should I be offended?

carriec1111 · August 2013

monkeybutt61612 · August 2013

Why not just invute her over?

carriec1111 · August 2013

NebF · August 2013

I am sorry that you are experiencing this.
Perhaps she's just not interested in seeing your baby? Is that what you are thinking? Why not just talk to her about it? Invite her over and see what she says. Or don't invite her and find better friends. It sounds like you have plenty of other friends who came to see your baby. Honestly, this lady sounds like a biatch.

Cricket81 · August 2013

I don't know how old her kids are, but maybe she is waiting for school to start again so she can come over when she is less stressed and not worried about her kids bothering the baby or acting up. Just a thought.

PrimRoseMama · August 2013

I think you are being unreasonable.

ASmallWonder · August 2013

I understand feeling hurt but the world of two kids and an hour drive isn't something you know. It has the potential to be fucking awful. Life with two kids (and hell, I'm still new to it) is crazier than some people give credit for and days and weeks fly by before you even realize how much you've ignored certain things (friends, housework, hell, even your own husband). Call her up. Tell her you miss her and would love to see her. Pick a specific day and time and invite her over or to go shopping with you or something. If it doesn't work, ask her to please pick a time that works because you really want to get together.

olga1311 · August 2013

I agree with Prim you are being unreasonable. She has 2 kids and lives almost an hour away. Its not that easy to come and visit you. Suggest meeting her in the middle somewhere or wait until she has to be in your area so she can stop by. I am sure her life is busy and crazy with two kids. Cut her some slack.

carriec1111 · August 2013

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ASmallWonder · August 2013

carriec1111 said:

Well I don't think I am being unreasonable..I just find it weird. We really good friends. Yes, she has 2 boys..but she gets her husband or father to watch them all the time to do social stuff. Even when I talk to her on the phone she never says "oh cant wait to meet her" But I am not going to mention it to her because Most people are excited to see their friend's babies. whatever it is what it is.

Have you called her at all since you had the baby? Have you invited her over? If you've done neither of these things, IMO, you're in the wrong. Despite how in your face some people can be with babies, there are lot of people (especially other mothers) who understand and respect that you're going through a life changing experience and if they don't hear from you, may assume you're still getting the kinks out and ready for socializing.

carrotcake06 · August 2013

I would invite her instead of waiting her to invite herself over to your house.

I wasn't ready for visitors for a long time and I wouldn't want to intrude on a new mom who may not yet feel up to visitors.

carriec1111 · August 2013

rooter84 · August 2013

With dd2 my best friend didn't meet her until she was 4-5 months old. She is planning to come see ds the end of September, he will be 2 months by then. I wasn't offended when it took so long for her to meet dd2. Life happens, things get in the way. I wouldn't bring my kids to meet a new baby if they were acting up. Imho, if it is thatt important to you why not bring your LO to her?

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