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daycare adjustment

jss1482jss1482 member
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So we tried daycare at 3 months right when I went back to work and I couldn't take it- I was having my own separation issues being away from her plus she was having a hard time adjusting so that lasted a whooping three days- had my mom watch her for a month since she was on summer vacation ( teacher)- thought to my self, once she is 4 months and developmentally she will be able to self soothe herself a bit more that it will be better.

fast forward a month- she just started again Monday. Day one she protested eating, gradually over the past few days she has been eating a little more. But she is SOOOOOOO tired and eyes all sunken in when i pick her up. I don't know if i shot myself in the foot now that she is SOOO much more aware of what is going on that it is harder on her? Cant go back now... but wondering anyone that has maybe been thru this day care transition, how long did it take for y'all? For baby to be eating normal and back to normal happy non exhausted schedule? She generally goes to bed at 9 and last night she was OUT at 6:30- like super deep sleep.

She is normally about the easiest baby I have ever been around, only fusses/cries when the usual suspects need to be taken care of/ hungry/tired etc. But the lady at the daycare asked what she likes to do at home because she has a small time limit on an activity before she starts to fuss...
Prior to Paige being born it never crossed my mind how difficult it would be to send her to daycare. Hoping it gets easier (sooner than later) and she actually likes it?
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  • JSS1002JSS1002 member
    James had a rough first day at daycare.  He wouldn't eat, and developed a weird rash on his leg, and he just looked so depressed and out of it when I picked him up.  We both cried when I left him there that morning.  Day 2 we both cried, no rash, and he ate a little bit.  Then we had a weekend.  Monday morning he was all smiles for the daycare lady and everything has been just fine ever since.  He was 3.5 months when we started. 

    I'm sure he is going to be just fine, but this part is hard.  I wouldn't judge it too quick -- give him a couple of weeks.  As long as you are hpapy with the caregivers that is really what is important, because it sounds like his reaction is just based on it not being YOU...
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  • JBDamonMJBDamonM member

    Hang in there.

    Putting your LO in daycare sucks. THere is no sugar coating it.

    We did a trial run with LO - when I picked her up she was screaming. It ripped at my heart. We started her on a THursday..... THe first half of the day was awful. I will never forget when I called for a report and they told me "Well she ate her entire bottle, and we were thrilled, but then she threw it all up because she was crying so much." I wanted to die right then and there I felt so bad. However, they also told me they have babies that cry all day those first few days.... So HANG IN THERE! I do believe that it will get easier for both you and LO.

    DD was much better by day 2. However she is just now starting to eat "normal" amounts from a bottle. I was EBFing her when I Was home, and she wasn't fluent with the bottle. In the beginning she was only taking 3 - 3 ounce bottles, now she takes 3 - 5 ounce bottles... Of course I have had to start supplementing to meet her needs, but I'm ok with that..... Her weight gain was down at her 4 month appt - and I have no doubts it was becuase of the daycare transition.

    From what I understand the exhaustion is perfectly normal in the beginning, although we didn't experience much of it over here.

    Also, we started LO at a week shy of 4 months, and I thought it was actually better than starting her at 3 months. Personally month 3 is a big developmental month- and I just thought she was less needy when we started her and therefore more easy to adapt.

    And when all else fails - look on the bright side. This transition should in theory make stranger and seperation anxiety much easier as LO grows....

    Try and give it some time - I really believe you'll be ok :)


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  • bibby32714bibby32714 member
    We started at 6 weeks so I think the transition may have been a little easier.  We have had days where she wont eat for them or naps go bad due to other kids but things do change and get better.  routine helps 

     

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  • jss1482jss1482 member
    thanks for the support guys- it does suck but just hoping it all gets better
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  • AAAHinkleyAAAHinkley member
    I work in a daycare and when we get new babies it can take a while for all to adjust. It's very normal, try and be sure youre not stressing too much, they can definitely sense it from you!!
    Maybe if your LO has a favorite toy at home you can bring that to help. It sucks but just try to give it time and things should get easier!!
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  • mariamariamariamaria member
    I just wanted to say that I feel your pain and I hired a nanny. Just goes to show there are adjustments on both sides of the childcare spectrum. My DS2 had a hard time on day one and day two, but now my DS1 who is 3.5 years old is having a hard time. I'm hoping it's just an adjustment period, but wanted to let you know that whether you go daycare, in-home or a nanny there will be an adjustment period either way. You just have to get through it as best as you can and remember that it too shall pass once they get more comfortable with the routine and the caregivers start building a relationships with them. Good luck! We all know how hard it is. You're not alone or the first person who has had a baby/kid having a hard time. It's heart breaking for us mommas for sure. 
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  • arschm02arschm02 member
    If they are full time, it usually takes 1 to 2 weeks. 7 years of infant childcare has taught me this. Also, the younger they are, the easier the transition. 4 months old is still very young and I'm sure she will adjust fairly quickly. Good luck! My LO will start at my center in Sept. and I'm already dreading the transition period. Both as his childcare provider (i know fighting sleep is inevitable leaving me with and the other teachers with a crabby baby) and as his mom (hearing his cries and not showing any more special treatment for him than the other babies in my care and having an overtired baby at home). However, I am super excited to get him around other kids!
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  • jss1482jss1482 member
    If they are full time, it usually takes 1 to 2 weeks. 7 years of infant childcare has taught me this. Also, the younger they are, the easier the transition. 4 months old is still very young and I'm sure she will adjust fairly quickly. Good luck! My LO will start at my center in Sept. and I'm already dreading the transition period. Both as his childcare provider (i know fighting sleep is inevitable leaving me with and the other teachers with a crabby baby) and as his mom (hearing his cries and not showing any more special treatment for him than the other babies in my care and having an overtired baby at home). However, I am super excited to get him around other kids!


    Oh my, that would be SO HARD! good luck to your transition too, hoping that next week is better! thanks you guys!
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    jss1482 said:
    If they are full time, it usually takes 1 to 2 weeks. 7 years of infant childcare has taught me this. Also, the younger they are, the easier the transition. 4 months old is still very young and I'm sure she will adjust fairly quickly. Good luck! My LO will start at my center in Sept. and I'm already dreading the transition period. Both as his childcare provider (i know fighting sleep is inevitable leaving me with and the other teachers with a crabby baby) and as his mom (hearing his cries and not showing any more special treatment for him than the other babies in my care and having an overtired baby at home). However, I am super excited to get him around other kids!


    Oh my, that would be SO HARD! good luck to your transition too, hoping that next week is better! thanks you guys!

    Thanks!
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