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Same town/school district

sweetwalkssweetwalks member
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For those of you who live in the same town & school district; talk to me about your CO.

Do you have 50/50?
Pros? Cons?
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Re: Same town/school district

  • Banana44Banana44 member
    Same school district - different towns.
    We are about 25 minutes apart.
    We have 50/50.

    We currently do the 2/5/5/2 and I much prefer the every other week - but that's just me.

    My DH and BM have an extremely high conflict case (they do not even speak to each other) and the benefit to the 50/50 is that they rarely have to argue over whose time it is and make up time.

    The only con we have is that there seems to be a constant power struggle.  But again - that could just be our case.
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  • sweetwalkssweetwalks member
    Thanks!

    25 minutes seems far to be in the same school district. Maybe ours are just small?

    I think I would prefer the every other week as well. Monday pick up and school and Monday drop off at school.

    DH & BM aren't high conflict, so that's working for us. We currently are EOW schedule due to distance but are looking to move next year. (He hasn't started school yet). I'm not sure BM would be willing to go back to 50/50 and I don't know what a judge would say either.
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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member
    Our school district is huge. We live in different towns but same district and also live about 25 minutes away. We have SS EO F-W. I wish we had one more night like the Wednesday the week we don't have him but I don't see that happening. Getting 3 different kids to 3 different schools is not easy but we make it work.
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  • Mkherren12Mkherren12 member
    Same town different school districts. I'm PCP. XH has 1,3,5 weekends but with his job he rarely gets DD. for the record I'm pretty flexible about trading and what not. He just doesn't ask.
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  • sweetwalkssweetwalks member
    Sunday924 said:

    Our school district is huge. We live in different towns but same district and also live about 25 minutes away. We have SS EO F-W. I wish we had one more night like the Wednesday the week we don't have him but I don't see that happening. Getting 3 different kids to 3 different schools is not easy but we make it work.

    I would definitely like for the parent who's time it isn't to have either Wednesday or Thursday for dinner or overnight.

    It wouldn't be too bad because we would only have one school to drop off at.

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  • agibbyagibby member

    We are 20 min away in diff towns and school districts and DH and BM are 50/50 EOW. It works fine for us since it's so close and DH will drop off SS at school on the way to work and I will pick him up on my way home from work.

    They used to trade W overnights on the other parent's week but with SS having diff drop off and pick up schedules for school (she will be having him bussed to a daycare) the thought was it would be easier for SS not to have to remember that W switch.

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  • agibbyagibby member
    edited August 2013
    sweetwalks said:
    Thanks! 25 minutes seems far to be in the same school district. Maybe ours are just small? I think I would prefer the every other week as well. Monday pick up and school and Monday drop off at school. DH & BM aren't high conflict, so that's working for us. We currently are EOW schedule due to distance but are looking to move next year. (He hasn't started school yet). I'm not sure BM would be willing to go back to 50/50 and I don't know what a judge would say either.
     
     

    That's DH and BM's schedule for SS. drop off Monday at school/daycare, pick up the next Monday after school/daycare. They are diff towns (20 min apart) and it works out just fine that way.
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  • agibbyagibby member
    Banana44 said:
    Same school district - different towns.
    We are about 25 minutes apart.
    We have 50/50.

    We currently do the 2/5/5/2 and I much prefer the every other week - but that's just me.

    My DH and BM have an extremely high conflict case (they do not even speak to each other) and the benefit to the 50/50 is that they rarely have to argue over whose time it is and make up time.

    The only con we have is that there seems to be a constant power struggle.  But again - that could just be our case.
    DH and BM talk rarely but use Our Family Wizard for most communication. They have 50/50 EOW. It's written in the court order for make up time, whomever has to miss time with the child on their week can make it up the next week. A lot of the times they will work it out for a diff week if the next week doesn't work. It keeps it fair for SS.
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  • grumbledoregrumbledore member
    Same school district, same neighborhood.  We do 50/50 1 week here, 1 week there.  We are flexible about return time on our switch day - we have a set time, but if there's something going on one place or the other, we try to accommodate.

    It works okay - we've made a lot of strides over the past couple of years as far as trying to keep similar rules and schedules where possible.  We do go to counseling (right now we take DD on our week, they take her on theirs, but we are going all together in a couple of weeks) to help DD with whatever issues she is having living in two places because it is tough on a kid but I think it can work if everyone is really committed to making it work.

    Our judge was very much in favor of this compromise.  Prior to agreeing to 50/50 (which required me to move in order to make it work), we had a very contentious custody battle.
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