No Sex Drive :(!

Neary2011 · August 2013

For the pass month and a half I have had no sex drive at all and I am really sad about it, because I know that my Husband wants it, but I don't, at least that is what my body and mind are telling. I want to figure this out and get back to the way our sexual relationship was before, but I don't know how to do that, I need advice.

Any Advice you have to offer, I am willing to read it and Thank you in advance!

Maebb · August 2013

I don't know because I have the opposite problem - I would like to do it more, but DH is usually tired or not in the mood.

Could you "fake it until you make it?" Usually when I'm not in the mood, once we start doing it, I start to get into it. Maybe that is bad advice, but it works for me.

The other thing is to ask your doctor. New moms and breast feeding moms go through so many changes with hormones, body changes, etc., and maybe your doctor could recommend solutions to try. Good luck!

Neary2011 · August 2013

Thank you for your advice, I may have to give the "faking it" a try!

Neary2011 · August 2013

kiraliz2 said:

My advice is to not post in pink font. Once I can actually read your post, I can give real advice.

For the pass month and a half I have had no sex drive at all and I am really sad about it, because I know that my husband wants it, but I don't, at least that is what my body and mind are telling me. I want to figure this out and get back to the way our sexual relationship was before, but I don't know how to do that, I need advice.

Neary2011 · August 2013

I am not on any birth control. Sometimes I think I want sex, but when we get going, I don't want it anymore.

Hummingbirdbaby3 · August 2013

I am sometimes not in the mood, but as pp said, once we get going it's great!

winecastle14 · August 2013

We have babies. They require a lot of attention. I think it's normal right now to have your sex drive be lower. Mine is and I attribute it to breast feeding hormones and being tired.

I agree with @kiraliz2, the more sex I have, the more I'm in the mood for it. My husband is a very sexual person so I have to give it up at least once a week or I have to deal with a pouty husband. Lol. I don't think that you should feel obligated to have sex but it is a key element to a healthy relationship (IMO) so I think that means sometimes you need to just do it even if you aren't in the mood.

Neary2011 · August 2013

kiraliz2 said:

Neary2011 said:

I am not on any birth control. Sometimes I think I want sex, but when we get going, I don't want it anymore.

Can you pinpoint why? Is it mental or physical?

It could be a number of things, but mainly I think because of over tiredness, I have been over tired for a long while now. I think it is a little of both.

SNBelland · August 2013

I agree "Fake it til you Make it"

lanea8712 · August 2013

Maebb said:

I don't know because I have the opposite problem - I would like to do it more, but DH is usually tired or not in the mood. Could you "fake it until you make it?" Usually when I'm not in the mood, once we start doing it, I start to get into it. Maybe that is bad advice, but it works for me. The other thing is to ask your doctor. New moms and breast feeding moms go through so many changes with hormones, body changes, etc., and maybe your doctor could recommend solutions to try. Good luck!

I'm floating in the same boat.

atrinh11 · August 2013

uconnhuskie007 said:

i want NOTHING to do with my husband lately - sex, talking, laughing, watching TV, being in the same room...nothing. i dont know what my problem is either, but you'er not alone.

This is me too. I have no idea why. I need to get a grip.

RachelEric · August 2013

uconnhuskie007 said:

i want NOTHING to do with my husband lately - sex, talking, laughing, watching TV, being in the same room...nothing. i dont know what my problem is either, but you'er not alone.

Wow I'm glad to hear that others are in the same boat as me. I have no idea what's going on, because I love my husband dearly. I attribute it to breastfeeding and being tired all the time since I"m the one who wakes up with the baby throughout the night.

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