Revealing baby's gender

rmcrytzer · August 2013

Our sonogram is tomorrow, and my husband and I still can't agree on finding out the baby's gender and who we should tell. I would love for it to be a surprise for everyone, and he wants the world to know. Anybody else have this disagreement? How did you compromise?

peanutmuse · August 2013

Do you mean surprising everyone, including yourselves? Just to clarify.

katags · August 2013

Just to be the obnoxious one, I want to point out that it'll be a surprise to everyone regardless of when they find out. They don't know now, and they'll know when you tell them. Surprise!

I say if you find out, tell everyone else. That's a hard secret to keep for several months, and it coulf slip out accidentally. But if y'all don't want people to know, then stick with team green yourselves. But that's something you and DH have to agree on, we can't help you there.

rmcrytzer · August 2013

yes. I'd like it to be a surprise for us as well.

peanutmuse · August 2013

Unfortunately for your husband, I always think the only way to deal with this situation is to not find out. It's not like you can un-know something like this. But that might be just my opinion.

I think it's something you need to talk with him about, though. Maybe others have suggestions for this conversation?

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PBP2002 · August 2013

I think the only two real options are finding out and telling people or not finding out yourselves.

DH didn't want to find out and I did. We didn't find out with DS and we will find out with this one.

peanutmuse · August 2013

wilburbud said:

I dont know that I see a point in one spouse knowing, and the other not.

@wilburbud, it didn't sound to me like that was one of the options. At least, that's not the way that I read it.

bensmommy518 · August 2013

I am one of THOSE people that found out and didn't tell any family and friends. DH and I are the type of people that need to know to prepare but we both also really liked the idea of him coming out of the delivery room and announcing "Its a ___" It can be successfully done if both you and DH are on board with knowing but not telling. I will caution you that it drove our family and friends crazy so be prepared!

becky3211 · August 2013

My husband really wanted to find out and I wanted to wait, so we had the tech write down if it was a boy or girl and seal it in an envelope. We decided that we will have a gender reveal shower. There's no way my husband could have kept the secret for long. Good luck to you!

OnBabymaking226 · August 2013

bensmommy518 said:

I am one of THOSE people that found out and didn't tell any family and friends. DH and I are the type of people that need to know to prepare but we both also really liked the idea of him coming out of the delivery room and announcing "Its a ___" It can be successfully done if both you and DH are on board with knowing but not telling. I will caution you that it drove our family and friends crazy so be prepared!

To each their own, but I would find this incredibly obnoxious as a friend or family member. I actually find it a little irritating when people won't reveal their name to friends/family members, and this is one step further.

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