My side of the story

bumpuser1509193 · August 2013

I would like to take a moment to address/ defend my self.
First off, I did report Jessie, but only on the posts where she was "whoring out her business" in the post title. For the record, I have no qualms with what she peddels, or Jessie herself. I had nothing to do with anything that resulted with her "BJ" thread, in fact I never even opened it, so please don't blame me for that one. I also have not been "hiding, waiting for the Bump gods to come to my rescue" (just busy) I had read the nasty, hurtful things that were said last night, but decided to chime in when I wasn't so hurt.
While I am not a prolific poster, I felt that I have been around enough to be known better. It really hurt to see so many people I have "known" for 2 years say such horrible things to/ about me.

megs52881 · August 2013

Why were you offended by her business but no one else's? The content? Then ignore it. It's upsetting that the whole board has now been changed because you didn't like her post. Lots of people don't like Jessie's posts.

megs52881 · August 2013

woh woh. I just reread, "You have no issue with jessie or what she peddels" so why the flag? come again?

breannie · August 2013

So if it's not what she sells, or Jessie, why? Why not others? This is a ridiculous defense of yourself because it really doesn't explain anything. You singled her out amongst lots of other TOU violations that happen here on a daily basis. What did you gain from it? Absolutely nothing.

reinedecajun · August 2013

sunflowersummer said:
This is one of things you really could have solved by PMing Jessie

I missed everything else

Yeah all that ^

bumpuser1509193 · August 2013

I foolishly felt that an anonymous warning would have been better received. The content was not my issue, it was the use of the forum to advertise her personal business. Had anyone started a thread PURELY to promote their business, I would have done the same. For example, I had no qualms with the thread regarding making a J12 marketplace directory, because to me, it felt more like a gtky type thread, not necessarily advertising.

breannie · August 2013

@vanessalc I am sure this is pointless but you are wrong. Flat out wrong. I don't see a bounce back from this one.

snickersforeveryone · August 2013

Didn't MM start a business and give us the link in a thread ABOUT her business? She was asked to...so was Jessie. Karm has an etsy business that she has shared....Sally has her doula business that she's shared.

You're splitting hairs. What's the difference if it's a thread that's got the business in the title versus one that is titled differently yet has the info within the post? Either should be flagged according to TOS. You singled Jessie out. There's no getting around it.

I would understand better if you had confessed to being upset by her business, or if you had PM'd her asking her to change the title, OR if you had made a call-out thread about it. Flagging was unnecessary and actually pretty mean.

Were you upset by the term "whoring" in the title? Is it more offensive to you that she was honest about the fact that she was being an AW?

I don't get it.

ETA: And flagging the post MULTIPLE times? You don't think that's a bit much?

snickersforeveryone · August 2013

Hey @HollyHarlow, fancy meeting you here!

bumpuser1509193 · August 2013

I reported it after I had seen a couple "advertising posts" Only 1 thread was tagged within itself.
I don't blame her for being upset. I do take offense to the way she handled herself in this situation.

breannie · August 2013

vanessaLC said:

I reported it after I had seen a couple "advertising posts" Only 1 thread was tagged within itself.
I don't blame her for being upset. I do take offense to the way she handled herself in this situation.

This is Jessie we are talking about. How did you expect her to handle it?

reinedecajun · August 2013

Ftr myself and another asked her to list that way we could order from her. It really seems like you just had a personal issue with WHAT she was selling not THAT she was selling.

BubbaJug · August 2013

Your actions were petty and completely unjustified as , so many others have stated, we have several ladies who have given out the information in threads about their own personal businesses. Be it bags, headbands, stuffed animals, hooded towels, diet products, or dildos...Did you flag MM? StokedWifey? Karm?? Did we miss it? NOPE.

WE ARE J12 and you singling ANY one of those women out, regardless of your personal feeling about their product or post tone is a clear indication that you are not one of us. You have made that clear.

You are spiteful and your catty behavior has changed our dynamic. You are the reason for the moderators that none of us wanted.

I never gave a hoot about you before, but I can certainly now say without a doubt that I hope you disappear. You won't be missed.

reinedecajun · August 2013

jfresh said:
I don't think it was either of those, I think she just dislikes Jessie.

That to

bumpuser1509193 · August 2013

@eafogel - I only used the term "whoring" because it had been used elsewhere to describe how she conducted her business. I can see how in context, the wording could seem indicative of feelings towards her wares. Coincidental. And how would a call out have gone any differently?

I feel that it is different when business info is presented as an answer to a question. I don't recall anyone else OP'ing business ads.

I'm not trying to "Bounce Back" I felt I owed it to myself to tell my side,I was really hurt by some things that were said about me.I'm not looking for redemption or anything, but I felt attacked and needed to reply.

@Breannie Why any I suppose to be held accountable for her actions?

KarmB · August 2013

I've been called every name in the book here and I either take a mini vacation or put on my big girl panties. Never would I flag a post. If its an advertisement I just ignore it.

KarmB · August 2013

Btw thank you to all my bumpie customers

reinedecajun · August 2013

MelRC117 said:

reinedecajun said:

Ftr myself and another asked her to list that way we could order from her. It really seems like you just had a personal issue with WHAT she was selling not THAT she was selling.

Dildos are the work of the devil don't cha know
Well call me a sinner then. I need some b.o.b. to liven shit up!

cwm11985 · August 2013

vanessaLC said:

@eafogel - I only used the term "whoring" because it had been used elsewhere to describe how she conducted her business. I can see how in context, the wording could seem indicative of feelings towards her wares. Coincidental. And how would a call out have gone any differently?

I feel that it is different when business info is presented as an answer to a question. I don't recall anyone else OP'ing business ads.

I'm not trying to "Bounce Back" I felt I owed it to myself to tell my side,I was really hurt by some things that were said about me.I'm not looking for redemption or anything, but I felt attacked and needed to reply.

@Breannie Why any I suppose to be held accountable for her actions?

You have not paid much attention, then. Pretty much every person on our board who has a business has made an OP about it- whether that be for help naming it, for confirmation that its a good idea, or to let us know that its out there. If you flag one for the reason that it violates TOS (which, why do you care so much?!), then it would only be right to flag ALL of them. Singling out Jessie for promoting her business was plain and simple wrong.

breannie · August 2013

@vanessalc you are serious? Her actions? You acted like a first grader and tattled instead of just saying you had a problem with it. She posted things after she was asked to. She has been an active member here for almost two years. Your actions led to everything today. Not hers.

britbratjf · August 2013

Laurski81 said:
Nothing I say here will be any different than any of the other ladies before me and I never get in the middle of any drama that goes on because it's just not who I am...but this was really shitty of you. There are plenty if ladies here that sell products and you know what? It's nice to be able to support those women who have been there for us throughout our pregnancies and now motherhood. Now not everyone will take part in purchasing products but what/who is it harming? No one is forcing their products on anyone else and these aren't random people slinging their shit. If you were really offended you should have sent her a private message. You have been around long enough to owe her that courtesy.

A huge part of our board is now missing and it is really sad that it had to go down this way.

I'm feel the exact same way. I never involve myself in any drama but I think it sucks that Jessi got singled out by you. While I do think Jessi took it a bit far, it's Jessi and that's how she is so I'm not surprised. It's an Internet board, if you don't like a post title don't freaking click on it.

KarmB · August 2013

Btw thank you to all my bumpie customers

codybarre said:
Speaking of @KarmB I got Elise's headband!! Thanks I looove it!!

Haha awesome

mandiek72512 · August 2013

You suck.
That's all I've got.

lnd1031 · August 2013

vanessaLC said:
@eafogel - I only used the term "whoring" because it had been used elsewhere to describe how she conducted her business. I can see how in context, the wording could seem indicative of feelings towards her wares. Coincidental. And how would a call out have gone any differently?

I feel that it is different when business info is presented as an answer to a question. I don't recall anyone else OP'ing business ads.

I'm not trying to "Bounce Back" I felt I owed it to myself to tell my side,I was really hurt by some things that were said about me.I'm not looking for redemption or anything, but I felt attacked and needed to reply.

@Breannie Why any I suppose to be held accountable for her actions?

The only time I saw it referred to as "whoring" was by a mod who didn't belong here.

We all saw her flagging numbers. It was more than once.

The thread she posted was ASKED for by several bumpies. Other ladies on this board have businesses as well and have been widely discussed, so to single out one person no matter how they posted about their business is lower than dirt.

We have been/are such a supportive board and I think we collectively feel backstabbed and just want you to go.

aylafsu88 · August 2013

Like Lauraski I usually try to stay out of drama but you were wrong to flag the posts. Several ladies have advertised businesses here so Jessie was not doing anything out of the norm for our board. You selectively targeted Jessie which is a pretty crappy thing to do.

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