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April 2014 Moms
newter135
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feeling betrayed and angry
newter135
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So I recently told who I thought was one of my best friends about my pregnancy. I told her because my whole family lives very far away and if (heaven forbid) something was to go wrong I wanted to have someone near by that I could lean on. The one thing I explicitly said though when we broke the news to her and her husband was that we did not want to make the news public yet, we would tell our family after we hear the heartbeat and then tell everyone else once we got through the first trimester. Today I am leaving a workout class at the studio where she teaches and the owner of that studios, mother (so we are talking a VERY random person here), says "I heard your news congratulations! how are you feeling?!" I was so caught off guard! I didn't know what to say! I was honest but I couldn't believe it. The woman went on to say that she wasn't sure if she was supposed to know but was very happy for me. It was a nice gesture but I'm absolutely infuriated as the only way she could know was if my friend told her. This place is like high school too, gossip spreads like wild fire so I'm sure half the people I exercise with now know. On top of that I can't help thinking if she told this person who barely knows me and that I barely know who the heck else has she told. Finally I am pissed off because frankly, it was not her news to share. This is such a special and delicate time for my husband and I and I would have preferred to let people know in my own way and can't understand why she had to open her big mouth. I mean hopefully everything goes smoothly and my baby and I are fine but we haven't even had our first appointment with the doctor yet I don't like that other people know and will be asking me for updates and the like when its such a touchy time in my pregnancy. Plus lets be honest, I'm completely hormonal.
At the moment I'm too angry to even talk to her but I do feel like I need to confront her in some way I'm just not sure how to go about it. Plus I want to know who else she told but I feel like if she was to say no one I swear I wouldn't believe her anyways.
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Re: feeling betrayed and angry
my mom did the same thing to me with DD- I told her three days before Christmas & asked her not to say anything until I told my grandmother- then at Christmas Eve mass the church lady in my hometown waves me down and says 'congrats!!' My mom had run into her at the grocery store and didn't think the church lady would tell anybody, so what's the harm? I was upset too, but it is what it is at this point.
Married 9/18/10
TTC 1/1/12
BFP #1 12/13/12 MMC Confirmed 1/30/13
BFP #2 6/17/13, (Clomid+Ovidrel) CP Confirmed 6/26/13
BFP #3 8/14/2013 (Letrozole+IUI) Charlie Grace born 5/2/2014
Laparoscopic surgery 8/15 to remove misplaced IUD
BFP #4, #5, #6 (Letrozole+IUI)all MMC, BFP #7 EDD 1/3/2017
BFP#1 9/5/12, MMC, MC confirmed 10/9/12,
D&C 12/12/12 BFP#2 7/30/13, EDD 4/12/14, DS born 4/14/14
Because I often get flustered in face-to-face confrontations, I find it's helpful to write out exactly what I want to say. Whether I email it to them or just use it as kind of a script in my head for an in-person conversation, that always helps me to organize my thoughts!