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Success after IF
Mrs.Johnson
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The truth about pregnancy
Mrs.Johnson
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Okay since all of you are now PG or have had babies after IF, tell the truth; is pregnancy wonderful or does it suck? Most people I know "in real life" tell me it really sucks. We are adopting and our birthmother is 15 weeks. I keep wishing I could feel what she's feeling, so am I missing out? Please be honest! I *may* do IVF someday so I can take it either way.
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Re: The truth about pregnancy
both. It was wonderful to experience it, but I was sick every day for the entire pregnancy. I hurt and I was high risk and I had to give myself shots every day.
I would do it all again, but only because being a Mom is worth it. He is the light that I never knew I was missing.
Congratulations!
Well, I haven't made it all the way to the end yet, but honestly for the most part I've really enjoyed it. I know this will be the only one of my life, so I've really relished in all the different sensations. Sure, the nausea and other first tri miseries aren't fun, but I was lucky and didn't suffer too much. Now that I am at the end, the fatigue and lack of sleep and inability to walk is exhausting, but with the end in sight, I can definitely bear it.
Not many things can top the feeling of feeling your baby move for the first time, or roll over in your belly. And I've now experienced first hand how much people love pregnant women. In a city notorious for people not being particularly friendly to strangers, I've never had so many people comment warmly to me. Overall, I'd say that this has been a wonderful experience and I'm glad I got to experience it.
Our beautiful son was born July 2008.
2010: 2 IVF's,1 FET = 2 BFN's, 1 c/p
Feb 2011-Unmedicated FET= BFP!! DS #2 born Oct 2011!!.
Yes and No. I loved it and I'm a little sad that I won't be able to experience it again. Feeling the babies inside me. Just being fat and pregnant and having everyone spoil me. But I was also a nervous wreck. I worried about everything. Everything! And during the last few weeks I was miserable. I was huge and couldn't do much more than lay on the couch and even that was uncomfortable. But yeah, despite all that I would do it all over again if I could.
But I also know that if my little girls came to me through adoption I would love them just as fiercly. They are so amazing and have brought such joy to our lives. Your friends are right...it won't matter once he/she arrives.
It is something I wish I could do again. BUT it comes with it's downfalls.
In the beginning, all you worry about is "Is the baby still growing" then it's "Am I eating right, can I have this, will this hurt the baby". Then you start getting big, peeing constantly (on yourself and in the toiley). You can't get comfy, can't sleep.
On the other hand, when I see or hear people talk about their pregnancies, it takes me back. I miss feeling my girls moving and kicking inside me. I miss watching my belly move, watching them on the U/S. Being the only person that could hold them. It was just me and them. OH I miss being pregnant.
Some people hate it, some people love it. I wish you all the best
I loved *almost* every single second of being pregnant. The only part I didn't like was the last week while on bedrest for pre-eclampsia. I had the "perfect" pregnancy though. No M/S, I didn't run to the bathroom every 6 seconds, gained 25 lbs, no swelling until the pre-e kicked in. There is nothing better than feeling your baby move around, being fat and getting waited on, etc.
With that said, if my baby came to me by adoption I would still love her just as much!!
Congrats on having a baby on the way!!
Honestly, mine was completely HELL on EARTH
Lets see, possible etopic scare at 4 wks and multiple cysts. Horrid morning sickness until 16 wks Bleeding ulcers and 2nd & 3rd trimester pre-term labor. Finally my baby was born early and IUGR.
He is healthy!!! Very happy!!! I want to have another, but in the mean time I can easily say when I do adopt, I'm not missing any good times.
I loved being pregnant, so I thought it was great. I also had a very easy pregnancy though. The only thing I wished was better was the constipation, but once you learn how to manage it, it's survivable.
I was very, very sad about my absent belly after G was born. I love my kid, don't get me wrong, but the 9 months of carrying him were really special to me.
Photo by Zemya Photography
To be honest with my pregnancy was a breeze I had one week of Morning sickness and was slightly uncomfortable the last few weeks of my pregnancy but overall I really enjoyed bein pregnant!
The only thing I would not repeat is losing a twin at nine weeks other than that I would do it all over again!
TTC #1: IUI #2 = BFP , Betas 550 (16 dpiui), 1523 (18 dpiui)
Hypothyroid, LPD, FSH 13.0, TTC 2 yrs B4 BFP
TTC #2: FSH 23, AMA, IUI 1, 2, 3 = BFN, IVF #1 = MC
IVF #2 = BFP - Betas 194 (14dp2dt), 366 (16 dp2dt), 841 (18 dp2dt)
(vanished twin ~7 weeks)
I love being pregnant. I have had a very easy/healthy pregnancy, and all the milestones have been amazing.
That said, I know this will PALE in comparison to being a mom. I can't wait to meet my baby and hold her and watch her grow. Congratulations on finding a match and being 'pregnant on paper'!
Both.
There are so many cool things, espcially feeling him move inside me.
Right now is a bad time to ask me because I am to the miserable and cranky stage.
I've really had an easy pregnancy though and have been happier than ever.
It totally sucks and sometimes I can't believe I went through what I went through (IVF) for THIS?!!
HOWEVER: I'm still in the yuckiest part (10 weeks with really bad nausea/throwing up) and some people never have any morning sickness at all. Also, I do have the feeling that later on, when we feel the babies move - and certainly after we have them, it will feel like it was worth it.
I'm really glad you asked that question, though, I was so fixated on getting pregnant, I never even thought about what it might be like to be sick all the time, waddle around with a huge belly, etc. I definitely had unrealistic expectations.
Congrats on your upcoming adoption, too. You'll be an awesome mom.