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Problems with leaving daycare

Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member
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DS (no official dx) has sensory issues and at least some autism-like behaviors. The past 2-3 weeks when I pick him up from daycare, he throws a tantrum and doesn't want to leave. He also runs away from me and I end up having to chase him down because if I just tell him to follow me and go out the door, he won't follow. I have tried letting him finish whatever activity he was doing before I arrived, but once I'm there he does nothing but tantrum. I have tried telling him I am going to leave the room for a few minutes and when I come back, it will be time to go. Still he won't come with me or finish whatever activity they were doing prior. I end up having to carry him out kicking and screaming. This week has gotten worse. He crawled under the table 2 days ago and I had to fish him out. He has gone to this daycare for about a year and a half. DH and I ride into work together each day and he drops off DS after he drops me off at work. I used to take DS in before I went to work but he started getting clingy to me and would cry every time I left but if DH dropped him off he was a champ so we switched (this was about a year ago). Yesterday, DH and I both decided to go in and get him to see if he would do the same thing if both of us were there and he didn't. He seemed surprised and happy. Today, when I showed up he started screaming and hand flapping. I don't know what to do. DS is more of a momma's boy than a daddy's boy usually but for some reason doesn't like me picking him up or dropping him off at daycare. DH doesn't want to go in every time and I understand that but I feel judged at daycare for the way he acts when I pick him up. Any suggestions???
DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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Re: Problems with leaving daycare

  • Ginlyn0Ginlyn0 member
    His normal 2 teachers are not there at pick up or drop off because they work 8-5. What ends up happening is that he is in another classroom (pk-4) when pick up and drop off occur. Their floaters are basically the ones there during early morning and late afternoon and there are about 4-5 floaters and it seems like its a different one each day in that room so I only see the same one about 1x a week, sometimes 2. So basically it is the assistants and not teachers that are there outside 8-5. Pretty much they do nothing about helping me get him out except I sometimes get the occasional stab that he doesn't act like this when my DH picks him up (like when I have an appt, ect).

    I will try a social story but I'm not sure those daycare assistants will likely to read it to him but we definitely can.
    DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)

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  • bumpuser511563bumpuser511563 member
    gin,

    I think we have had that problem with DS. DH does drop and pick up except Fridays (I do Fridays). I can imagine that was us struggling with DS at daycare just to get him to the car.

    I have involved my SLP's help because she works directly at DS's daycare.

    The plan that she gave us was to call the daycare 20 minutes before we pick up DS. She also asked us to take 2 pictures: one with DS and DH (which would be used when DH does pick up) and the other picture with DS and I (when I do pick up). The SLP bought a container filled with glass and glossy rocks because DS likes rocks. She then gave me an empty container for home so DS can fill it with rocks. DS gets to pick 2 rocks to take home. Lately, he has been taking 1 rock but it works to get him to the car.

    This plan has worked for us so far most of the time. The few times it does not work for us is the changes in staffing, changes in weather, DS getting sick or someone forgets to give DS the rocks.
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  • bumpuser511563bumpuser511563 member
    The pictures are attached to the rock container at daycare so they show the side of who is doing pick up.




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