To have a D and C or to not have a D and C?

cmcookaln · August 2013

I have had two ultrasounds with the same results...a sac with no baby. I am going to have one more on Thursday because I want to make absolutely sure but there is still a part of me that is telling me to wait a little longer just in case. If u have had a D and C or chose not to have a D and C, please let me know about your experience. My husband is leaving the decision completely up to me so I am mentally exhausted trying to figure out what to do.

Candileigh03 · August 2013

I don't have a personal experience with a d&c but from a medical standpoint I think I would choose to have one. I would look at it as getting a clean slate to start from scratch. No matter what you choose hats off to you for following your gut and waiting for that one more ultrasound. I pray a miracle happens for you!

totalbabydoll4ever · August 2013

I had that and I chose to do the misoprotosol instead of the d&c, it was painful to use the pills, but worth not having to have the invasion of the d&c

MrsR712 · August 2013

I had a lost last march and I had a D&C. It was quick and painless. But afterwards I was very emotional for awhile. The feeling of being pregnant and then in a matter of an hr or so there is an emptiness. The first week was very difficult for me. But it does get easy. Thoughts and prayers for you and your husband.

htn1763 · August 2013

I had a d&c. I wanted closure. I didn't want to not know when it was going to happen, when I would start bleeding, and I heard it's painful on your own. I had no issues with my d&c. Woke up and didn't have any pain. I bled for about a week pretty lightly.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. There is a miscarriage/loss board that might be helpful too.

ring_pop · August 2013

I'm so sorry.

ufsandra85 · August 2013

i am so sorry, the process of my d and c miscarriage was the best. the others were so drawn out and terrible. it was just nice to have it over with. one i bled for 6 weeks and my hcg still wasnt under 5. it was the miscarriage that would never end. i would do a d and c if i had the option

cmcookaln · August 2013

I read earlier about the scar tissue that can be left behind that can affect future fertility and I definitely don't want this to happen. This risks appear to be pretty minimal though

matthew24 · August 2013

htn1763 said:

I had a d&c. I wanted closure. I didn't want to not know when it was going to happen, when I would start bleeding, and I heard it's painful on your own. I had no issues with my d&c. Woke up and didn't have any pain. I bled for about a week pretty lightly.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. There is a miscarriage/loss board that might be helpful too.

This. I actually had a D & E, which is just slightly different, in February for a blighted ovum and it was a sense of end for me. I was 10 weeks at that point and it could have taken weeks for me to naturally miscarry while my uterus continued to grow; I just wanted it over. It took a day or two to feel 100 percent but by Monday I was feeling well. I wish you all the best and am so sorry for your loss

salbert610 · August 2013

I had a d&c in April. It was difficult but I'm glad I went with that decision. Waiting for the inevitable to happen was agonizing. The idea of taking a pill was scary, I had heard that it makes the process even more painful and intense. I felt that my body felt cleansed after the d&c. I also lost a lot of blood, nearly needed a transfusion. Doctor confirmed I would have needed an emergency d&c had I miscarried naturally. Apparently nearly half of miscarriages end up needing a d&c. I'm so sorry for your loss. There is lots of great research saying confirming the success of pregnancies within 6 months of miscarriage. I hope for you and your DH to have strength and peace.

Mamackf · August 2013

I am so sorry you have to go with this

ceh789 · August 2013

I had a D&C with my molar pregnancy - it's extremely dangerous to not have a D&C in that case. I've also miscarried naturally and given a choice in the future I'd have the D&C again. It's fast and (for me) painless and just... cleaner, I guess. I don't want to go all gross on you, but losing large clots and tissue at home was quite mentally traumatic for me - the D&C eliminated that piece. I hope you can come to a peaceful decision and I'm sorry for your loss.

BethRN1987 · August 2013

So sorry.

I've done it both ways natural MC and a DnC.

The pain from the natural MC was way more then I ever want to relive but everyone is different. I also had to have a DnC with that one because I didn't end up passing all the tissue.

DnC surgery physically is very easy in my opinion. It's emotionally hard either way you go. I've had over ten surgeries though so surgeries don't phase me.

But you'll get an IV, go back to the room and be out to sleep. When you wake up you'll be groggy and cramps for a while. Like period cramps

ladyglittersparkles · August 2013

I had a d&c in march. It's tough I feel for you so much. I decided to have it because my body had not naturally mc'd and there was disinigration
The after was tough emotionally I took a week of work not because my body was distressing but because I was mentally not okay. As far as physically it takes time for your body to return to non pg state (symptom wise)
The procedure is fairly quick which is ok (as ok as this kind of situation can be)
I wish you the best in this journey.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband

jennbaylor12 · August 2013

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope your next appointment has positive results

pattipants · August 2013

I don't have any personal experience with this, so I can't offer advice. But I am so sorry that you are going through this. Sending T&P your way.

VineyardMel · August 2013

I'm so sorry. I opted not to have the surgery. I gave it 10 more days and then took miso. It was a very intense experience but I have no regrets.

klutz2005 · August 2013

I am so sorry you are going through this.

Moedowell · August 2013

Oh I'm so sorry you're going through this right now! I had a loss in march, BO, and really struggled with the what if we were early idea. We opted for the natural way, and if I could do it over I would have done the d&c.. It took weeks for me to mc and it was both painful and incredibly traumatic! More so than I could have ever imagined and I don't wish that on anyone.. It's of course your decision I did wait to try one more late ultrasound, I too neede to know for sure before even thinking it... I wish you all the best, sorry again it's just the worst! / :

AlwaysSunny08 · August 2013

I'm so sorry

. I had a d and c in February and it was definitely the right decision. Physically it was pretty muh painless and it gave me closure. I wish you the best of luck with whatever you choose.

avigailandcharlie · August 2013

So sorry you are going through this. The pain is agonizing and not knowing yet is the absolute worst. Just know, that even though it's so low now, it gets better. Wine helped me (not too much guys, just a couple glasses a week).

Anyway, I went with the D&C for most of the reasons already stated. I really didn't want to emotionally deal with waking up in a pool of my own blood, and wanted the closure. Plus, to me, there was something almost relaxing about going to get a D&C - that sounds super weird, but my doctor was so comforting, you get to be completely put under, and they give you pain killers to take for the next two days. I was actually in a lot of pain, more than I thought I would be, but it was manageable, I just took the painkillers for the next two days and sort of escaped everything, which is exactly what I needed. My copay for the entire D&C was only $50, so it wasn't that expensive either, and I had full anesthesia.

amandaluff · August 2013

I had a missed miscarriage in February and opted for the d and c. It was easy in the sense that it was done and over with... Rather than waiting for it to pass (I did that with 2 other losses)... But emotionally it was more difficult. I just woke up the next morning and lost it because everything that we planned for was gone..

No matter your decision just prepare yourself and take sometime to yourself.

aamyggirl · August 2013

Im sorry you have to go through this. I lost my baby at 12 1/2 weeks in Dec. I did not have a D&C and had many complications with bleeding and many trips to the hosp. It took 3 months to stop bleeding. It was very hard on me physically and mentally. I would def. get a D&C if I was ever in the position again.

ellajune2012 · August 2013

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.

I've done both a d&c and the meds (cytotec) and preferred the meds even though the hour or so of passing clots was pretty intense. But then, I ended up passing clots with intense pain a few days after my d&c too, so I didn't get the "easy" recovery others had. Either way, I would ask your doc to prescribe pain meds, just in case. You might not need them, but Motrin did nothing for me in either instance.

Satchrat · August 2013

My personal experience with this is to go ahead and have the d and c. If it is a molar pregnancy you are takin the chance of "it" growing back. My dr didn't believe in the pill to make you pass it on your own. I don't either. I tried to pass it naturally and it was a near death experience for me. Also an emotional roller coaster. I had to go for a year getting my hcg levels checked to make sure the mole was not growing back- in my opinion- let me say it again this is my own OPINION it would be better to be safe than sorry! It was a quick recovery and if you want to try to find some positive out of it-( which was very hard for me to do )- having a d and c done makes you more fertile..... Especially if you are ttc. I was told to wait 6 months before I ttc again- this happened to me when I was 21 and I was young and didn't know what was going on and I didn't understand any of it! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family right now as I know the decision you are having to make is not easy! Inbox me if you would like to talk! Hope everything goes well!

Hb8983 · August 2013

I have had one and it was a very easy process. Very little pain. I found it easier to have it done rather than wait for the pregnancy to naturally abort itself after I had the same experience. I was devastated and I needed to begin the healing process which couldn't start until my body had done its thing. My sister chose to allow her pregnancy to pass naturally and it was a painful and scary process. I would absolutely advocate for a D &C or at least if i was put in the same situation, I would do it again.

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