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How long do I need help?

Stephanie2167Stephanie2167 member
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DH should be able to take a good 3 weeks off when the babies get here. My parents are both retired and I've mentioned to my mom that I'd love for her to come out and stay awhile. We're in Texas, she's in California. I feel really bad saying "hey, want to come stay with us for two months?" It's not like they live in the next town over and she'll just come over each morning. So I've been thinking maybe she'll stay a month. But it also all depends on when the girls come since it's right around the holidays. My in-laws are planning to come for Christmas.

I'm not sure what to do. We're military so we don't have any family real close (my sister luckily is 4 hours away) so unless someone comes out and stays awhile, I'll be on my own after week 3. Will I survive?


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  • Mrs JillBMrs JillB member
    Yes. The biggest thing will be recouping from whatever birth you had. By three weeks, you should be relatively fine from either one.
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  • Stephanie2167Stephanie2167 member
    Mrs JillB said:
    Yes. The biggest thing will be recouping from whatever birth you had. By three weeks, you should be relatively fine from either one.
    I'll be having a repeat c-section.


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  • chickaboo1974chickaboo1974 member
    edited August 2013
    yes you'll survive. My boys were in the NICU for 17 days. Then they came home at 7 p.m. on a Monday night. My husband left for work at 5 am on Tuesday. I had no family close by. I did it without outside help. If I had somebody here for a month I think I would have gone nuts.

    I had an emergency c section.. I was fine after about 2 weeks
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  • steidlasteidla member
    You can do it! I am on my own after having family off and on the first few weeks. It was kind of a relief when it was just us again (with hubby at work) because we can actually make progress on scheduling them, etc. Family is great, but sometimes they have their own ideas about how things should work based on their singleton experiences. I agree that recovering from the birth is most important, and if you get mastitis or something, you will appreciate the extra help.
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  • JordynLeighx3JordynLeighx3 member
    I appreciated help when I got it but it was honestly so much easier just doing things myself. We came home on a Saturday, H was with me Sunday, and went back to work Monday.

    For me it was easier than "directing" anyone else what to do.
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  • carrotcake06carrotcake06 member
    I think you'd want help around your due date regardless of when the babies are born. I have 34weekers that were in the NICU for 13 days. Once they came home, they slept a lot and I didnt really need a bunch of help since they were so sleepy. They've really woken up in the past 3 weeks and have hit some wicked growth spurts (theyre 8w, 2w adjusted). Plus I'm recovered from my c/s so I'm ready for a break or two and to rejoin the human race.

    If you have any older LOs, though, take as much help as you can get. I have a 3yo DS and I would love an extra pair of hands pretty much all the time. He goes to daycare FT since we both work, so in the evenings when we have to do dinner/bath/bed with two fussy newborns, it's is enough to drive anyone to the brink of sanity.
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  • JoDocJoDoc member

    I'm so glad you asked this question because I was wondering the same thing!  My DH should be able to get 3 weeks as well.  I don't have anyone who could stay with me during the day once DH is back at work, or rather, I don't have anyone I want available.  There are some who would be available but I will NOT allow them to help...long story. 

    I'm not scared at all, just concerned about being able to care for 2 little ones plus myself once DH goes back to work. 

     

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  • Mama-BearMama-Bear member
    We had/have minimal help.  DS1 was 27m when my twins where born.  Twins born via c/s on a Thursday, went home Monday.  DH took the remainder of that week off and then I was on my own.  Our parents live close by (about 30 minutes in different directions) so they're always available for baby sitting or if I'm at the end of my rope, but as far as actually "helping with the baby(ies)", we've never had any and we're still standing.

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