New to TU2 and throwing a pity party. Please come in, sit down, remind me who the baby really is.

SparkySharky · August 2013

I've been struggling with morning sickness and haven't had the energy and inspiration to play with my 9 mo old DS like I used to. I swear that he is smiling less. The 4 days a week when our quality time together is in the morning - are pure hell. I get up with him at 6am to feed him, then up for the day at 8am. I give him breakfast, give him a bath, gussy him up for the day, pack his lunch, pack my lunch, get myself ready for work, try to force some kind of food down my throat (cake seems to go down the easiest), gather the pumping supplies, and then carry 40 lbs worth of stuff to the car. The other days I have more time, but still feel like a trainwreck. And I've started getting ocular migraines. I have one day with DH and DS each week and all I want to do is sleep. I keep telling myself it's temporary and DS won't even remember when it's over, but of course I have these irrational (occasionally hormone-inspired) fears that I'm making him an irrevocably sad baby and permanently damaging our relationship.

FWIW, my DH is right in there doing all he can. He's been great, but he is also at a very busy time with his job right now that he's just not as available or as flexible as he can be at other times. Sometimes it feels like he could do more, but - honestly - I kind of want him to do everything right now. Everything. Including 3 hours of foot and back massages and the occasional lullaby when I go to sleep.

Any tips from STMs on what to do and how to stay focused? Is the extra effort to focus on my DS worth it or am I just being hormonal and should try to focus on spending the next few weeks unconscious (i.e., sleeping)?

jesselayne8 · August 2013

I can't see your ticker so I don't know how far along you are but 1st tri was killer for me the 2nd time around. DD dropped her 2nd nap at 10 months and I thought I was goin to die. I literally wanted to die somedays. However once 2nd tri hit I got my energy back. I still had morning sickness but at least I could keep my eyes open and play with DD.

laura1 · August 2013

Your DS won't remember! I didn't have too hard a time with #2, but when I was pg with #3, I was a disaster. I started having the big kids come into bed with me in the morning and putting a show on my phone for them to watch while I snoozed a bit longer. I had to force myself out of bed, and out of the house. Often would feel like I was going to vomit driving them to their activities. But as PP said, for the second trimester, things improved!

One good thing is that my older kids are great at entertaining themselves. Think of it as you are teaching him to be independent! Good luck [:)]

lyndsihutson · August 2013

Well, i feel the same way, so no help. But know that you're not alone!

sarahlanell03 · August 2013

Nothing irrevocable will happen before your 2nd tri, and it will get better then. For now, see if there is anything you can cut out of your schedule to make life less hectic. If there is anyone around (like a grandma) who would love to spend some time with LO, let them! He will be happy to have someone to play with and you can take a nap - everyone wins!

SparkySharky · August 2013

I'll be 11 weeks this week. This pregnancy is much worse than my pregnancy with DS, but I think I'm starting to round the bend b/c picking DS up doesn't make me want to sit by the toilet. And his smiles are picking back up, too. He used to stare at me until I went and sat down and played with him, but he comes to me now and looks up and smiles. Kids are so adaptable...a nice lesson learned.

Thanks so much for the support and advice.

:-*

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