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Won't stop crying at DC

clw617clw617 member
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Tell me it gets better. I'm back to work and we're on LO's second week of DC. For most of the days, the teacher has written "wouldn't stop crying" on his little paper and it just breaks my heart. He will be 3 months tomorrow and he's our first so of course this has got me stressing. By the end of my maternity leave, we had a good routine going of eating, playing, transition to rocking for a nap. I'm pretty sure at DC, it's more like, eating, then sitting in the swing. He's never been able to just sit in the swing and fall asleep on his own without a fuss. So I'm sure after 30 minutes or so in the swing, he starts to meltdown and then it's all downhill from there.

I plan on giving them some tips on what I do to soothe DS. But I guess I'm looking for reassurance that DS will calm down a little and get used to daycare and he's not miserable. He's still so young! I trust his teachers, but at the same time when I see "wouldn't stop crying" everyday, I feel so helpless. :(
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  • clw617clw617 member
    ClaryPax said:
    I don't really like the way they phrased that on his sheet.  I would try meeting with the teacher tomorrow or call them to give them tips o soothing him.  For DS, I did call every day for a while.  I know a lot of people here frown on that, but he had some health issues and was sick for a long time.  He was my first and actually a really easy baby.  Most of the time there was no news, but every once in a while I could answer a question for them, and that helped them out.  Why don't you ask them to rock him in their arms instead of putting him in the swing.  In fact nowadays a lot of centers frown on swings because they want the babies to be able to move around not strapped to one thing for too long. 
    Right?? I don't care for the wording either. I kind of wish she could sense our concern and be more reassuring in her comments like maybe "still adjusting! we're working on it" or something more positive. "Wouldn't stop crying" sounds so ugh. It would even make me feel better if she added like, one happy thing in her comments. 

    BTW -- when I pick him up at the end of the day, he always seems happy, content, laughing/smiling to himself and looking at toys. 
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  • AllieMag24AllieMag24 member
    I totally agree with pp! Talk to them and ask for what you think he needs. Their top priority should be to help him get settled. My experience with both babies was that our teachers went out of their way, particularly at the beginning, to give them whatever they needed including extra snuggles, rocking to sleep, etc. I totally call, btw. Most days during naptime to see how they're doing. Our center encourages it. They want happy, comfortable parents. And yes, it will get better! But they may need to step it up a bit. GL!
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  • dglvrk2dglvrk2 member
    Do you think he's sitting in the swing too much?  I'm sure without the right stimulation, a baby will get fussy.  The sitting position in the swing may make digesting his milk/formula uncomfortable too.  I agree with PP; that the teachers should try rocking and holding him more.  

    I have a two year old and another on the way.  They do go through ups and downs at daycare.  However, it gets better with time.  Good luck!!
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  • MoreThanABrideMoreThanABride member
    Ugh, that is terrible phrasing! I think our place would say "they had a rough day" or that my dd was still getting used to it or something. They also usually say on bad days that they tried to give her extra love or something like that too, which makes it seem like they were doing something to help, instead of blaming the baby or giving up.

    I hope he stats having better days soon. Ig you trust the place, it sounds like you are doing everything you can to check up and help them out.

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  • AZ123AZ123 member

    I've had two babies in daycare and "won't stop crying" is extremely unacceptable.  That means that they aren't doing the things they need to do to help soothe him and keep him from crying. They are the pros. You mean to tell me they can't do anything at all to help him?  At our daycare they had one teacher that would sit and rock a swaddled baby for hours to help calm the fussy ones down. The teachers job is to KNOW how to calm a baby down.  Sorry... but I just think that is so wrong to write won't stop crying. That's horrendous to me.

    Have you considered that this daycare may not be the right fit? I would ask the teacher what they're doing all day, how they soothe him, what is he doing before he gets upset (the pp pointed out overstimulation which happens a lot around the 3 or 4 month age).  Also, look at his nap schedule and eating schedule. Overtired might be triggering it. GL.

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  • nymom1015nymom1015 member
    That is extremely unacceptable.  Is that the only thing they write "won't stop crying"? Is this their first time caring for a newborn?  Have you spoke with them yet?  I'm so curious what they had to say? My baby is 5 months old, and the daycare did tell me she is a very cranky baby, but they do everything they can to calm her,  they hold her,  feed her,  play with her, rock her. 
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