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NTTCALR So Frustrated

Am I being unreasonable here?

You know how I'd mentioned in an earlier thread that I was working with a recruiter to find a job? Well, on Monday, I got an email about a position that's close by my house. I emailed the recruiter back and asked where it was located exactly and never heard back. This morning, I check my email and there was an email from the agency telling me where it was located exactly. I didn't even get a chance to reply to the email and let them know that I'm still interested when the phone rings and it's the recruiter asking me if I could start this afternoon.

She called at 10:30am to ask me if I could be there by 12pm!! Seriously what the fuck? I mean I would have totally made it work had I been given at least a half day of notice but with 1.5 hrs to make arrangements and with the commitment I already have this afternoon I had to say no.

Basically, I told her that I would be more than happy to start tomorrow AM and that had I begin given a little more notice I would have made today possible but given the time I couldn't do much for today.

I'm so freaking irritated with this agency. It seems that they want me to drop everything I'm doing and run RIGHT NOW to start a job. Is it too much to ask to have at least 1 days notice?

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  • That's ridiculous!! Especially if its not like a temp agency, where you'd be expecting last minute work.

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  • How annoying! I *love* how they're assuming that you're sitting there doing absolutely nothing, with no plans whatsoever, just waiting for their phone call to send you anywhere at the drop of a hat.

    Morons.

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  • You're not being unreasonable at all.  It's completely ridiculous for them to expect you to be there this afternoon.  Even if they had called first thing this morning, I would still think it's ridiculous.  

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  • I don't think you are being unreasonable at all.  That is really bizarre, I have never heard of any agency doing that before.  Fx they get their act together for you!
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  • That is ridiculous.  I have never heard of such...  I hope the company will understand and be ok with you beginning tomorrow (although I am sure the agency will not fess up to it being their fault.) I just hope they don't cost you a job. ((hugs))

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    You are not being unreasonable at all.  I think it's highly unprofessional to not give someone proper notice.  After all, you want them to be fully prepared and ready to roll, but how could you possibly expect them to be available at the drop of a pin without so much as a few hours notice?  No, not cool.  

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  • That is ridiculous.  I have never heard of such...  I hope the company will understand and be ok with you beginning tomorrow (although I am sure the agency will not fess up to it being their fault.) I just hope they don't cost you a job. ((hugs))
    It probably will. From the sounds of it they promised the company that they'd have an employee there today. So, I'm assuming they are calling anyone in the database who qualifies and whoever is willing to start gets it.

    The worst part is that by me refusing it they basically flag my account. From what I've read on their website the more times you decline an offer the less you become an option for them because essentially you're difficult. Fucking bullshit.
  • What the hell? That is just ridiculous. I'm not sure why some of these places think you would just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs, waiting for their call.
    Any word if they will let you start tomorrow?


                                                         
  • AnyMax said:
    What the hell? That is just ridiculous. I'm not sure why some of these places think you would just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs, waiting for their call. Any word if they will let you start tomorrow?
    Nope not yet.

    I'm not banking on it either. She was adamant that the company would prefer that someone start today.
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  • WTF how does anyone expect you to magically show up with no advance notice. I would be irritated.
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  • That is so frustrating and completely unprofessional. What a bunch of ignorant you know whats.






     


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  • That is completely ridiculous.  I hated dealing with those stupid recruiting agencies!  It wasn't until i started working directly with my sister (who is a recruiter) that I started getting into places.  A lot of what goes on at those agencies is really crazy and stupid - never can trust a word they say!
     
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  • That sounds crazy! Especially since it was their poor follow-up that caused the delay. Hope everything works out. Stupid company. Grrrrr :-L

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  • You aren't being unreasonable at all.  I'd kind of worry about the work environment that you would be walking in if they needed you to come in that day.  They could have people dropping like flys.  I know that you want to find something but it could be an unhappy work environment by the sounds of it.

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  • That is ridiculous.  I have never heard of such...  I hope the company will understand and be ok with you beginning tomorrow (although I am sure the agency will not fess up to it being their fault.) I just hope they don't cost you a job. ((hugs))

    It probably will. From the sounds of it they promised the company that they'd have an employee there today. So, I'm assuming they are calling anyone in the database who qualifies and whoever is willing to start gets it.

    The worst part is that by me refusing it they basically flag my account. From what I've read on their website the more times you decline an offer the less you become an option for them because essentially you're difficult. Fucking bullshit.


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  • You are not being unreasonable. - they are being ridiculous.  Honestly, who sits around all day ready and waiting to get a call to start a job immediately?  Not I.


     
     
     
     
  • That is so not normal. What is the big emergency that can't wait until tomorrow? It makes me feel like the whole company is wonky and not likely a place I'd want to work for. I'm sorry they are dumb and think you have no life just because you have no job. Who does that?! You can not be expected to drop everything the second they call. That's so unprofessional it's crazy.

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  • Poppy715 said:

    That is so not normal. What is the big emergency that can't wait until tomorrow? It makes me feel like the whole company is wonky and not likely a place I'd want to work for. I'm sorry they are dumb and think you have no life just because you have no job. Who does that?! You can not be expected to drop everything the second they call. That's so unprofessional it's crazy.

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    I don't think it's the companies fault actually. If I got the initial email monday that means this job has been open for more than a day. It's the agency that's fucking up and not working. It's almost like the recruitment agency forget to fill the position in time. I bet the company would be irate if they found out how the agency is finding them employees and how rude they are being.
  • Poppy715 said:

    That is so not normal. What is the big emergency that can't wait until tomorrow? It makes me feel like the whole company is wonky and not likely a place I'd want to work for. I'm sorry they are dumb and think you have no life just because you have no job. Who does that?! You can not be expected to drop everything the second they call. That's so unprofessional it's crazy.

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    I don't think it's the companies fault actually. If I got the initial email monday that means this job has been open for more than a day. It's the agency that's fucking up and not working. It's almost like the recruitment agency forget to fill the position in time. I bet the company would be irate if they found out how the agency is finding them employees and how rude they are being.
    OK I got it now. The agency is screwy. They are the asshats in this equation. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. As if job hunting isn't hard enough on it's own adding this on top is no fun.

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  • mlal78 said:

    That is more than a little ridiculous.  They have to expect that people need more than an hours notice.

    Sounds like the recruiters f'd up and are scrambling to get someone there.  And if that affects your file then that is bullshit.

    I was just about to say that second part.

    This is such a big fuck. Are there any other agencies you can work with, PinkC?


                                                         
  • AnyMax said:
    What the hell? That is just ridiculous. I'm not sure why some of these places think you would just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs, waiting for their call. Any word if they will let you start tomorrow?
    Nope not yet.

    I'm not banking on it either. She was adamant that the company would prefer that someone start today.
    Hopefully whoever else they call will have the same reaction as you did and not be able to start on like five minutes' notice.  And then hopefully they will call you back and ask you to start tomorrow.  Seriously, it sounds like the recruiter screwed up big time and realized mid-morning that she forgot to fill this position.

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  • I agree that this is crazy and I've never heard of any company (or recruiter) doing this!  I would think it's more likely that the recruiter dropped the ball with this company and it came to "either get someone here or we are going with another recruiter".  Sounds like the recruiter really doesn't have their act together!  
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  • AnyMax said:
    What the hell? That is just ridiculous. I'm not sure why some of these places think you would just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs, waiting for their call. Any word if they will let you start tomorrow?
    Nope not yet.

    I'm not banking on it either. She was adamant that the company would prefer that someone start today.
    Hopefully whoever else they call will have the same reaction as you did and not be able to start on like five minutes' notice.  And then hopefully they will call you back and ask you to start tomorrow.  Seriously, it sounds like the recruiter screwed up big time and realized mid-morning that she forgot to fill this position.
    We'll see I guess.

    What really sucks is that it's actually a pretty cool job. She told me the company name when she shouldn't have and I googled to see exactly what they do and it seems like a pretty awesome place to work.
  • Not unreasonable at all. That's very unprofessional, to wait until the last minute. If they do flag your file, I would contact them to have it removed, as it was their error to call so late. And if the recruiter doesn't like that, I'd contact their supervisor, so that they know they're doing a craptacular job.

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  • That is ridiculous.  I have never heard of such...  I hope the company will understand and be ok with you beginning tomorrow (although I am sure the agency will not fess up to it being their fault.) I just hope they don't cost you a job. ((hugs))
    It probably will. From the sounds of it they promised the company that they'd have an employee there today. So, I'm assuming they are calling anyone in the database who qualifies and whoever is willing to start gets it.

    The worst part is that by me refusing it they basically flag my account. From what I've read on their website the more times you decline an offer the less you become an option for them because essentially you're difficult. Fucking bullshit.
    That is absurd. Do you have any other people you could work with?
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  • What a crappy situation!!  I'd be very frustrated too!  I hope the agency wasn't able to find someone to report by noon and they'll allow you to start tomorrow.
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  • That recruiter sounds like a real asshat. Sorry you had such a frustrating thing happen. FX that you'll get the chance tomorrow.


  • ((hugs)) and I'm sorry you are having to deal with that. Job hunting is hard enough without screw ups like this.

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  • No, that is crazypants. They can't possibly expect you to be available with 5 minutes notice. Sorry, love, that is really frustrating.
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  • That is ridiculous.  I have never heard of such...  I hope the company will understand and be ok with you beginning tomorrow (although I am sure the agency will not fess up to it being their fault.) I just hope they don't cost you a job. ((hugs))
    It probably will. From the sounds of it they promised the company that they'd have an employee there today. So, I'm assuming they are calling anyone in the database who qualifies and whoever is willing to start gets it.

    The worst part is that by me refusing it they basically flag my account. From what I've read on their website the more times you decline an offer the less you become an option for them because essentially you're difficult. Fucking bullshit.
    Ugh, that's absolutely ridiculous.  You're not being unreasonable in the least; they're being unreasonable!!! 
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  • AnyMax said:
    What the hell? That is just ridiculous. I'm not sure why some of these places think you would just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs, waiting for their call. Any word if they will let you start tomorrow?
    Nope not yet.

    I'm not banking on it either. She was adamant that the company would prefer that someone start today.

    AnyMax said:
    What the hell? That is just ridiculous. I'm not sure why some of these places think you would just be sitting around twiddling your thumbs, waiting for their call. Any word if they will let you start tomorrow?
    Nope not yet.

    I'm not banking on it either. She was adamant that the company would prefer that someone start today.

    That is rediculous.
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  • Not unreasonable at all. That's completely frustrating, I'm sorry

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  • That is totally unreasonable. I've never heard of a temp agency doing this, and honestly would make me a bit nervous about the job.

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  • I'm sorry you are dealing with such a crappy agency.  I got extremely lucky with mine.  I hope this job works out for you and you don't have to deal with them ever again!  Let us know how it goes.  Good luck!

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