Annoying things H does

happybride 276 · August 2013

My h is wonderful. He is smart, funny, works hard, and most importantly he puts up with me. There are just a few habits I can't seem to break him of that really irk me and they are as follows:

1. He always farts and it feels like he holds it in when we go to stores and waits for us to get back in the car.
2. He will do the dishes, but never cleans the sink drain filter thing. It is just gross not to.
3. This could be my most hated thing - he will take laundry out of the dryer and not fold it or put it away. So he ends up putting clean clothes crammed in a basket and they get super wrinkled and just let's the basket sit there. I never know what is clean or dirty when he does this so I just rewash everything.

Anyone else have H or SO per peeves?

blinnea23 · August 2013

My DH leaves dirty laundry EVERYWHERE! And I mean everywhere. Our bedroom and bathroom obviously, but downstairs in the living room and kitchen too! I haven't been picking it up but started piling it up by the basement door, he's the one carrying the laundry basket around now so I'm hoping it breaks the habit and he will realize how often he does it. He'll throw laundry right next to the dirty laundry basket.... I just don't understand

puppyciao23 · August 2013

My simple solution for annoying husband laundry behavior was to buy another laundry basket and we each wash our own clothes :-) saved us a ton of arguing

Jenmarie279 · August 2013

I swear we are married to the same guy.

mrskeyte9 · August 2013

He breaths. Lmao.

But in all seriousness...

When he walks in the door and leaves a pile of his ACU's by the bed, I'm like this...

Then when he comes and makes a snack and leaves the trash/food/plates sitting on the counter I'm like this...

And then finally when he goes to bed at 11pm and says "Good night. Oh and I need PT's washed for the morning" I'm like this...

HBirdie · August 2013

For some reason in the last two weeks my dear husband has forgotten how to shut the shower door when he's done showering. It drives me BONKERS. I think the bathroom just looks much nicer and more welcoming and cleaner when you can't see everything in the shower. UGH. I've reminded him countless times and he still does it. Makes me want to scream.

Also, he doesn't really get the concept of "cleaning as you go" and that annoys me, too. Especially in the kitchen. When I bake or cook or do anything in there, I put stuff away and wipe things down and rinse dishes as I go along. He just lets everything pile up, then it's time to eat, then he needs to rest after because he's too full. [-( So often a dinner mess can just sit for hours or even overnight and it piles up and that drives me crazy. It takes waaay less time to do it as you go!

I guess I'm pretty lucky, though... my H is a really active, productive guy. He was already awesome about chores before I was pregnant, and now he's even better- always does the dishes (we don't have a dishwasher), cleans the tub, vacuums, does everything in the yard, and makes dinner every night (well... he did that even when I wasn't PG, I'm a terrible cook.). He's been awesome at helping me with nursery stuff and going shopping with me and other things that probably bore him. I feel inadequate a lot as a wife because he does so much for me and he works 50 hours a week.

thedash · August 2013

I feel terrible complaining about this because DH does almost 100% of the cooking in our house and cleans up 80% of his cooking mess...but...he NEVER runs the garbage disposal after putting food down there. It's out of sight, out of mind for him. I have found scraps and an entire banana peel that he shoved down there and just didn't turn it on! And if he does run it he flips the switch for like 2 seconds or less. I usually run it for almost 10 seconds and at least until I hear that there is nothing left in there. I have told him that he's leaving food rotting in a cup in our sink and just because those rubber flaps hide it doesn't mean it went away but he still forgets all the time.

He also crams hot clean clothes into a basket and leaves them to wrinkle beyond usability. I've freaked out enough that now he'll take out some of them and spread them out on the bed. But he almost never touches the laundry so this is not a frequent problem.

I leave cups and glasses everywhere. It's been worse since I got pregnant but I've always done it. He'll find my cups, usually half full, on nightstands, our bookshelf, and recently one on the floor of DS's bathroom. It makes him crazy!

happybride 276 · August 2013

@Jenmarie279 is your husband ridiculously attractive and swears he knows everything? If so, then yes, we are married to the same man. Hahaha!

Even though his quirks get on my nerves I am still so thankful for all he does. He does so much more around the house than many of my friend's husbands and takes care of himself when he is sick. Overall I feel like a lucky woman.

I appreciate that I am not alone with being irritated by my H's quirks.

JLMcWeeney · August 2013

DH is really bad about ignoring messes and letting them get worse. He won't empty the trash until it is IMPOSSIBLE to put anything else in there. Even then he will pile stuff on the lid, and if the lid won't fit anything else, he stacks it on the counter. He is a nut.
It is so crazy to me that I can see the house as a horrible disgusting mess, and he is completely oblivious to it. He really doesn't see it as dirty most of the time.

msronzio · August 2013

LMAO MINE DOES ALL 3

/highfive

katdesear · August 2013

I think I'm married to all of these guys . . . Lol. After 11 years he is learning dirty clothes go in the basket and they magically get washed! Crazy, right?! He still leaves dirty dishes everywhere but yells at DS and DD as well as nieces and nephews when they do it. And he has no idea how to change the trash, he piles as well.

msronzio · August 2013

My complaint is he always leaves the door unlocked. Even though we leave the house about the same amount, I've never once left the door unlocked... I, like, triple-check it before we leave. The front door is not an issue. Usually if I'm around, I'll check before bed or pull it tightly shut when we're leaving somewhere, then try the handle again. Teamwork. But the side door.. which he comes in nearly every morning and I never use, gets left unlocked, and I'm a ridiculous paranoid apartment dweller that feels like I have nearly nothing of value in our home but yet some crazy psycho rapist will end up picking our apartment to rob. I typically don't notice this door is unlocked until the next night when he is at work and I'm home alone and it's 11 pm, and it just absolutely infuriates me. I'm sure I send him a snarky text every time! "The door's unlocked again? Really?"

The fact that his laundry has been piled on the couch since a few days now, doesn't bother me. Mainly because otherwise our house is spotless and I'm more of a slob than he is.

llybeck · August 2013

All these things really bother you guys? Oh shit, I'm screwed if these things ever start annoying me, mine does all this crap!

Honestly, the only thing that ever bothers me is if I ask him for help and he gets whiney about it. And all I have to do to cure that is give him "the look" and he starts helping pretty quick. The farting and laundry and all the rest really never get to me, he's a dude, that's what dudes do.

Kristonita12 · August 2013

llybeck said:

All these things really bother you guys? Oh shit, I'm screwed if these things ever start annoying me, mine does all this crap!
Honestly, the only thing that ever bothers me is if I ask him for help and he gets whiney about it. And all I have to do to cure that is give him "the look" and he starts helping pretty quick. The farting and laundry and all the rest really never get to me, he's a dude, that's what dudes do.

That's what dudes whose wives don't get annoyed by it do, maybe, but husbands can be held accountable, too, contrary to popular belief. A penis is no excuse to make your partner live with your filth. Sorry not sorry.

sapphire0228 · August 2013

Not to brag, but this post made me very thankful for hubby. The laundry thing has never happened. Before I met him he only put his dirty clothes in the basket. I have fully taken over the laundry duties but don't mind at all. If he cooks I clean and vice versa, no questions, no whining. I'm the one who plays 'stack-the-trash' and he usually reluctantly takes it out for me. I just think garbage is the mans job. Farting is NBD to me.

However, locking the door is a huge thing here!! We were broken into last year and had a scare this year. I have always been a nut about locking all the doors and shutting all the lights off. If he leaves in the morning and I'm still in bed he doesn't lock me back in! I freak out when I find out and like pp send a text. "You didn't lock me in, the boogie man's gonna get me!" I just don't understand why he wouldn't want to lock me back in and even set the alarm. But since I've had a few moments with him he does it most of the time.

msronzio · August 2013

sapphire0228 said:

Not to brag, but this post made me very thankful for hubby. The laundry thing has never happened. Before I met him he only put his dirty clothes in the basket. I have fully taken over the laundry duties but don't mind at all. If he cooks I clean and vice versa, no questions, no whining. I'm the one who plays 'stack-the-trash' and he usually reluctantly takes it out for me. I just think garbage is the mans job. Farting is NBD to me. However, locking the door is a huge thing here!! We were broken into last year and had a scare this year. I have always been a nut about locking all the doors and shutting all the lights off. If he leaves in the morning and I'm still in bed he doesn't lock me back in! I freak out when I find out and like pp send a text. "You didn't lock me in, the boogie man's gonna get me!" I just don't understand why he wouldn't want to lock me back in and even set the alarm. But since I've had a few moments with him he does it most of the time.

I would have no problem putting his clothes away for him, if they didn't have to be put away a special way.

Mine does that too, where he doesn't lock after he leaves sometimes. I know he's only human but it's literally like my only crazy anxiety moment. And apparently, not all that irrational or crazy since you have had to deal with a break-in! I can't even imagine, so glad you, and everyone, were okay.

Kristonita12 said:

llybeck said:

All these things really bother you guys? Oh shit, I'm screwed if these things ever start annoying me, mine does all this crap!
Honestly, the only thing that ever bothers me is if I ask him for help and he gets whiney about it. And all I have to do to cure that is give him "the look" and he starts helping pretty quick. The farting and laundry and all the rest really never get to me, he's a dude, that's what dudes do.

That's what dudes whose wives don't get annoyed by it do, maybe, but husbands can be held accountable, too, contrary to popular belief. A penis is no excuse to make your partner live with your filth. Sorry not sorry.

I choose my battles carefully. We have a lot of balance between chores and I admit I'm not always perfect. It annoys him when I leave 5 seconds on the microwave or don't put a new toilet paper roll on (I pee every half hour and go through rolls like crazy, for now they're just getting stacked in a lovely looking brushed metal TP stacker next to the toilet!). But he also doesn't give me hell, just playfully teases me about it, and I will act in the same way. His parents are very wise and they gave me extremely good advice. "Let the small stuff slide." I tell myself this every day.

There's filth and then there's clean laundry laying around & passing gas. They are two different things.

llybeck · August 2013

Kristonita12 said:

llybeck said:

All these things really bother you guys? Oh shit, I'm screwed if these things ever start annoying me, mine does all this crap!
Honestly, the only thing that ever bothers me is if I ask him for help and he gets whiney about it. And all I have to do to cure that is give him "the look" and he starts helping pretty quick. The farting and laundry and all the rest really never get to me, he's a dude, that's what dudes do.

That's what dudes whose wives don't get annoyed by it do, maybe, but husbands can be held accountable, too, contrary to popular belief. A penis is no excuse to make your partner live with your filth. Sorry not sorry.

Hahaha, I am woman hear me roar! Yeah no, it's not that he's not held accountable, I just really don't care that he does those things because he does a ton of other things that I don't do. There is give an take in a relationship and there are things he does that I deal with and there are things I do that he deals with. His penis has nothing to do with it, we love each other and we help each other by doing the things the other person doesn't like to do, that's pretty damn equal if you ask me and it makes for a very happy and easy home life.

And FYI, just because he farts and doesn't do his own laundry doesn't mean we live in filth, calm yourself.

averettgirl · August 2013

I have to get up at 6am to get ready for work and at least 3 times a week my husband will whine about me settling in to sleep at 10:30pm (which is REALLY good for me at this point), asking me "It's only 10:30, are you really going to sleep? You tired?" I don't know how many times I'm going to have to remind him that growing a tiny human being is an exhausting process. Gah! So last weekend he painted the nursery by himself, then moved a bunch of furniture and other things to the basement so that night when he'd popped 3 Aleve and was drifting off at 9:00pm I said to him sweetly, "Why are you going to sleep so early? You tired?" The look on his face was priceless lol.

bumpuser9130703 · August 2013

When DH showers he likes for the water to shoot straight out to his head. So he always tilts the shower head all the way up. Of course he doesn't point it back down when he's finished, so when I turn the shower on to warm up the water it always soaks everything. The worst is when I start the water and then run to get a towel or something and find water pouring out of the back of the shower. I try and remember to check the shower head before I turn on the water, but really, he's not that tall, why in the world does the shower head need to be coming out of the wall at a 90 degree angle?!?

rachelstauf · August 2013

blinnea23 said:
My DH leaves dirty laundry EVERYWHERE! And I mean everywhere. Our bedroom and bathroom obviously, but downstairs in the living room and kitchen too! I haven't been picking it up but started piling it up by the basement door, he's the one carrying the laundry basket around now so I'm hoping it breaks the habit and he will realize how often he does it. He'll throw laundry right next to the dirty laundry basket.... I just don't understand

This is mine too. I think my DH must undress in stages (I go to bed earlier than he does, so I never see). Socks end up in the living room next to/under his chair. His pants and boxers are between the chair and the tv or are in the bathroom. And his shirt is usually in the dining room, of all places. I even moved the hamper so it's right next to our bedroom door and he could drop things off on his way in, but nope.

jlbhz2275 · August 2013

Oh my husband has ocd and is a piler. So there are tons of piles everywhere. Piles of receipts, piles of trash out his car but mostly piles of clothes. There is a pile in the chair in the living room all on his side of the bed and on the floor and for some reason he thinks the back of the kitchen chairs is where you hang all of your clothes that need to be hung. It drives me nuts.To him if he can't see it, he can't find it. Your clothes belong in the dresser, or hanging up in the closet. And he will pick up our daughter's toys but he make piles of them in the room and not actually put them away in the bin, or containers. Seriously, why bother. And dishes, he never puts dishes in the sink or dishwasher. Always on the side of the sink. Even if they are both totally empty, dirty dishes on the counters. UGH And don't ever expect him to do the dishes, "but I hate doing dishes" " So do I and I hate doing your dirty dishes more"

msronzio · August 2013

jlbhz2275 said:

Oh my husband has ocd and is a piler. So there are tons of piles everywhere. Piles of receipts, piles of trash out his car but mostly piles of clothes. There is a pile in the chair in the living room all on his side of the bed and on the floor and for some reason he thinks the back of the kitchen chairs is where you hang all of your clothes that need to be hung. It drives me nuts.To him if he can't see it, he can't find it. Your clothes belong in the dresser, or hanging up in the closet. And he will pick up our daughter's toys but he make piles of them in the room and not actually put them away in the bin, or containers. Seriously, why bother. And dishes, he never puts dishes in the sink or dishwasher. Always on the side of the sink. Even if they are both totally empty, dirty dishes on the counters. UGH And don't ever expect him to do the dishes, "but I hate doing dishes" " So do I and I hate doing your dirty dishes more"

Call me out if I'm wrong but. This doesn't sound like "annoying things DH does"... sounds like you two need to have a serious talk. This vent sounds quite resentful.

redfallon · August 2013

Maybe I'm still in honeymoon mode. We've been together since 2010 and married since April 2012. Things I find slightly annoying or odd I still find cute too. DH eats eggs with a spoon. When I first met him he made me feel weird that I didn't eat eggs with a spoon so I thought maybe it was a family thing. When I met his family, nope. They use forks. He's just the weirdo that eats eggs with a spoon hehe.

Laundry isn't an issue. We still each do our own. I know there are things I find annoying, but can't think of them right now.

Maybe that will be annoying to everyone else

:P

curlyq625 · August 2013

My DH takes a shower and folds the wet towel and leaves it nicely folded on the bed... I don't understand why he can't just throw it in the laundry or over the shower door. It seems to take more effort to fold. Drives me nuts b/c if I don't find it b4 work it sits wet on the bed all day and makes the bed damp. But I leave my shoes everywhere, as soon as I walk in the door they come off, makes him nuts so I guess it all evens out!

Jenly117 · August 2013

My H leaves the empty toilet paper roll in the TP holder and just puts the new (opened) roll on the counter. I don't get it! It's not that hard to take the old cardboard tube off and put the new roll on! It's the little things, I tell ya!

PrettyInPearls23 · August 2013

I really only have one annoying thing that my DH does -- he leaves his clean, dry clothes in the dryer. He'll take out what he needs (usually his uniform for work) and leave everything else so when I go to do my laundry, I have to take everything out of the dryer and fold all his stuff. We fold our laundry on our dining room table, and his stuff will sit there for over a week!

We each do our own laundry, otherwise I'm sure I'd have more laundry complaints!

PrettyInPearls23 · August 2013

I lied, I thought of another one although I feel bad complaining because at least he's trying.

When DH puts dirty dishes in the dishwasher, he'll put big items (pots, larger bowls, colander, etc.) on the top rack instead of the bottom. The top rack is for small bowls, cups, DS's dishes, etc. Drives me nuts that I have to rearrange the dishwasher after he puts things in there. But like I said, I feel bad complaining because at least he's trying to help out and I do appreciate that.

SweetPeaK26 · August 2013

My dh rarely does dishes or laundry, which just bugs me because I wish he would do it more. But what really bugs me is that I'll be doing it, and he'll tell me I need to take it easy, or leave it an he'll do it... And then he never does and things just pile up!

And the trash thing... He makes it into a balancing act.

The main thing that I ask and ask him to do is leave one side of the sink (the side with the disposal) clear. Pile the dishes into the other side, set them on the counter, I don't care... Just leave that one side open so I can use it! Nope... It seems that's the first side he dumps things in.

redfallon · August 2013

PrettyInPearls23 said:
I lied, I thought of another one although I feel bad complaining because at least he's trying.
When DH puts dirty dishes in the dishwasher, he'll put big items (pots, larger bowls, colander, etc.) on the top rack instead of the bottom. The top rack is for small bowls, cups, DS's dishes, etc. Drives me nuts that I have to rearrange the dishwasher after he puts things in there. But like I said, I feel bad complaining because at least he's trying to help out and I do appreciate that.

We split that chore, too. DH loads the dishwasher and I unload it. Maybe it's because he's an engineer, but he can fit 3x as much stuff in the dishwasher than I can. I also don't like touching the dirty, wet dishes to put them in. I'll still do it sometimes, but am happy to leave that as his job. Flip side? He doesn't know where some of the dishes go in our kitchen since he doesn't put them away.

Oh this reminded me of an annoyance I have! He will get on to me for not putting the dishes away for a couple days, but he will leave dishes in the sink for 2-3 days after I've cleared the dishwasher. When I say something he denies it.

MegStark · August 2013

Mine does a lot of things that annoy me. It's frustrating because some are just serious personal pet-peeves of mine that raise my anxiety, but he doesn't realize how annoyed I seriously am with it... like:
1. Biting his nails/cuticles. I seriously can't stand it when people do this. It's disgusting. He does it all the time. Being more irritable right now, it makes me want to throw something at him.
2. Not putting the toilet seat down. Not sure if he's always been this way, and I just didn't notice as much until we found out our first LO is a girl. He grew up with ALL brothers, and I don't think his mom ever made an effort to force all the men to put the toilet seat down. I get beyond annoyed now.
3. Farts in bed. Really? Stop it dude. Not attractive. My sex drive is already low with this pregnancy, and he's not helping.
4. "Uses the bathroom" in our bedroom in the AM before I'm done getting ready. It's disgusting and there's 2 other toilets in the house he could go use.

I really shouldn't complain much because he cooks most the time (his choice, we both like to), does do his own laundry, and we share in all cleaning duties around the house. Except for cleaning toilets or grout... I don't think he's aware of how to do that.

MegStark · August 2013

Oh and he never puts things in the same spot. Really???? How hard is it to have one place we keep paper towels??? I never know where anything is. He likes things "clean" but to him that's just out of sight. I need organization. Everything in nursery is/will be labeled.

MegStark · August 2013

PrettyInPearls23 said:

I really only have one annoying thing that my DH does -- he leaves his clean, dry clothes in the dryer. He'll take out what he needs (usually his uniform for work) and leave everything else so when I go to do my laundry, I have to take everything out of the dryer and fold all his stuff. We fold our laundry on our dining room table, and his stuff will sit there for over a week!
We each do our own laundry, otherwise I'm sure I'd have more laundry complaints!

Haha, I just have to say that I do this sometimes and it drives my DH insane. I'll have to work on it

msronzio · August 2013

I'm so jealous in this thread of everyone who has a dishwasher or a garbage disposal. I have neither. And my kitchen sink is small and so is my drying rack

I thought of a DH nuisance.. He piles dishes so high in that little drying rack! He has broken two glasses because they have slipped out, and the dishes take FOREVER to dry so I can never put them away. Ughhhhhalskdfjlskfsdflkk;lf;ldf

I'm thankful he does the dishes though because right now, waterlogged old food makes me dry heave. Just..no more broken glasses please. At least!? I really like our set and it's only two months old!

Burrberrymum · August 2013

Ahahaha I don't know why this topic makes me laugh so much! So many of the same things these men do! But my main things that annoy me with my SO..

1) He comes home from work and instead of going straight to the bathroom or bedroom to take off his work clothes, he feels the need to take them off on the living room floor and they will sit there for a WEEK or longer if I don't pick them. (He works in a kitchen so it's disgusting greasy work clothes)

2) He will take off his socks anywhere and everywhere in the house, and he pulls them off so that they get folded inside out so when I go do laundry I have to stick my hand in his dirty work socks for every single sock!

3) He doesn't understand how simple it is to put his garbage in the garbage when he gets up rather then leaving wrappers all over the living room table, same with ketchup, his Pepsi, his cups..

4) He also doesn't understand that it's important to rinse dishes when there's sauce or whatever left on it.. And whyyyy is it so impossible to stick the dishes right in the dishwasher when finished with them?! Instead it's left unrinsed in the sink for me to rinse and put in the dishwasher...

Oh he's lucky I love him....

Kristonita12 · August 2013

llybeck said:

Kristonita12 said:

llybeck said:

All these things really bother you guys? Oh shit, I'm screwed if these things ever start annoying me, mine does all this crap!
Honestly, the only thing that ever bothers me is if I ask him for help and he gets whiney about it. And all I have to do to cure that is give him "the look" and he starts helping pretty quick. The farting and laundry and all the rest really never get to me, he's a dude, that's what dudes do.

That's what dudes whose wives don't get annoyed by it do, maybe, but husbands can be held accountable, too, contrary to popular belief. A penis is no excuse to make your partner live with your filth. Sorry not sorry.

Hahaha, I am woman hear me roar! Yeah no, it's not that he's not held accountable, I just really don't care that he does those things because he does a ton of other things that I don't do. There is give an take in a relationship and there are things he does that I deal with and there are things I do that he deals with. His penis has nothing to do with it, we love each other and we help each other by doing the things the other person doesn't like to do, that's pretty damn equal if you ask me and it makes for a very happy and easy home life.
And FYI, just because he farts and doesn't do his own laundry doesn't mean we live in filth, calm yourself.

Yeah, maybe filth is too strong of a word and I certainly am not referring to just the laundry and farts (because lately, those would be my own gross issues haha), but when PPs were talking about piling trash up on counters, leaving dirty clothes all over the floor, sinks full of dishes...to me that's dirty, not just disorganized or slightly annoying. Admittedly, I'm a little bit of a clean freak, though. I just see no reason to adopt a "boys will be boys" attitude when something actually bothers us. And if it wouldn't bother you, more power to ya!

ladibugg83 · August 2013

He doesn't throw away the top to his beer bottles. They collect on the counter and occasionally one makes it to the floor. Which I then find with my foot since I can't see where I'm stepping anymore and I'm too big to bend over and pick it up anyway. Oh and complains that I haven't cleaned anything all day ( I have a Real work from home career where I manage million dollar accounts and I've got two weeks to wrap up several projects so I can be out for two months)

barnratash · August 2013

I just thought of one since I just happened upon it as I came to sit in the comfy chair in the living room... DH will trim (and I use trim lightly since he chews or rips them off) his finger/toe nails and leave them in a nice little pile on the end table. Seriously?! Pick that shit up! Oh and he also chews nicotine gum (I got him to quite chewing tobacco before we got married but he's been on the gum ever since) and will leave little gum piles on his night stand. Ugh gross. It literally makes me want to throat punch him.

rachelstauf · August 2013

@barnratash You win. That's disgusting.

Luckymomma4 · August 2013

I've got nothing! He does stuff that a boy's me but I can't remember until it happens. Haha! Pregnancy has killed my memory and clearly a few brain cells.

happybride 276 · August 2013

Luckymomma4 said:
I've got nothing! He does stuff that a boy's me but I can't remember until it happens. Haha! Pregnancy has killed my memory and clearly a few brain cells.

I wouldn't have been able to start this post if I didn't happen upon two of the three issues last night. I have to admit that his farts are so smelly I will never forget them.

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