I had a question for someone and as soon as I posted this I forgot it. So um i'll be back with said question for said person as soon as it comes back to me.
I had a question for someone and as soon as I posted this I forgot it. So um i'll be back with said question for said person as soon as it comes back to me.
@Laurski: How is the wedding planning going? Any big stuff you have yet to do?
@reinedecajun: I know you are super excited to get back to Louisiana, but what's one thing you'll miss in SC (you're in SC, right?)?
@PaddyB: Are you still here? Are you loving your new job?
The only thing i'll miss is our house and land. We live in such a beautiful area, seriously. We have one neighbor and he's a mile away. Were tucked in the middle of the woods and it's so peaceful. I love my house also it just fits us. I do kind of want to move where we have a few more neighbors but I dont know how that will work with big F's PTSD so im hoping we can find something a little less secluded than where we are now. Other than that nothing, we really have no reason to stay here other than our house
@summergirl1211 I just got back from vacation last night. I was supposed to start my new job today. However, you will notice I said supposed to. They "terminated" my offer verbally on Friday, and officially yesterday morning. Such a shitty way to end my vacation.
I have been thinking about how to post about this this morning, but wasn't sure how to start it. I am beyond pissed off. I think their reasons are bull shit. Anyway. Now I have to start the job hunt without a job. (
On a more positive note, vacation was very relaxing (until friday night) and we had a wonderful time seeing family and friends.
Say what now? Who does that? Sorry Paddy
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10
BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
The house was appraised at below the agreed-upon sell price. No one can get a hold of the appraiser. There is absolutely no reason for that to have happened. We priced it smack in the middle of that comparable homes in the area sold for and have been appraised at. Our home had a 1 yr old new roof and was under 20 yrs old. NO REASON FOR THIS.
We might lose the sale over this. I spent last night sick to my stomach thinking about it and I feel the same way today.
ETA: no word from our realtor yet today.
This is just insane to me. My dad has been a realtor for a long time and Ive never heard anything like this happening... Im still hoping it works out for the best!!
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@dbliesmer They figured out what my husband does (or I should say did, he as transitioned to a different area of law) and they didn't like the publicity surrounding it - or the fact that I am mentioned in some of the articles.
If you google search my real name you will get a pretty good idea of what their concerns were.
I say its bullshit because that has nothing to do with my ability to do my job or my reputation.
ETA: it is allso complete crap because they could have (and I thought would have) google searched me before giving me an offer. I didn't quit my old job just for fun. I did it because I relied upon their offer of employment which I accepted.
That is pretty shitty of them. I agree they should have google searched before they made the offer! I hope you find something better.
Nese, zpan other fashion forward ladies: when and how did you learn to do makeup so well? Did it just come naturally? Also how long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
I've always loved make up. My mom is a minimal make up kind of lady. Like mascara and blush. I remember standng in the hallway and watching her apply her make up every day. So when I was 14 she signed me up for a Make Up Artistry class. I got a dinky certification which I lost! Wish I still had that sucker for the discount at Mac sheesh. But the class wasn't just beauty it was clown, fantasy, wax (scars/gashes/blood) really fun stuff. I wasn't allowed to wear more than mascara until I was 17 and could buy my own make up. Since then its just been my personal obsession/hobby. Its a very expensive habit.
It takes me 15-20 minutes for my full face. Always has. I just carved out that much time each morning. Its really relaxing to me.
ETA: I'm so weird I study the make up on models in ads in magazines. I have for years. I need an intervention lol.
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10
BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
Bert & Ernie came from the Plastics... I forget which one specifically, though I am inclined to believe it was Megs. I thought it was pretty freaking adorable, and it stuck... She does look like an Ernie
Annnnnd I was channeling Jessie earlier, and I passed along your question... And I believe this is what she would have wanted to tell you, if she could still be here herself, but she can't, because TB killed her.
"I've been poling for about 6 months Its really hard but you eventually just build up the strength You need to do the stuff. I'm going to start doing yoga because I need more flexibility."
Hi!!!!! Thanks for asking but it has NOT been good. Things were fine until yesterday. My dog went after Sydney and got her left cheek. We rushed her to the ER last night, one mark looks deep. God, there was blood all over her and my husband. We are seeing a plastic surgeon in 2 hours to make sure we don't need any further intervention. She is in good spirits though, she doesn't know anything is wrong. Her poor little face
Er doctor didn't think it needed a plastic surgeon but my pediatrician said we should get a consult, just in case.
Ummmm.... so pretty much its almost the WORST thing that could have happened.
I am TRYING not to be mad at him because he is really upset but our agreement was the dogs should be gated in the kitchen if only 1 parent is around. I guess he got too comfortable and thought that the dog's aggressive tendencies had gone away.
Its going to be a tough 4 or 5 years keeping them separated from one another (dog and babies). We have had several trainers involved. My dog has never bit anyone before but doesn't like small children touching her.
Oh no @JustcallmeGG2 that is awful I'm so sorry!! I'm sure your H just feels awful that it happened on his watch! Poor Sydney - I hope her face heals up quickly and no further intervention is needed! Hang in there.
@Meow84 grab yourself a cup of coffee or something because this could get long. Just FYI when I say "mom" or "dad" in this story, I am referring to my adoptive parents.
I always grew up knowing and understanding that I was adopted. For a little background, at the time I was born my mom was working as a nurse and my dad was a high school football coach. (He passed away when I was 13.) I remember asking a few times when I was really little about my birth mother, and my mom would just respond that she didn't know where she lived. This was enough information for my child mind at the time and I didn't ask much after that. When I turned 18, I started to become more curious and asked again if my mom knew anything about where I had come from. That's when I learned that our local family doctor, who my mom worked under at the time I was born, had set up my adoption and I had come from a local family. My birth mother, who was 16 when I was born, and my birth father both went to school at the high school where my dad coached! Crazy. She pulled down my dad's old yearbook from when he coached, flipped to the sophomore section and pointed out my mom, who could pretty much be my twin. Then flipped to the senior section and pointed out my dad.
Knowing this information was enough to process at the time, and I was satisfied just knowing who they were. So I continued to college, and halfway through my freshman year, my mom called me and told me to sit down. I complied, and she told me that my birth mother had written her a letter. When I was 3, my birth parents ended up getting married. They had since divorced, but while together they had a son, at the time he was 16. So to recap- FULL BLOOD brother I've never met! My birth mother thought that my brother was old enough to know about me, and thought it was only fair that he be able to pursue a relationship with me if I was willing. She had remarried, and also had a daughter who at the time was around 7 or 8. So I also had a half sister! Of course I was thrilled about this information, and since they still live in state we met shortly after. We've been in close contact ever since! They are an amazing family and they are super happy to be involved in Taylor's life. Something that had always made me sad when I was younger was the thought that I'd never get to be someone's blood related aunt, and that dream came true this year when my brother had his first son in February. He just married my nephew's mother last week, and she is an awesome girl. My mom has been really supportive through the whole thing which helps a lot, although I do have to be careful about how I word things around her. She is really sensitive about being Taylor's main "Grammy" which is totally understandable. As far as my birth father goes, he lives in Texas with his "new" family and doesn't have the greatest relationship with my brother or my birth mom. I've met him once at my brother's graduation and wasn't terribly impressed. I don't have any desire for a relationship with him, and I think my real Daddy passing away has a lot to do with that. To end on a happy note, here's a pic from the day we all met, and then another one taken a few weeks ago when we were being silly.
Wow @ RTaylor12 - that is such a crazy story. How amazing that you have a full-blood brother that you now know and can be close to. Is your relationship with your birth mother a good one? I can completely understand that your mom wants to be Taylors main "grammy" she earned that by raising you, but I'm sure your birth mother loves being a grandma too?
I guess the best way to describe our relationship is like one I would have with a much older sister, or aunt maybe. We don't get together as often as we would like but we do have a good relationship. We went out to their place a few weeks ago (they have an in-ground pool...major perk haha) and we all had a blast. I think she will have an aunt-type relationship with Taylor (she absolutely ADORES her) and we are trying to figure out what Taylor will call her. Her name is Barbara and when she was in high school people called her Barbie, I thought that would be really cute, Taylor's "Barbie".
chipmunk: my husband and I both agree that pets are our family. we both have to be very diligent in watching over the dogs behavior. however I don't want this to ever happen again or we will be forced to make a decision.
I think we have a much better chance of people moving on from this if we leave it alone and stop stirring the pot for a little while. Just my two cents...
@nomad328 agreed, but we still have no mod and now there is no response to PMs. A bit frustrating, in my opinion.
@barnseyam I agree. It is frustrating and they are also stirring the pot by not responding. It's a messed up situation, but hopefully it will blow over soon.
@summergirl1211 I just got back from vacation last night. I was supposed to start my new job today. However, you will notice I said supposed to. They "terminated" my offer verbally on Friday, and officially yesterday morning. Such a shitty way to end my vacation.
I have been thinking about how to post about this this morning, but wasn't sure how to start it. I am beyond pissed off. I think their reasons are bull shit. Anyway. Now I have to start the job hunt without a job. (
On a more positive note, vacation was very relaxing (until friday night) and we had a wonderful time seeing family and friends.
Whaaaattt?! How can they do that? Major a-holes! And after you quit your other job? Cannot believe it. So sorry!
Take this with a grain of salt but if my dog bit my child enough for her to require a plastic surgeon evaluation. My .40 would have met that dogs head (theoritically), but im not your average barbie doll so theres that.
thank you all for your concern.if you met my dog you would not say she's aggressive at all.I will be discussing this more with my dog trainer.
you might not see me around for a while because Sydney is being hospitalized for a few days because the scratch is now infected. I need to focus on that right now and not the message board stuff about my dog.
GG I feel I have to say this. In your post you just said the following:
If you met my dog you would not say she's aggressive at all
My daughter is being hospitalized for a few days because the scratch is now infected (from said dog)
You are making this out to be a little scratch (by calling it a scratch, it must be much worse). Your dog attacked your child. Your baby. It makes me sick that you are choosing your dog over your daughter's safety.
I understand why you won't be around, I just wanted to get that off my chest. I hope Sydney recovers quickly.
And you've also spoken out of both sides of your mouth:
"I am TRYING not to be mad at him because he is really upset but our agreement was the dogs should be gated in the kitchen if only 1 parent is around. I guess he got too comfortable and thought that the dog's aggressive tendencies had gone away."
So is the dog aggressive or not? You've said both.
My dog would be rehomed in a heartbeat if he ever bit my child. Flesh and blood over fur.
GG...you know that the doctor and nurses are usually MANDATED BY LAW to report dog bites. Animal control may not let you CHOOSE to keep the dog; they may just take it or if you don't give him up, they may report you to DCF for child endangerment. I am shocked that you are even considering keeping this dog
GG...you know that the doctor and nurses are usually MANDATED BY LAW to report dog bites. Animal control may not let you CHOOSE to keep the dog; they may just take it or if you don't give him up, they may report you to DCF for child endangerment. I am shocked that you are even considering keeping this dog
Really? Huh. Learn something new every day.
Yes, at least here it is. When I worked in the ER, we were legally obliged to report every animal bite, regardless of who the owner of the animal is. The nurse/doctors/social workers/case managers/animal control could all report this as child endangerment. Obviously the dog is a threat to the child's safety
@nomad328 agreed, but we still have no mod and now there is no response to PMs. A bit frustrating, in my opinion.
@barnseyam I agree. It is frustrating and they are also stirring the pot by not responding. It's a messed up situation, but hopefully it will blow over soon.
@adorebella--What kind of social work do you do? You're a practitioner, right? Also, what kind of pie was your wedding pie?
@mightybee Apparently mobile doesn't give me notifications anymore and I missed this! Yup I'm a therapist/counselor/mental health worker. There doesn't seem to be any standardized word for a social worker that does therapy. Right now I work in substance abuse treatment but I'll be leaving that field when I get another job. My interview clothes are getting a workout this week so hopefully that happens soon.
Now the fun stuff: I had 17 pies at my wedding - Michigan four berry with a cheesecake bottom, strawberry rhubarb, apple crumb, and tart cherry. All served with a side of vanilla ice cream. OMG so amazing.
My dad is in the substance abuse treatment field right now. He's not a SW, but a certified addictions counselor. I imagine that it's a very challenging population to work with. Good luck with all of your interviews! Are you looking in any particular field or just feel the need to switch it up? Let us know how the job search ends up.
Your wedding sounds like it was a pie-lover's dream. That Michigan four berry with the cheesecake bottom is making my mouth water! What a fun twist to a traditional wedding cake or even dessert bar.
@mightybee I actually have to leave my current job because I don't have my addiction counselor certification. I've had 3 years to get it done but it costs $1000 between the courses and the exam so I've never wanted to pony up. I always assumed that getting an MSW from a top university would be all I ever needed... no dice. So I'll be leaving addiction work for now and at this point I'm pretty glad. I've enjoyed my job for the most part but working in residential facilities blows. Last night I spent 3 hours breaking up a fight and then had to discharge clients who where threatening to kill others. Ughhhh I hate that part.
Re: ~AAA~
The only thing i'll miss is our house and land. We live in such a beautiful area, seriously. We have one neighbor and he's a mile away. Were tucked in the middle of the woods and it's so peaceful. I love my house also it just fits us.
I do kind of want to move where we have a few more neighbors but I dont know how that will work with big F's PTSD so im hoping we can find something a little less secluded than where we are now.
Other than that nothing, we really have no reason to stay here other than our house
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
We might lose the sale over this. I spent last night sick to my stomach thinking about it and I feel the same way today.
ETA: no word from our realtor yet today.
This is just insane to me. My dad has been a realtor for a long time and Ive never heard anything like this happening... Im still hoping it works out for the best!!
It takes me 15-20 minutes for my full face. Always has. I just carved out that much time each morning. Its really relaxing to me.
ETA: I'm so weird I study the make up on models in ads in magazines. I have for years. I need an intervention lol.
Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12
BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
Bert & Ernie came from the Plastics... I forget which one specifically, though I am inclined to believe it was Megs. I thought it was pretty freaking adorable, and it stuck... She does look like an Ernie
Annnnnd I was channeling Jessie earlier, and I passed along your question... And I believe this is what she would have wanted to tell you, if she could still be here herself, but she can't, because TB killed her.
"I've been poling for about 6 months Its really hard but you eventually just build up the strength You need to do the stuff. I'm going to start doing yoga because I need more flexibility."
Edited for: stuff
@Pinkangelmoon:
Hi!!!!! Thanks for asking but it has NOT been good. Things were fine until yesterday. My dog went after Sydney and got her left cheek. We rushed her to the ER last night, one mark looks deep. God, there was blood all over her and my husband. We are seeing a plastic surgeon in 2 hours to make sure we don't need any further intervention. She is in good spirits though, she doesn't know anything is wrong. Her poor little face
Er doctor didn't think it needed a plastic surgeon but my pediatrician said we should get a consult, just in case.
Ummmm.... so pretty much its almost the WORST thing that could have happened.
I am TRYING not to be mad at him because he is really upset but our agreement was the dogs should be gated in the kitchen if only 1 parent is around. I guess he got too comfortable and thought that the dog's aggressive tendencies had gone away.
Its going to be a tough 4 or 5 years keeping them separated from one another (dog and babies). We have had several trainers involved. My dog has never bit anyone before but doesn't like small children touching her.
@Meow84 grab yourself a cup of coffee or something because this could get long. Just FYI when I say "mom" or "dad" in this story, I am referring to my adoptive parents.
I always grew up knowing and understanding that I was adopted. For a little background, at the time I was born my mom was working as a nurse and my dad was a high school football coach. (He passed away when I was 13.) I remember asking a few times when I was really little about my birth mother, and my mom would just respond that she didn't know where she lived. This was enough information for my child mind at the time and I didn't ask much after that. When I turned 18, I started to become more curious and asked again if my mom knew anything about where I had come from. That's when I learned that our local family doctor, who my mom worked under at the time I was born, had set up my adoption and I had come from a local family. My birth mother, who was 16 when I was born, and my birth father both went to school at the high school where my dad coached! Crazy. She pulled down my dad's old yearbook from when he coached, flipped to the sophomore section and pointed out my mom, who could pretty much be my twin. Then flipped to the senior section and pointed out my dad.
Knowing this information was enough to process at the time, and I was satisfied just knowing who they were. So I continued to college, and halfway through my freshman year, my mom called me and told me to sit down. I complied, and she told me that my birth mother had written her a letter. When I was 3, my birth parents ended up getting married. They had since divorced, but while together they had a son, at the time he was 16. So to recap- FULL BLOOD brother I've never met! My birth mother thought that my brother was old enough to know about me, and thought it was only fair that he be able to pursue a relationship with me if I was willing. She had remarried, and also had a daughter who at the time was around 7 or 8. So I also had a half sister! Of course I was thrilled about this information, and since they still live in state we met shortly after. We've been in close contact ever since! They are an amazing family and they are super happy to be involved in Taylor's life. Something that had always made me sad when I was younger was the thought that I'd never get to be someone's blood related aunt, and that dream came true this year when my brother had his first son in February. He just married my nephew's mother last week, and she is an awesome girl. My mom has been really supportive through the whole thing which helps a lot, although I do have to be careful about how I word things around her. She is really sensitive about being Taylor's main "Grammy" which is totally understandable. As far as my birth father goes, he lives in Texas with his "new" family and doesn't have the greatest relationship with my brother or my birth mom. I've met him once at my brother's graduation and wasn't terribly impressed. I don't have any desire for a relationship with him, and I think my real Daddy passing away has a lot to do with that. To end on a happy note, here's a pic from the day we all met, and then another one taken a few weeks ago when we were being silly.
you might not see me around for a while because Sydney is being hospitalized for a few days because the scratch is now infected. I need to focus on that right now and not the message board stuff about my dog.
"I am TRYING not to be mad at him because he is really upset but our agreement was the dogs should be gated in the kitchen if only 1 parent is around. I guess he got too comfortable and thought that the dog's aggressive tendencies had gone away."
So is the dog aggressive or not? You've said both.
My dog would be rehomed in a heartbeat if he ever bit my child. Flesh and blood over fur.
What just happened in my diaper?!
Yes, at least here it is. When I worked in the ER, we were legally obliged to report every animal bite, regardless of who the owner of the animal is. The nurse/doctors/social workers/case managers/animal control could all report this as child endangerment. Obviously the dog is a threat to the child's safety
What just happened in my diaper?!