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Mind your own beeswax

RNbock2RNbock2 member
in August 2012 Moms

That's what I want to tell my family.

 

We encountered an unexpected situation with the birth of DS2. He was c/s#2, pre-e baby #2, when they went to open me up to take him out they discovered that my uterus was already open full thickness three cm via my old c/s scar. I was told that it would be risky to have anymore children, but that it wasn't out of the question if I saw a specialist, etc. Well, my family won't leave me alone about having another kid. They are all, "It would be so selfish to the kids your already have". And I'm all, "I need at least another year to process all of this, and I want it to be my own decision".

 

This needs to be a decision made between me and DH. And us only. Why can't my family get that?

 

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  • Mrs. RohdeMrs. Rohde member
    You already have two kids. Why would it be selfish?
    I hate when family thinks it is ok to butt in. I hope you've told them to STFU.
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  • BluepointToastedBluepointToasted member
    Seriously? People tell you it's selfish to not have any kids, selfish to only have one, nd now your family is telling you it is selfish to have 2? Tell them to suck it.
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  • RNbock2RNbock2 member
    Mrs. Rohde said:

    You already have two kids. Why would it be selfish?
    I hate when family thinks it is ok to butt in. I hope you've told them to STFU.

    I worded my post wrong. They are pressuring me to not have anymore kids. They want dh to get the snip snip. I want more time to decide what we want to do. I am only in my late twenties, I need more time to think.
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  • Mrs. RohdeMrs. Rohde member
    RNbock2 said:

    Mrs. Rohde said:

    You already have two kids. Why would it be selfish?
    I hate when family thinks it is ok to butt in. I hope you've told them to STFU.

    I worded my post wrong. They are pressuring me to not have anymore kids. They want dh to get the snip snip. I want more time to decide what we want to do. I am only in my late twenties, I need more time to think.
    Ohhhh. Ok. Well I still say its none of their business but I can see that they are very concerned for your well being. It is ultimately your (and H) call.
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  • RNbock2RNbock2 member
    I know they are just concerned, but they won't even hear me out. I would see a specialist and wait at least two more years before attempting another pregnancy. It's so hard, it feels like I'm in limbo between our family completed and us wanting another child.
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  • CourtneyEepsCourtneyEeps member
    I'm sorry you're in this position - I imagine it's hard enough weighing your options without their input.

    I can understand their concern because they, of course, want the best for you. But you and your husband are adults capable of making decisions about your family. I hope you are able to take the time you need to come to a decision with your husband and be at peace with it.
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