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Pamelacake
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waiting for "contempt" papers and BM didn't show yesterday for her visit.
Pamelacake
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I'm sure many of you are sick of hearing my ramblings and vents. I have gotten some great advice from here and DH is taking the day off tomorrow to follow through with some of the advice. The attorney still has not gotten back with either one of us so his office is our first stop. I will probably sit at his office until he shows up while DH handles the other things like getting ahold of the congress. I will also probably walk over to the courthouse and see if I can get anything done there.
BM left a vm at 1:30am last Wednesday night/Thursday morning (her day to call SD's between 6pm to 9pm is Wednesday) saying that she was filing contempt for DH not allowing BM to talk to SD's on the phone. BM didn't call within her time to talk to SD's. BM was drunk in this VM.
BM called Thursday and Friday to say that she would be at the park on Thursday and DH had already told her that he would not be able to meet at the park bc he was working. BM called again Friday to say the same thing. Saturday the girls were ready for their visit and DH's cousin was here and ready to take SD's and I to the park in case BM showed up there.
16 and 14yo SS's were at the park and were to call if BM showed up there. DH was working close to home at one point and came by the house. I told him that the boys said she hadn't been to the park so DH drove down there and BM wasn't there. SS's described every vehicle and person that was at the park the whole time they were there. Very small town, very small park. So it wasn't difficult. I stayed at the house with SD's until 5pm (BM's end visit time) just in case she was lying about the birthday party and was trying to pull something.
In a way, I'm glad BM didn't show up. When 6yo SD realized what was supposed to be happening she started crying and said she did not want to see her. 6yo SD usually says things like this and I think it's just for show. But I really believed her this time.
I guess I'm just venting here. BM has something up her sleeve but it isn't going to work out for her if she doesn't follow through with what she's supposed to be doing.
Anxiety through the roof for nothing.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
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Re: waiting for "contempt" papers and BM didn't show yesterday for her visit.
BM has one cell phone number that she is allowed to call, DH's cell and it's the only number she has of ours since oldest SD moved out. We show no missed calls from her and I was here with the girls waiting for her to call. She called twice earlier that day to make threats and said she would be calling at 6. She didn't call until that voicemail was left.
I will be getting the phone records from AT&T if I can't get my MIL to print them out for me, as that phone is on her plan. If MIL won't do it, I will probably have to have the records subpoenaed so I need to get that process started soon, tomorrow. I will talk to MIL about it first though. She is supposed to be coming by today.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
You should have just waited out the visit time at home unless plans were made otherwise. Ifshe doesn't show up just document it. Also, she hasn't filed contempt yet and you don't know if she really will.
I shake my head harder every time you post.
SS's were already planning to go to the park bc they didn't want to be here in case BM showed up. I told them she may show up there.
No, I don't know if she really will as she has no grounds to besides her word. I told SS's to let me know if she did show up there to accommodate and take SD's there. The plan was for her to meet here as DH had to work.
I am in the middle of something I do not want to be in regarding the supervised visits.
I was updating as many people do on here and I know not a lot of people are in the situation I am in but I have gotten some good advice here.
I did wait out the time here, the complete five hours even though I didn't have to. I could have waited 1/2 and hour and left for a family reunion but I didn't.
I'm not trying to be rude and I know my wording isn't the greatest but If you don't like my posts, please feel free not to read them.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5
@SimpleJane I really didn't mean to come off as B!tchy and I'm sorry if I did. I try to take something from every single response and do the right things.
SS's were already going to the park bc they didn't want to be around BM. I let them know she may show there, they said they would just stay away from her. I did ask 16yo SS to shoot me a text if she showed up there. There were only two vehicles that showed up there the whole time SS's were there. It's a very small park. They were hanging out with their friends, playing basketball and hackey sack (something I didn't know many kids still did.. lol)
With the phone call where SD went off on BM, I honestly didn't know what we could do. BM did call last night and 5yo SD talked for about 2 minutes, she was still talking and BM told her since she didn't want to talk to put 6yo SD on. 6yo SD got on the phone with a very bad attitude so I stood outside the doorway and listened for the tone, SD started going off on BM again and I stepped in and told her to be nice or I would have to end the call. SD was talking nice after that and started telling BM about school. BM responded with I'm sorry you didn't get to see me on Saturday, I didn't have a ride told SD she missed her, said bye and hung up.
I wouldn't have waited at the door when 6yo got on the phone but the first thing she said when she got on was "What (BM's name)" I have talked to SD a few times about not being mean and saying hurtful things to BM since that 40 minute call. The phone call last sunday was the best they have had so far. But BM only wanted to talk to 5yo SD. 6yo SD brushed it off and stayed in a good mood.
The one supervised visit they had, I feel terrible for letting things go and not sitting within listening distance. I really wish I would have. I just had so many things going through my mind, telling me that it wasn't right. With all of the other rules, I don't know which ones to apply and leave out. Our C/O is very vague and it doesn't specify to go by the rules of the supervised visitation of our state. I am super p!ssed at the attorney and can't wait for DH to get his coffee in him so we can go.
With BM not showing up this past weekend, that gives us 2 weeks to find an agency to do it or something. I am going to be pushing very hard for it. And if it comes down to me having to pay for it myself, I will.
I didn't mean for that to be so long. I wanted to apologize first of all and my actions aren't completely justifiable but I just don't know what to do. Thank you for listening.
My Loves= SD 18 SS 16 SS13 DD13 DS10 SD6 SD5