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Is this unreasonable?

twister22twister22 member
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BD's CO'd time with DS (4.5) is EOWE, Thurs 5p - Sat 5p. For the summer I have been letting him take Fri 2p - Sun 2p to coordinate with his work schedule as well as his visitation time with his DD(2). 

Last week BD said that he may need to move the time to Saturday - Monday, (he was scheduled to work Fri night) and I said that I would try to work with him. This morning he texted saying that he wanted to do Sat 1p - Mon 1p.

On Sunday we're supposed to go to a friends house at 3 for a pool party. The friends are all couples from the Sunday School class we're in at church, plus all of their kids. DS has a great time with these kids, not to mention DD(8 months) has never been swimming and this will be her first time. Basically, we don't want to forfeit DS going. The pool party is actually near BD's.

Is it unreasonable to say that he can take Saturday-Monday only if we can pick up DS for the pool party and drop him off after?
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Re: Is this unreasonable?

  • mom2onemom2one member
    edited August 2013
    Yes I think it's fair. At first I didn't realize you normally have Sundays, but since you do I think it's fine to ask.
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  • dannie2011dannie2011 member
    I think it is more then fair. The amount of flexibility you give him, he better not complain!

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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    I think is completely fair. You work with him all the time and it is reasonable to not want your DS to miss out because of BD's work schedule. It is the best of both worlds that he can see his dad and go to the pool party.
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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    I would say, "Well, actually we have plans in Sunday, but since it is actually not far from your place, you could get him Saturday. Well just pick him up on Sunday for our event and then bring him back afterwards and he can stay till Monday." Then it is end of discussion.
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  • CFjo2010CFjo2010 member
    ambrvan said:
    I would say, "Well, actually we have plans in Sunday, but since it is actually not far from your place, you could get him Saturday. Well just pick him up on Sunday for our event and then bring him back afterwards and he can stay till Monday." Then it is end of discussion.

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  • twister22twister22 member
    Thanks ladies! BD said it was fine, so all is good :).
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