Anybody have pelvic girdle pain? or to be more general - anybody on bed rest due to mommy pain???

mathornt · August 2013

I am 36 weeks pregnant with baby #2. She's our miracle baby - conceived after 3+ years of trying, lots of fertility meds and an eventual IVF procedure.

But my pregnancy has been a nightmare.

I am older now (39) and have been completely exhausted the entire time. I also have a beautiful 6 year old son. He was born at 33 weeks and had a rough time in the beginning. So I had anxiety about pre-term issues with baby#2 from the start.

But the sh*t really hit the fan at 20 weeks when I started experiencing horrid pain in my extreme lower back and groin. I would get up, go to work, then come home and go to bed, normally by 6 pm. The pain was excruciating. At first I got the standard OB line, "back pain is normal in pregnancy".

Everything hurt - driving, getting dressed, walking, getting in and out of bed, turning in bed, sitting, lifting the toddler I cared for (Im a nanny).

But I kept going as best I could until I reached a breaking point at 32 weeks. As in, I had a mental breakdown. Called my husband to come home and had an appt with OB next day. At this point, I could barely move. It was obvious to her that my pain was not "normal". She ordered a regular MRI (safe during pregnancy) and put me on a dose of hydrocodone. She also put me on bed rest. I had to start my maternity leave early and find somebody to care for my son. Also, my 90 year old grandpa, who has alzheimers lived with us and I had to make arrangements for him (He is now in a nursing home).

The MRI showed abnormalities and we are working with a preliminary diagnosis of pelvic girdle pain (we cannot be 100% sure until the baby comes out) - its insane pain from the buttocks area all the way through and to the groin area. As the baby gets bigger, the pain gets worse.

The hydrocodone didnt work and I ended up in L & D at 33 weeks because I couldnt eat, sleep, move. So I am now muddling through with low does of percocet and the bed rest. I tried just doing bed rest as I hate taking any type of medication, but the pain was completely unbearable. We have talked to neonatalogists at the hospital where she will be born about the consequences she *may* face at birth, and as long as I keep my dose low, she has a slight chance of withdrawal. I feel an enormous amount of guilt, but it is better for her to stay in right now with me taking a couple of pills a day, then to take her out now. I also starting seeing an accupuncturist and that is helping some.

Still though, I drove myself to the accupuncturist on wednesday and ended up completely incapacitated the remainder of wednesday, thursday and friday due to the pain from driving and the small amount of walking i did.

My husband has had to take over doing absolutely everything. Except for dr appointments, i get out of bed to pee and to fix myself some food. I only bathe every other day. I feel like I am in prison. Even using the computer is painful, because I can only sit for short periods of time before I have to lie down again.

All I do is sleep, eat, pee, sleep some more. I am exhausted.

The only good thing about this entire ordeal is that my baby girl is growing and healthy. Mommy is a mess, but she is FINE. So I keep doing as I am doing and see the DR once or twice a week.

I have no idea how much longer though - at my next appt I will be 37 weeks. That is full-term. I wonder - will they induce me? Will they just tell me to hang out until she's ready to come out on her own? Can I demand an induction? Should I just wait for her to come out on her own? Or will she truly be ok coming out at 37 weeks?

How are others dealing with guilt, isolation and pain? I feel guilty for taking the meds. I feel guilty that I cant care for my son. I feel guilty that I cant work (the family I nanny for and my family are super close). I feel guilty my hubby has to do everything. I feel guilty about complaining because I am so lucky to be pregnant. And I feel like I am in prison. I am a social person and an active person and I miss life!

Thank you for letting me get that all out. WHEW! I also feel so very alone.

Arielle27 · August 2013

Wow, I have never heard of this! I'm so sorry you are in such excruciating pain! Definitely talk to your doctor about induction. You are right, up until now the baby is definitely better inside, but in terms of your health and hers (re: pain meds), maybe it would be better to induce earlier... In any case, good luck and try to feel good!!

lynelise04 · August 2013

Yup. Same dang boat. Except this is baby #3 in 4 years and I am 27. My last was 11lbs. I had her vaginally all N.
I'm getting real sick of the doctors not taking this serious. They keep bouncing off several thing;well it's part of pregnancy, it is pelvic instability, it's hormonal. Yada yada.
Everything is getting so painful it makes me want to vomit. I can hardly keep up throughout the day. I come home and I am done!
I've got no advice, I'm jeal

lynelise04 · August 2013

I'm jealouse of your bed rest, sick I know. But if tey told me to stay down I'd feel less guilty about it.
Hope the next few weeks go smoothly and fast!

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