newer games because his best friend is a video game artist. He and his friends used to stay up late all through college doing that stuff, but all have outgrown that.

DH will occasionally play some wii sports to unwind if he works until (or past) bedtime because he can't fall asleep in work mode and that helps relax him. He also plays that with the girls for fun sometimes.

I would be upset if he had any hobby that took away from sleep or family time on a regular basis. The video games aren't the problem usually, though, it's an irresponsible person playing them (not the OP, just the stigma of video games).

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

Minipenguin said:

rockyrollgirl said:

DH also plays video games for a couple hours like once a week as do I. I used to be really bad about it, to where I would play all day. I would play WoW into the morning and still go to school or work that day. I just never slept. Skyrim was definitely a life sucker. One of my houses in that game looks like it belongs to a hoarder. Now I obviously do not have time, but I also get bored.

I've played WoW, as well. I think there are a lot of stereotypes about people who play video games, but particularly wow. I don't really understand it. MH's undergraduate degree is in video game design -- he studied how to write the code for them. He used to design and play them all day long at work. It never struck me as childish. But there are different types of games. Angry birds and mmorpgs are not in the same category.

Right. My husband has a picture in his head of what a WoW player looks like and says he is surprised that I played. It was just really easy to get sucked in and spend hours on it. I lost interest eventually and cancelled my subscription. I started playing TOR, but that game just got tedious.

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

@gwapes DH would never play those with me. He refuses to play anything with "dragons and elves". That's fine because I am not interested in shooting waves of zombies, it makes me panic haha.

JMC11511 · August 2013

1) I am pretty sure this is the first thread I have originated that has reached 2 pages and had an AG/Kate fight in it. I am feeling quite important! B-)

2) the game is the new splinter cell. And it really is just this week that it's been excessive.
3) He did get up on time and handle our LO like normal for a Sun morning while I am at church all morning. He even vacuumed. So I suppose all is forgiven.
4) I'm still exhausted and have an hour and 20 mins worth of audio to transcribe....

Minipenguin · August 2013

gwapes said:

rockyrollgirl said:

@gwapes DH would never play those with me. He refuses to play anything with "dragons and elves". That's fine because I am not interested in shooting waves of zombies, it makes me panic haha.

Awww what?! DH is the one that got me into it. "If you can't beat em join em". What about League of Legends? No elves or dragons, or zombies!! haha

lol, I felt the same way at first so I rolled a human.

Minipenguin · August 2013

@gwapes Me too, arcane mage and holy priest. But the changes to the random instance finder made healing too much of a PITA because of all the d-bag dps so the priest is stuck at 87 or 88. Do you still play?

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

@gwapes belf shadow priest and belf hunter ha!

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

Yep horde only. Yeah I remember that and leroy jenkins.

Minipenguin · August 2013

Horde, booo. But only because they stomp us so badly I haven't been able to get the AB achievements in like 2 years of trying.

Arcane is boring, but it's what I started with so I just kind of stayed. During the first boss in dragonsoul LFR I blinked into trash and pulled them all and we wiped. I was afraid to move around my action bars after that, haha.

DH only plays tanks so queues are always really quick.

Andrewsgal · August 2013

auroraloo said:

Our annual rockband party kicks ass.

We do them twice a year and they are legendary. Drunk adults playing rock band and eating amazing food is a good time.

Louiej · August 2013

KateMW said:

What is a power kite and why does it sound so freaking awesome???

It's actually pretty dangerous if the winds are too strong. My BIL recently broke his pelvis in 2 places and was in the hospital for a week after his kite picked him up off the ground and then smashed him back into it. Luckily my husband isn't an idiot and doesn't fly in 30 MPH winds.

I can't find any of BIL's good videos, but if you YouTube it something should come up.

Holy actual shit...at least video games don't attack...yikes!

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