Totally gave up this month.

Momarazzi007 · August 2013

Yeah. That about sums it up! Was down and just in a bad place and then we decided to do FET in Nov/ Dec and I thought, what is the point in trying when a combined seven years have been nothing but failure! Woohoo!!! I drank, I used my fragrance lotion (love spell from Victoria Secret- some of you are laughing as I talked about not using fragrances in another post, doesn't matter for me right now!!!). I have been eating like an idiot (very unhealthy). And totally blew off scheduling (just to end up bd the night I ovulated anyway- go hormones!!!). Been a good time lmbo! I think this is the most chill I've been about it since we first trying for baby number one!
Question is now, do we bother trying Sept or October? Or do I just continue to chill and try and get over the underlying sadness so happier when FET comes?
What do you miss while TTC?

MJC1116 · August 2013

I say enjoy your next few months before your FET! IF is all-consuming and takes up so much of our lives, so much of the enjoyment. When we had a forced break for 2 months, it was the most relaxed I had been in years. I didn't worry about anything, and like you, I drank, I ate, I did things without worry. I didn't temp, chart, use OPKs, and I just waited for AF to show up each time. (Secretly I was hoping for a surprise bfp, but I wasn't even disappointed to see AF show up because I was expecting it -- if that makes any sense).

But really, whatever you choose should feel right to you. If you really want to start trying again, then I'd say go for that. But if you are already set on your FET for Nov/Dec, may as well enjoy the months leading up to it

KC1212 · August 2013

I don't know - there is something liberating about throwing in the towel and letting down your hair vs beating your brains out every month with thermometers, supplements, diet, exercise, OPKs, and every other TTC trick the Internet ever dreamed up.

I would almost say enjoy the next few months before FET, it will be the start of the holidays (always busy for my family) and I'm sure TTC would only be an added stress.

But obviously the choice is yours. It begs the question which is worse? Trying or not trying ?

I understand completely though. I had a it-will-never-happen moment why bother and DH and tossed the donor sperm idea around (again). We have a natural biological son though, so we feel pressed to move forward with trying.

I'm going off subject here. I guess I'm just saying even 3 months? 2 months? Into us trying again even I had a moment where I wanted to give it all up, because frankly, it is WORK.

I would be inclined to get my body and mind ready for the procedure.

BUT there is a sadness that goes with not trying, because then there really is no chance of being pregnant- where if you did try at least there would be a SLIM chance.

Maybe try but without the bells and whistles. Just do the dance with no pants around your time and that's it. Relax on all the other stuff.

But when is there ever really a break? I mean people say "we're taking a break" but I don't know if that even exists in the world of IF.

Momarazzi007 · August 2013

You guys are so right!!! Breaks never really exist, and when we had to before dd (bc of ectopic) I was a ball of stress the whole time. I got enough stress working on her bday coming up at end of Sept, then my bday five days later! Holidays are stressful, so I don't need more getting ready for FET. This will be our best chance! Imma lose a few pounds before the holidays, and have fun! I'll still be on here, rooting for you guys though!!! And adding my zany thoughts into the mix

and of course letting you know when we know our timeline! Then I'm going to break out the funny movie thread!!!

Amores0121 · August 2013

I miss just having sex whenever. Timed sex is not much fun. I hate having to nag DH about sex. Also, miss not worrying about every little thing in the 2WW.

hoping4more · August 2013

Amores- wait till you get a positive (especially since you had a m/c and are worried) you wont have sex for weeks anyway out of worry that it will cause you to lose baby! This is me right now

KC1212 · August 2013

hoping4more said:
Amores- wait till you get a positive (especially since you had a m/c and are worried) you wont have sex for weeks anyway out of worry that it will cause you to lose baby! This is me right now

{TMI ALERT}

When we finally conceived DS - poor hubby could have joined the priesthood - we didn't have sex AT ALL.

7 or 8 months into pregnancy I finally figured it was safe but I was too big and it was too awkward so we gave up. By the time I got in the mood AFTER I gave birth, it was probably close to a year of abstinance LoL.

Amores0121 · August 2013

hoping4more said:

Amores- wait till you get a positive (especially since you had a m/c and are worried) you wont have sex for weeks anyway out of worry that it will cause you to lose baby! This is me right now

With DD my OB wouldn't allow sex for the first trimester and it KILLED me! I have a pretty high sex drive and it was through the roof when I was PG. With this last loss, the thought crossed my mind of abstaining, but we did not. Next time I may be more cautious, though.

MJC1116 · August 2013

Sex? What's that?

My poor husband. He's been so patient and understanding. We went from ALL the time to being able to count the number of times on one hand. So weird to try to get pregnant without having sex. We only get a 7-day window while during IUIs.

I guess my husband really wants a baby too because he's been okay with it these past two months! (I think secretly he's hoping that if I get pregnant, we're back in business. I didn't tell him we're probably out for the first trimester). Poor guy.

hoping4more · August 2013

My hubby & I had sex the night before I lost the bean in February so although I know it was unrelated (betas were dropping) it still scared me.

Then this pregnancy we were both really wanting it one morning earlier this week & figured due to good betas we would carefully. Then I spotted brown for 2 days after & freaked me out so its on hold till 2nd trimester. Poor guy. I may have to do other things for him. Mind you he claims he's OK with just cuddling, kissing, being close... Lies? Lol don't know

KC1212 · August 2013

Just set him up for a date with the guys and let him have some Bromance!

Mine is easily distracted with a beer and sports

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