42 and first time

mindfulturkey · July 2013

I had the surprise of my life when I learned I was pregnant. I am now about 9-10 weeks and pretty freaked out. I am really worried that due to my age something will be wrong with the baby or I will miscarry. I go to the doc next week for ultrasound and genetic testing. Ack! I wish I could just go to sleep and wake up when the results come.

Also, could someone please explain all of the acronyms or codes or whatever people are using on here? I don't understand what people are talking about . Thanks!

ELF4321 · July 2013

Congrats, and welcome! Although the chances of something being wrong are higher for AMA (advanced maternal age!) mamas, they are still not big risks. Try to not worry unnecessarily (easier said than done).

There is also a Pregnant after 35 board where you might find other women at a similar stage. Here's the link to that board, if you're interested: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4615072/ShowForum.aspx

And there is a Bump glossary to help with some of the acronyms. You'll find most of the common ones here: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/blogs/nest_baby_editors/pages/the-bump-community-glossary.aspx

Good luck with your ultrasound!

surpriseaddition · July 2013

Congrats! I just had a healthy, full term baby that was conceived at 42 and born when I was 43. She also was a surprise addition for us. Try not to worry, although I know first hand how hard that can be. I second going to the pregnant over 35 board, since I know there are women our same age over there. Good luck!

GroverClover · July 2013

Thanks for the glossary link. I'm relatively new too and couldn't figure some of them out.

GHBEA · July 2013

Welcome, The Pregnant after 35 is a good board. I was 42 when I got pregnant and had little one when I was 43. I also had another little one at age 41. It is a nervous time.

Crimmo · August 2013

I am 42 and pregnant with baby number one....there have been some issues due to my age but nothing bad or scary...all will be fine, just love every minute of it

kristennd · August 2013

You'll get the same advice on the Pregnant Over 35 board, but your doctor can make a world of difference in your stress level. Mine worked extensively with women over 35 and strongly felt that nothing needed to be done differently than with any other pregnancy. If complications happen, they're addressed on their own. But every age has a chance of complications. No extra testing and ominous talk of risks.

mindfulturkey · August 2013

I posted this a while back and was so stressed I didn't even realize I had posted on the wrong board haha. All is well now thanks for the responses. Back to the preggo after 35 board

MesmrEwe · August 2013

kristennd said:

You'll get the same advice on the Pregnant Over 35 board, but your doctor can make a world of difference in your stress level. Mine worked extensively with women over 35 and strongly felt that nothing needed to be done differently than with any other pregnancy. If complications happen, they're addressed on their own. But every age has a chance of complications. No extra testing and ominous talk of risks.

This is so true! The OB I worked with pointed out "35 is the new 25!" and didn't believe in treating women differently because of age. 16yo's who get PG can have issues just as those of us who are older do. OTOH, being older, we've got a different perspective about life in general.

One thing to remember on the genetic testing is that it only shows a spectrum and has an EXTREMELY high level of false positives. One thing my OB also pointed out is that regardless of the results doesn't change anything about how they take care of you/baby pre-delivery along with baby. If a problem happens, they'll deal with it at that time.

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