Temper tantrums

Re: Temper tantrums

• KellersPrag member

  August 2013

  You don't discipline. You distract, redirect, and just let them work through the tantrum. Your child is not throwing a tantrum to make you mad. She is unable to communicate effectively her frustration and wants.
  
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• KellersPrag member

  August 2013

  I have more to say.
  
  Offer alternatives to her actions and focusing on what she can do instead of what she can't do are some good ways of teaching behavior. "Discipline" at this age is actually just teaching appropriate behavior instead of disciplining inappropriate behavior. If she throws a tantrum, basically just ignore it. The more attention (negative OR positive) you give to a behavior, the more likely she is to repeat it. It is a normal part of development to test boundaries and limits. She is not intentionally acting out as an older child would. This is why communicating and teaching is effective at this age. So for her to throw a tantrum, she's not doing it to make her Mommy upset, she's doing it because she is frustrated and cannot tell you, "Mommy, I really wanted xyz."
  

  
  

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• redneckmomma25 member

  August 2013

  Grace has recently started tantrums. Hate it. What @kellersprag said is good advice. I needed that as well. My first instinct is to discipline but I have to remember that she doesn't understand what she is doing yet. I haven't disciplined her, it is just my first instinct. A lot of times I laugh because her pouty face is so funny which really helps me not get frustrated with her. MOTY! Definitely getting to a challenging stage of parenting. Not that earlier on wasn't, but now comes parenting, not just keeping my kid alive, if that makes sense.

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• jcieply member

  August 2013

  Thanks for the advice. I figured most of that. I have a child development degree but at the same time I'm a FTM and I still wonder what the right thing to do is. The sitter had a different view on this than I which was why I was curious. And by discipline I didn't mean I would spank or yell, rather if I should give her a firm NO or give into what she wants, or offer another choice.

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• redneckmomma25 member

  August 2013

  I give no's but not with tantrums.

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• Flamingemu member

  August 2013

  We had our first tantrum last week. I had to leave the room because I was laughing so hard. Wrong reaction? ha.

  
  

  L's started because I wouldn't let her have my knife. Safety and all that. So she plopped on the floor and started yelling, fake crying, and kicking her feet. It was so cute (the first time). She stopped when she realized she wasn't getting my knife or a reaction. I took her outside to play instead and all was right in her world once more.

  
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• OceanLover26 member

  August 2013

  Dex threw a little tantrum last night because I wouldn't give him my phone.  He was face down on his belly kicking his feet like a fish turning his head back and forth.  Lasted about 30 seconds and he stopped to look over his shoulder to make sure I was still watching. I said "you done?" and he let out a big sigh.  Lol. 
  

  
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