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OCD?

mommytoconnormommytoconnor member
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My DS just turned 3 and has SPD with speech delay.  Lately, the last 2 weeks or so, he has become somewhat obsessive about things.  Little things like closing the door.  If someone else closes it he has a "cow" and wants to do it himself. If you push the button to lock the car door, he again screams and has a fit because he wants to do it. He is very much into  gaining independence right now.  He is always saying "I do it".  Which is great.  However if he is sitting down eating and I close the cabinet door he goes into a meltdown and says "I close, I close". Then a few minutes later I will close another door and no reaction at all.  I can't always give into him and allow him to "control" every part of every day. Part of me is saying that this is a somewhat normal thing at this age, but when does it become worrisome that he's becoming overly obsessive about things. Any thoughts?
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Re: OCD?

  • mommytoconnormommytoconnor member

    Auntie-thanks for your input.

    1. Mainly this behavior is at home, but once in a while something at school, especially new school he will be fascinated with. Doesn't cause social difficulties, more that he will get upset at teacher for not allowing him to do something.

    2.  His having a "cow" as I call it, lasts less than a few minutes but is just super loud.  It never goes on and on, just seems intense because of loudness of it.

    3. He is wanting to do everything we as adults do.  If a door is open he wants to close it, if we let the dog out, he wants to be the one to let him out, if throw something in trash, he wants to do it.  I try to allow him to do things that are giving him a sense of "importance" if you will, or responsibility. He doesn't always insist on brushing his own teeth or pulling on his own pants, but then other times he does insist on it.  I do see him wanting to do "adult role" things like you mentioned.  He is an only child and so no other kids in home to model after just mom and grandma.

    4. He loves items that he can do something with, if it has buttons he loves it.  He also loves things like computers, etc.  He isn't really obsessive with hinged things except to close the door.  Once the door is closed it's over.  He just wants to do the task, if that makes sense.

    It's funny sometimes he really wants to press that button or close a door and other times he is fine not doing it.  He doesn't seem to get "pleasure" from doing things but more a sense of accomplishment, he will even say "yeah I did it".

     

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  • mommytoconnormommytoconnor member

    Auntie,

    Thanks so much for your input.  I always am concerned about what is "normal" toddler behavior and when to worry, and I appreciate your input and advice on what to watch for.  

    Thanks

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  • thefuturemrskudlathefuturemrskudla member
    My son is like this, too. He wants to get his drink, close or open the doors, put his shirt on, buckle his car seat. i see it as both control and independence. Not always, but sometimes and when he doesn't get his way he will yell, I want to do it. I ignore it sometimes, or tell him you can do it next time.
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  • thefuturemrskudlathefuturemrskudla member
    He will be 4 in 2 months.
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