Haven't told DH....

joyfullyfound · August 2013

I haven't told DH about yesterday's BFP yet... He worked overtime until 4:00 am, and then slept until noon, and had to leave for work at 2:30, and it was all rushy and he was tired, and the timing wasn't right. Today will be the same, and then he's done overtime.

I have a "Best Big Sis" shirt for DD that I bought for $2 off Old Navy online. It's what we'll use to announce #2 to our families in a few months, but I was thinking I could use it for DH too - Just put her in it, say nothing, and wait until he notices.

Buuut... would it be awful if I waited 2-ish weeks to tell him?? His birthday is on Sept. 7th, and it would be so fun to tell him DD has his present, and he'd search and then see the shirt... KWIM? Is that way too long? I don't even know if I could hold out that long, I just think it's a fun idea, haha. I could always tell him I have an early present for him.......... Thoughts?

thechickencoop · August 2013

Oh man. There's no way I would be able to wait 2 weeks!! I would do it as an 'early present'!

joyfullyfound · August 2013

Haha, I know! I know! I'm bursting with excitement here... But isn't the idea of him finding out on his birthday at least a little tempting??

Hors D'oeuvre · August 2013

I wouldn't be able to wait two weeks. Tell him today-even if you write a clever poem and leave it someplace he views when he returns home from work.

lightgetsin · August 2013

I couldn't wait that long! I think I waited a whole 6 hr. to tell him the sex of our last baby and that almost killed me.

joyfullyfound · August 2013

Fine, fine. You've all convinced me

cas3ymari3 · August 2013

Congrats!!! I would wait. But if you wait you cant tell anyone else IRL. I think that would be a fabulous Birthday present!

caybeh · August 2013

Congrats! I've known a few women that waited that long or longer to tell their spouse. My SIL told me she knew for awhile before she told my bro and told him on Valentine's Day (baby came in Oct). Another one of my friends also had a baby in Oct and told her DH at his birthday in March. Me...I couldn't wait that long. I would think that would be a fun present, though!

CalBears · August 2013

I don't think it is a bad idea! That would be a fun birthday surprise if you can wait that long!

eaglesfan700 · August 2013

I had to wait a few days with this last one. H was in Vegas on a guys' trip and I just couldn't mess with his mind by telling him while he was in Vegas with the guys. I actually tested on his birthday, so when he got home, I gave him a birthday card. Inside I had written that I had another surprise for him, but it wouldn't be here until around July 26.

Seeing his face while he was reading it was pretty priceless. That said, I don't think I could hold out for two weeks with him home!

jenniann87 · August 2013

I think that sounds like a great birthday gift but it would be hard keeping that secret for 2 weeks! Heck when I found out with DS, I had to wait 2 days bc H was working crazy hours and there wasn't a right time. Congrats again.

Minipenguin · August 2013

I don't think I could wait. BUT, if you did, it would be really sweet and memorable for sure.

tlxh7 · August 2013

How would you feel if he knew and kept it from you for two weeks so you could find out on your birthday?

Personally, I would never even test without my husband there, let alone go more than a few minutes after finding out without telling him. It's just as much his news, he has just as much right to enjoy it the same amount of time as you. Not trying to be snarky or rude, I just think it's awful to keep something like this from your husband.

EnglishMajor03 · August 2013

OMG Congratulations!!

It would be cool to wait and tell him but I couldn't. H is always with me when I test. I would explode trying to wait 2 weeks. I am sure whatever you decide it will be special.

joyfullyfound · August 2013

tlxh7 said:

How would you feel if he knew and kept it from you for two weeks so you could find out on your birthday?

Personally, I would never even test without my husband there, let alone go more than a few minutes after finding out without telling him. It's just as much his news, he has just as much right to enjoy it the same amount of time as you. Not trying to be snarky or rude, I just think it's awful to keep something like this from your husband.

I have no doubt whatsoever that my husband would be thrilled to be told on his birthday, and would completely not mind my having waited a couple weeks. While I appreciate your perspective, we just have differing opinions on this... different family dynamics, I guess.

joyfullyfound · August 2013

gwapes said: Anyone else feel special knowing before her DH? Cause I do! \:D/

Ps. Like the shirt idea, if you can wait that long. I think it would be sweet.
Haha! You guys are special! I would never, ever tell anyone IRL before DH, but with my internet friendzies it seems like less of a faux pas

LatteLady5 · August 2013

@joyfullyfound

Soooo...what did you decide?!? When are you going to tell him?

mrsrobinsontobe · August 2013

i think you should tell him because in a couple of weeks it won't be as new to you...of course it will still be special, but i think you'd enjoy the newness of this special time when no one else knows together -- does that make sense?! congrats!!! my husband was the only person who knew our now 5 yo was a boy! he was awesome at keeping that secret and it was pretty special having him tell mr the news when henry was born ... "we have a son!" i will never forget that moment!!

MTipler22 · August 2013

You will know when it's the right moment! Don't plan out a time... do it when it feels right for you. I couldn't wait that long... but it's your decision! Congratulations... exciting time!

Princessmama18 · August 2013

sing4mysavior said:

Fantastic birthday present? Yes. Waiting 2 weeks? I'd like to meet the woman with that much self control! She ain't me...that's FOR SURE!

Congrats! And totally agree with sing4mysavior

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