why me? lol

Re: why me? lol

• 20thirteen member

  August 2013

  Crazy stuff? Not like murder, right? LOL I have a light bulb over my head that attracts the crazies too...

  

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• EarthandFire member

  August 2013

  I look at it this way, there is no guarantee in any relationship. The more you care the more you have to lose. If you don't have something to lose I would question how much you value that relationship. He may be a changed man but he may not. Look at his life now compared to then. I've worked with guys who were in prison for minor crimes and they were changed. I wouldn't date them but knowing them it was unlikely they'd do what they did again. Does he have a stable job? Did he then? Look at the people he chooses to spend his time with and what he does. I'd definitely take it slow and cover your bases.
  
  My XH seemed great. Stable job, couple speeding tickets, motivated worker, strong family attachment, valued my opinions and independence, ect. That was before we were married. After he became an @$$. I won't bore you with the details but I had no way of knowing he'd do what he did. He's already been married and divorced a second time and people I've seen who know him and should like him say he's turned into an @$$. Relationships are chances. You weigh your odds and what you could lose. If the loss is too high get out. It sounds like he's copper to his offenses and is realistic that his past behavior could hurt his chances in future relationships. That sounds good but listen to your instincts. They'll probably know best.

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• babymama619 member

  August 2013

  Any moderately crazy info means RUN THE FUCK AWAY!!!
  
  The last two guys I dated were both crazy liars. Not off the Internet, met them in real life FYI. They both lied about their names, one lied about his age, where he lived, his job everything.
  
  The next one lied about his name, being married, having an infant and oh having a vasectomy. Guess who's 27 weeks pregnant? Me that's who!
  
  I got tiny red flags in the beginning from both but let them go. You should not be compromising this early in a relationship. Right now this guy is no different from
  Anyone else off the street so send him back. But if you let this crazy thing go, be prepared for more crazy stuff to surface because it will.

  
  

  

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• pregokat member

  August 2013

  I know right? 

  I was ok accepting he has some baggage, because ya know- I do too.. But after this I'm like thinking "nah, I'm good!" 
  
  So I'm bowing out! I got my own fish to fry- my own shit to deal with, and I don't need anything else or anyone elses baggage to handle  

  
  

  Oh its not murder but its like umm Dude I cant even say its fricken crazy its breaking & entering and doing some crazy stuff in a doctors office while on drugs... But supposedly the specific situation isn't true but the breaking and entering is. Anyways. I wasn't there. I have no idea is the police lying or is he lying? and no way of ever finding out the real truth. 

  EITHER WAY.. yeah no thanks! 

  I'll just focus on work and raising my child to be an amazing citizen  

  lol 

  ugh. 

  I have arrows and neon signs saying "weirdos pick this one" above my head.. 

  At least I'm learning! I'm bowing out this time! no second chances or anything, So I'm proud of myself for that! 

  thanks ladies 

  and good luck to you too you with the sign on your head as well haha

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• ktedmon member

  August 2013

  I wish I had known more about my baby's daddy before I got with him. I am pregnant with his 6th and there is one after me. She told me, that he had spent time in prison for Stat rape. He claims he told me, but he didn't. Not only that, but she did some searching and printed out his criminal record...33 pages long. It includes failure to pay CS, indecent exposure, battery, and more. I thought, this is more than I can take and because of that, he will never see his son, unless it is extremely well supervised. I am really weary about anyone nowadays because there is someone else more important than myself that will be affected by my decisions. Just be careful and follow your heart.

  
  

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• pregokat member

  August 2013

  Wow, ktedmon.. that's crazy.. 

  everything my bd had told me about his life were lies... When I found out and dumped him, it was too late & I was pregnant. I haven't seen him since then and found out he's a con artist, lies his way through life, uses people until they catch on and then bounces to the next person... He also has a criminal record of theft, burglary and failure to appear in court... 

  Gosh I thought I was the only one. I hate how people can do things like that! I don't get it

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• ktedmon member

  August 2013

  Maybe we know the same guy, lol. Baby mamma #7 and I have gotten to know each other. Our children will probably never know their other siblings because he doesn't get to see them anyway, but we are going to make sure our children know each other. My BD is also a liar, user, con artist and more.I guess he buys cheap jewelry from over seas and then tries to sell it on ebay and craigslist for 10x the price. He pays .10 for a silver chain and tries to sell it for $25.00. My son doesn't need to be around that crap.

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