Dear Multiple Pregnancy...

Mrs.AshAsh · August 2013

Just venting...

Im just feeling very overwhelmed and hormonal today and need to vent. Problem is...none of my IRL friends can relate/understand. So here goes...

Ive carried two singleton pregnancies before this twin pregnancy. Those were NOTHING compared to this. While I really have nothing to be whining about since this has been a pretty "uneventful" pregnancy as far as multiples go...this sh!t is HARD!! Im so miserable lately. Between the hormones and lack of sleep, being as big as a house and trying to keep up with the house (which is an epic failure most days), to trying to maintain some type of normalcy for the kids I already have when all I want to do is sleep and having a trip to the grocery store end up being a lesson on how to raise twins (be sure to breastfeed them so they turn out to be a prodigy like her friends son...note that the lady saying this has no kids herself, not to mention she knows no one who has had twins) almost every.single.time. I feel like gravity is just pulling at my belly. The braxton hicks contractions can just shove it at this point...haha. Selfishly, Im over being pregnant with twins HOWEVER I know that the best thing for my boys is to remain in for as long as they can so thats where I want them to stay. I really dont have much longer, 5w 3d until I would be induced...if I make it that long...but I just feel like this has been the longest.pregnancy.ever!!!

So....
Dear Multiple Pregnancy,
Im over you.

Dear A.J. and Carson,
Please stay in and continue to grow as long as you can/will. Mommy, daddy and your sister and brother are all excited to meet you but we can wait a bit longer. I love you both very much!!!
P.S. Just for the record...my bladder is not a punching/kicking bag.

Thanks for letting me vent ladies! Feel free to add if you want.

sweetsugarmama · August 2013

I know, it's rough. I had a terrible pg with my singleton and a relatively "easy" one (in terms of complications) with the boys. However, the twin pg was so much more annoying! Everything happened so fast, you grow so quick, you can't turn over in bed, can't go 2 minutes without peeing, can't get up off the couch easily, blah blah blah. It will be over soon and you'll one day turn over in bed and think-wow! I forgot how simple that is to do!

Mrs.AshAsh · August 2013

Thats a day Im looking forward to. At least I have more sympathy for beached whales now since I know thats what it feels like when Im trying to turn over in bed...but Im sure thats what I sound like, too! Haha. My poor DH.

KimCousino · August 2013

I am right there with you! I also have two toddlers & a disaster of a house! I want them to stay put, but I just want to feel normal again. If only we could fast forward through these next few weeks! Hang in there!

10-4LilBuddy · August 2013

Oh, I wish I could fast forward by six plus weeks. I never wish my life away but I cannot wait until I hit a safe delivery date (aiming for 34 weeks+). I know that I need to keep them in, but I have been on hospital bedrest for 17 days now and will likely be on it until delivery. Hang in there. At least while I'm in the hospital, I can't get the insolicited advice or questions!

Mrs.AshAsh · August 2013

10-4LilBuddy said:
Oh, I wish I could fast forward by six plus weeks. I never wish my life away but I cannot wait until I hit a safe delivery date (aiming for 34 weeks+). I know that I need to keep them in, but I have been on hospital bedrest for 17 days now and will likely be on it until delivery. Hang in there. At least while I'm in the hospital, I can't get the insolicited advice or questions!

10-4, I know what you mean. I only have a week and a half til 34 weeks and actually had a dream that I delivered at 34w1d. If I can go to 36, Im happy...or just after Sept 1. Lol. We pushed up my DSs 2nd bday party bc we want to try and squeeze it in before babies come, so thats right before 36w. Anyways, what I wanted to say is that you have all of the kudos in the world from me. Being on BR must be hard. Like I said, Im lucky that this pregnancy has been as uneventful as it has been, but if I could have my way it would be a lot easier on my body, in all aspects. Haha.

leanne.matt · August 2013

I feel the same! I am 34w 4d and I am soooo miserable. The rolling over in bed is the worst, next to the near constant heartburn and need to pee. I started having contractions on Friday and dilated to 1cm but then it stopped. Now it just feels like my va jay jay is going to fall out every time I stand up (sorry for the TMI). I know I'm at a "safe point" but I really want them to stay in until 36w so the doc has basically put me on house arrest. I'm willing to do what I need to but I will be so happy when its over!

Hats of to you for going through this when you have other children, I don't know how I'd manage that! I can barely keep up with the dog :-(

Fingers crossed it will be 9 days or more - for them... For mama, 9 days would be preferable. :-)

Mrs.Guz · August 2013

Amen! I'm over it! I'm 34 weeks today so I have a month (at most) to go and know it will be the longest month if my life! I hurt everywhere, having ridiculous contractions. Overall, just worn down. Plus feeling bad I can't do much with DD.

Mrs.AshAsh · August 2013

I am right there with you two pp's!! Not much longer for all of us now... but it feels like a lifetime. As both of you are in the same frame of mind, I will do anything for these babies...but selfishly, I can not hope for time to move faster more than I am now. At least to 34 weeks.

ktjruss03 · August 2013

Aww you all are doing great, and your babies will be here before you know it. I remember just wanting to get to my safe point of 34 weeks, and then 2-3 more weeks sounded SO long after that. The last week or two of my pregnancy was the slowest and I thought my boys would never come. After having PTL stopped with medication, I just knew I would make it to my scheduled c-section, but went into labor at 36 2/7. Now my boys are almost 3 weeks old and where the heck has the time gone!?

I remember getting into the recovery room and feeling my flat belly and ribs again for the first time. Even with my csection,I felt SO MUCH better after delivering. I know the end is SO HARD and you feel horrible, especially with other little ones to look after. We had lots of movie time and snuggle/nap time (as much as my 3 year old would allow). As hard as it is to get comfortable and rest, try to as much as possible.

You all are doing great and are so close. Hang in there & good luck to you!! Feel free to vent whenever, we all have been or are in the same position and understand completely!!

katiebenes · August 2013

I'm 35 weeks today and I know only part of your pain. these are my first.

And here goes my rant...

Uneventful pregnancy, and everyone going "oh you've had it so easy!" and going on and on about how lucky I am to not have experienced X, Y, and Z. I just want to flop on the ground temper tantrum style every time I hear that.

Yes, I avoided M/S and haven't puked very often. Yes, fatigue has been my worst symptom. Yes, I am "all baby" but I'm now hitting the miserable point.

I'm so sick of my sister laughing at me every freaking time she sees me. I've been waddling for a month now. GET OVER IT YOU'RE AN ADULT IN THE HEALTH CARE FIELD.

I'm sick of everyone giving me lectures when I say "I can't wait for them to be here." I'm not saying I want them out *right now* I'm saying the same thing I have been since I found out I was pregnant. I want to hold my child and start to teach them etc

I'm sick of people being surprised I'm not on bed rest, or that I have a few weeks left, or any other "end of pregnancy" thing. I've been hearing it for months

I'm sick of needing help to get out of the tub, or sometimes out of bed/off a couch. I'm also not too fond of everyone making comments about how it looks as I'm getting up on my own.

I'm sick of the swollen pain.

I'm sick of people asking if they've come yet. I'm 35 weeks. Really, the OB wanted me to not go until 36... but was "okay" with it at 34. Good Lord peeps. I'm a picture whore. Do you really think I'm not going to post the pic immediately after all the important people know?

PS if I'm still informing the VIPs when you text... I will ignore you until they are all told. I am not about to break my system for your butt.

I'm sick of everyone already telling me I am not doing something right. Shut up. my twins will be fed. They will have their poop and pee contained in a form of dipe... they will not be abused or neglected. The black cats I live with will not steal their souls or try to kill them. I don't really care how you did it 3+ years ago or how "you didn't have that and your kids turned out fine." Yeah, I'm sure they did... but "that" was made to make life easier on the parents.

*sigh* it feels good to get that all out. I have been this |..| close to screaming that all at the next person to piss me off.

Mrs.AshAsh · August 2013

Amen, ladies! Let it out. It definitely feels better. :-)

Ktjruss...thank you for your post delivery perspective and for letting me know that the lack of breathing will subside after delivery. I didnt feel this way with my two previous pregnancies so I was wondering when it would subside so I could actually breath again. I know that this is the home stretch...Im excited and anxious to meet these boys. Your perspective really helps on this. :-)

Mrs.Guz · August 2013

Oh, if I had a dollar every time someone told me they were jealous because they've alway wanted twins, we wouldn't have to worry about how to pay for their college! It's so annoying! And ignorance is definitely bliss!! If they only knew how hard it is being pregnant with twins, they wouldn't wish it on their enemy! :op

Wishing35 · August 2013

I'm a FTM so I can't imagine how much harder it is with havin other children, you have my sympathy! I'm
37 weeks with 1 week to go and I know how uncomfortable it can be. I have no advice because theres not anything we can do but wait, just know that there are people out there who get it. I have gotten to the point in the last 2 weeks especially that I do not want to go anywhere, I'm sick of the stares and advice and questions! My house is a mess and I have no energy to do anything. Hang in there and do what you can but don't push it .

heaven22tw · August 2013

I'm in the odd situation where this is my first pregnancy ( after four years of inf) but I do have a baby too (DD is adopted and will be 11 months old when her I'D sisters are born) NO ONE understands...ive just given up on support to be honest lol. People help take care of my daughter and make sure I'm taking care of the babies, but i dont think anyone has checked on me since I was in and out of the hospital first trimester. I'm very glad for the help but i need some emotional support too...you are def not alone!!!

cheerbu1 · August 2013

I am going to join in on the vent train. Here goes:

I am sick of people asking me if I am going to deliver any minute. I got stopped in the grocery store parking lot and was asked if I should really be going in because she didn't want to read in the local paper the next day that I delivered in the grocery store - then she laughed at me. I'm 27 weeks, 4'11" and all belly, but thank you stranger for making me feel like a giant pig. Not to mention the old guy at work that only acknowledges me by laughing and pointing at my belly - do it again and I might judo chop you. Oh and did I mention that I was told my belly looked like the Hindenburg? yea, thanks for that.

If I'm out of work at day or two and come back I get "oh I thought you delivered those babies!" really? because for the 872nd time, I am not due to be induced for another 11 weeks.

And ... not to mention I am exhausted, can't sleep, my feet are swollen, I have carpel tunnel, my house is a disaster, and I have to count every bite of food I put in my mouth because I have gestational diabetes! All I want is a cheeseburger and a giant ice cream!

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