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Job or Career?

lorist202lorist202 member
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I have just learned that my job is being eliminated.  I just took this job in January after being a SAHM.  Meanwhile, I'm turning 38 next week, and we are TTC.  I'll SAH again for a year after the next baby too.  My boss is very sweet, going out of her way to send out my resume to her connections in my (our) field.  I've also spoken to my own contacts.  My problem is that I'm talking to all of these people to put their own reputation on the line to help me get a job in my field.  Then, I'll have to tell my new boss that I'm pregnant (hopefully) in a couple of months.

I'm considering taking a lesser paying, non-career building, "job" just to get through the next year rather than using all of my contacts just to stay in my career field, and then disappointing them when I wind up pregnant shortly after I start in my new position.  Sorry if this is confusing...  Thoughts?

 

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  • KL777KL777 member

    My vote is to get a job in your field, even if it's just for a year.  Have you read the latest article about those who SAH and want to get back into their fields later.  Your new employer in your field will be glad to have you and will be waiting for your return.  We have to look out for ourselves. 

    I accepted a new job when I was 9 weeks pregnant (and SAH after delivery) and that employer and I are still on great terms.   After being out for 3 years, by the grace of God I was able to get back into my field.

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  • julyjenniferjulyjennifer member
    I agree with the above, use your contacts now to get a position in line with your career.  You don't know for sure that they would be 'disappointed' if you take a maternity break not long after starting, that's just something your mind is creating.  Dont let theoretical reactions of others guide your decisions (easier said than done, I know). I agree, if they hired you in the first place they are more than likely to wish you well and look forward to your return. Also, there's no guarantee you'll get pregnant right away.
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  • lorist202lorist202 member
    beaubecca said:
    I think the question is, are you planning to go back after maternity leave? If you are going to be a SAHM for a longish period of time as it sounds like you did previously, then you might want to take a more laid-back position to get through.

    But if you are planning on returning to your career, then I definitely agree with PPs. Maternity leave is not the same as becoming a SAHM. Hopefully your new job (and references) won't hold it against you that you're pregnant! And when you come back you'll be just as valuable as you once were.

    Yes, I will be a SAHM after having my next LO, for a period of approx 1-2 years. 
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  • cecilyandgautamcecilyandgautam member
    If you're going for work for less than a year and not return from maternity leave, the people who help you get this job now will feel kinda burned. I would save those contacts for later when I'm ready to fully return to my career.
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  • Louise MullerLouise Muller member
    KL777 said:

    My vote is to get a job in your field, even if it's just for a year.  Have you read the latest article about those who SAH and want to get back into their fields later.  Your new employer in your field will be glad to have you and will be waiting for your return.  We have to look out for ourselves. 

    I accepted a new job when I was 9 weeks pregnant (and SAH after delivery) and that employer and I are still on great terms.   After being out for 3 years, by the grace of God I was able to get back into my field.

    I agree with this.... I am trying to secure a promotion at work myself, and I will be leaving for a year in December to have my second child.   You have to look out for yourself, if they want you, they'll wait for you to come back.
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  • LoCarbLoCarb member
    If you plan to work somewhere less than a year and take a few years off, I'd probably look for a job. Keep in touch with the contacts over time and don't burn bridges.

    However, there are no certainties you will be pregnant within a few months. You will need to consider this as well. Of course, GL TTC-I'm not trying to be a negative Nancy.
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