STM: is your child totally daddy-centric

CousinVicki · August 2013

the more pregnant you become? I may have asked this before, i have zero memory left! anyway the 'bigger' i get, the more my son is OBSESSED with my husband. he wants almost nothing to do with me. i talk to him about the baby, include him in EVERYTHING, tell him i love him no matter what blah blah. i know it's probably normal, but i am PETRIFIED this is the way it's going to be forever, especially since shlt is REALLY going to hit the fan when this baby is born, at least for a couple of months.

i may or may not cry about this nightly! =(

Gatorsgirl731 · August 2013

YES!! It hurts so bad. He is my baby boy and wants nothing to do with me. Mine is 11 so there is some preteen attitude there as well. Last night DH was joking about if he lived in the garage and DS was like "well you and I can live together dad, the girls can live together." When he says good night it is good night dad and that's it.

I am so happy for this baby, but I want my boy back too!

Jenball717 · August 2013

Hm, nope. My dd still loves me most, poor dh. He loves her so much but she just gravitates to me. Maybe it is a son thing?

shelley1002 · August 2013

DS is still up my ass. He is showing more interest and attention to DH but is still all about being with me.

ETA: he will be 2 just after Labor Day if age plays any part in this as well.

CousinVicki · August 2013

shelley1002 said:

DS is still up my ass. He is showing more interest and attention to DH but is still all about being with me. ETA: he will be 2 just after Labor Day if age plays any part in this as well.

mine is 4.5, so totally aware of what is going on, well more than he would have been at 2. sigh.

Mae208 · August 2013

DS has always seemed to kind of prefer his daddy, but its gotten MUCH worse since being pregnant... Pretty sure he hated being stuck at home with me for the first 4 months bc I was sick and on the couch and we did nothing but watch tv. He was always SO HAPPY when his dad would get home from work. I was hoping he would kind of 'come back to me' after the sickness went away but no such luck. It makes me sad but i try to brush it off and just love on him and connect with him as much as I can.

germanpickle · August 2013

Yes but I am actually really happy about it. It gives me a tiny bit of breathing space which I really need.

MySunshine213 · August 2013

Actually no she has become way more clingy to me. I think the baby is only a part of it, but I do think it is affecting her

ClaireOtoms · August 2013

Absolutely. I've always joked that DS likes my H better than he likes me, and always just chalked ti up to the fact that I'm home with him all day so I'm old news. But lately, he won't even let me snuggle him to sleep, and he's taken to biting me when he's mad (but that's a topic for a whole new post). It does suck.

sfshorter · August 2013

My DD is eight and she's been a little caretaker for me since I got pregnant. I'm sure with a son, it would be different. I think they think their mom's belong to them, and when a new baby is in there, it probably shatters their egocentric mentality to an extent, and what male likes for that to happen?

SuperTreesa · August 2013

Ugh, I wish. They both love their daddy but DD2 is a super cuddlier and it can ONLY be with me.

jen-and-ryon · August 2013

My son will be four in sept. He still is pretty mommy obsessed. His new thing is being lovey dovey with me and DH. All day he asks for hugs and kisses and says he loves us. He must know his world is about to be turned upside down!

PharmDMom · August 2013

Yes. DD has always been a daddy's girl but even more so since I got pg. She is only 2.5 but is pretty aware of what's going on. She has started being mean towards me even... Kicking and hitting once in a while. Obviously we are laying the law down about that but it shocked me at first. I've been extra loving and patient but she still wants daddy all the time. Hope it doesn't last forever.

Scientist23 · August 2013

For me not at all. DS just wants to be with me every moment of every day. He won't even let DH carry him most days. If they have to go somewhere together he wants to walk (new found skill LOL). He's only 13 months, so that may play into it. Pretty sure he has no idea what's going on with me. He just gets mad when he's snuggling and LO kicks him

Nikdayday · August 2013

My son is 4 1/2 also and he hasn't changed how he acts with either of us. He's still a momma's boy but when daddy goes to work out at the gym he wants to go so he can play at the kids center and when daddy goes out to cook on the grill he wants to go be with him. But on the weekends when it's just me and the little guy we still cuddle to watch cartoons in bed in the mornings and do grocery shopping every Saturday afternoon! He's actually been a big help with me because he's old enough to know mommy is getting bigger and can't do as much so he helps carry bags in the house, put laundry baskets away, little stuff like that!!! Love my lil guy

shelliescove3 · August 2013

Nope dd is still all about me. She loves dh too but as long as I am around its me he wants... I am getting nervous about how she will be when new baby has a lot of my time:(

jennlin · August 2013

Jenball717 said:

Hm, nope. My dd still loves me most, poor dh. He loves her so much but she just gravitates to me. Maybe it is a son thing?

this.

she has been better with dad, though, she used to scream if dad would hold her when i was in the same room..now, 10% of the time, she is okay with dad holding her, but mostly still it's me.

bnikiz · August 2013

Opposite for me. Dd has always been all about daddy but the last three days its been my mommy constantly. Im starting to get a little worried how she will react when baby boh arrives

CousinVicki · August 2013

so basically this thread reinforces that my child hates me! =(

ohkay · August 2013

My daughter is somewhat. She definitely wants to go on more walks and do other activities with my FI. I think it's because in my prego state, I can't keep up with her like I used to. Hopefully I'm not fooling myself.

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