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Newborn bonding with dad

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Hi ladies...looking for some pointers here..I am a formula feeding mom, but still, my 1 week old only wants ,e. if she's fussing I'm the only one who can calm her. If she is calm, and I pass her to hubby, she gets restless. I know when she won't stop crying he gets frusterated, and I told him she can sense that... I feel so bad. My husband broke down last night and said he feels like a failure, and why doesn't understand why she doesn't like him. I explained that she was in me for 9 months, heard my heartbeat for 9 months, and it's not him....has there been anything that you and your partner have done to get baby to attach to dad?
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Re: Newborn bonding with dad

  • jayro10jayro10 member
    Lots of skin to skin with dad!
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  • botanicalblissbotanicalbliss member
    wear one of his shirts so he will smell like you
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  • getaclue44getaclue44 member
    I agree with PP lots of skin to skin.  Also my hubby does everything but feed her from the second he gets home (I am EBF).  When we do bath time, he cuddles with her after and gets her into her pjs.  When she wakes in the middle of the night, he gets her, changes her and calms her before she is fed.  It is working great for them.  


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  • VPGIRL06VPGIRL06 member
    Skin on skin. My husband did it from day 1 for one if her naps and he could calm her. Skin on skin and have yor husband hum so she feels the vibrations in the chest
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  • MrsArrowMrsArrow member
    Lots of skin to skin....and definitely leave the room so he has time to relax and learn how to calm LO w/o you staring at him (not that you do...he just may feel that way). I went out with my mother to Starbucks for an hour and he had DS by himself. He sat in my rocker, did skin to skin with a soft blanket over both of them and talked softly to him until he calmed down....now DH can calm him down faster than me sometimes!! ha ha! (unless he is hungry...EBF)
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  • momintraining2013momintraining2013 member
    Ciahanna said:
    Maybe suggest he take care of her for an hour while you go and have time to yourself? Even if it's just being in another room while you take a bath.This way he can find out how to soothe her without you around.He might feel like you're judging the way he takes care of her (my DH felt like this for awhile). Now my DH  loves what he calls "Daddy Daughter Time".
    This worked well for my DH with our daughter. It was hard for me to leave them alone together because I knew he would struggle but it ended up really helping him find his style of soothing her and helped them start to build their relationship. And she had a chance to get used to him. However, that was not until she was about 3 weeks old. I think at one week old it would be harder.
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