S/O Weddings: Wedding Drama

WinsyWade · August 2013

@JMC11511's post in the wedding thread got me thinking... Did you have any crazy wedding drama with your bridal party, bachelor/ette parties, etc? Care to share?

WinsyWade · August 2013

I had major drama with MIL, who added a bridesmaid to my wedding party behind my back (with DH)- on mother's day at my grandparents' house, forced me to ask SIL to be in the wedding party with a guilt trip, gave me a list of over 100 people to invite to my "small and intimate wedding" (I had a 100 person guest list limit), as well as stopped at Panera on the way from the church to the reception and was 2 hours late (with my son!) because she didn't think we were serving enough food. She also told me she loved me the morning of the wedding which was COMPLETELY awkward after the way she had behaved. Oh! And she invited my husband's friends that he didn't want invited to the church part of the wedding.

The only other drama was being made to invite a cousin, whom I despise, by my dad's mom. I was guilt tripped about that too, so I invited her. She brought all her kids at like 8pm (reception was over at 10). Cousin never said hello, and left with no "Congratulations", not even a card with a signature or note in it.

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

Ugh......my mom! My dad came from North Dakota with his wife to our wedding. He was walking me down the aisle. This turned into the worst drama ever where my mom was trying to ruin my wedding planning. She would bitch how weddings are stupid and all men are no good. She said she was just going to sit in the house and miss the wedding because she didn't want to see him.

Wedding day comes. I was going to let the girls do their hair and makeup how they want, but let them know that a professional would be there in case they wanted that. They all decided to get their hair/makeup done and my mom pays without them knowing. One girl said, "That was so nice!". My mom says, "Well I am paying for everything else so..." That was not true at all! My in-laws paid for a lot as well as me and my husband. I was mortified.

My mom hears that my dad has arrived. She mopes and pulls a performance in the bridal suite in front of everyone! My girls huddled around me and told me to ignore it, that this is my day and not to let her ruin it.

It really made me wish that I had just eloped.

notkateanymore · August 2013

uscgirl1109 said:

We had drama for sure. My husband's family did not approve of us being together and they locked him out of their house and my dad took him in so we only had my side of the family there.

Why don't they approve of you? Do y'all get along now?

Arnegard · August 2013

One of my bridesmaids moved back to ND in the midst of my wedding planning. The crazy part is that I for some reason kept a printout of all of the emails that I had with my wedding party (most was choosing dresses).

She broke up with her boyfriend who was a good friend of DH's and moved away. Some where in there she thought I called her fat, or something... She turned BSC and moved, never to be heard of again. A good co-worker took her place. I had 5 gals in my wedding party.

AimeeL85 · August 2013

DH's aunt stormed out of our rehearsal dinner. Why? Because she didn't get a gift. We passed out small gifts to our bridal party and parents, as is common to say thank you, and she was offended that there was nothing for her. Don't ask me why the aunt of the groom would think she's entitled to a gift.

I've grown many balls since then. At the time I was so upset. If it happened now I would have told her off.

jensriot · August 2013

My SM told my wedding planner what a terrible job she did and that she really owed her and my dad an apology. In front of our guests. What was her horrible crime? The kitchen forgot to make a vegetarian plate for said SM. She was the only vegetarian plate to be served. She ended her little tirade saying that "my husband paid for this wedding!" my wedding was beautiful, this was the only issue I can think of, and my dad paid for a tiny tiny fraction of the wedding. Regardless, who goes around demanding better treatment because you may have paid for part of the event? In front of people, geez.

ETA: she was provided a vegetarian meal, but was pissed that she was "an afterthought"

AimeeL85 · August 2013

letranger said:

Um I bought the wrong color bridesmaid dress for my Tiffany's brother's second wedding. It was a total mistake but she told me the wrong color.

How different were the colors?? Was she mad? I hope you guys at least laught about it in hindsight!

WinsyWade · August 2013

JenS2203 said:

My SM told my wedding planner what a terrible job she did and that she really owed her and my dad an apology. In front of our guests. What was her horrible crime? The kitchen forgot to make a vegetarian plate for said SM. She was the only vegetarian plate to be served. She ended her little tirade saying that "my husband paid for this wedding!" my wedding was beautiful, this was the only issue I can think of, and my dad paid for a tiny tiny fraction of the wedding. Regardless, who goes around demanding better treatment because you may have paid for part of the event? In front of people, geez.
ETA: she was provided a vegetarian meal, but was pissed that she was "an afterthought"

Yikes! She sounds like my stepmom. :-S

notkateanymore · August 2013

Oh lord, AuroraLoo. Did she die?

khill86 · August 2013

FIL's BSC girlfriend decided she wanted to be a wedding planner while we were planning our wedding. She was even taking online courses. She really, really, really wanted to decorate the reception venue so I let her, insisting she had my approval. That was fine. She asked if she could get pictures for her portfolio. Again, fine. Well then I saw what she used for the portfolio. It's pictures of all the flowers... That SFIL arranged. He's a florist and it's the family business. So that was weird. She also changed outfits between the ceremony and the reception. AND, insisted our MC use FIL's last name when introducing her, even though they aren't married. And she happens to have MIL's first name, and she hadn't intended on changing her last name when she remarried because her 3 kids have her married name. So they were intoduced with the same names. That was awkward.

BUT. The most drama filled part, was planning our rehearsal. We wanted to do a BBQ at the family cottage, which is literally 3 minutes from where we got married. DH's grandma, who owns the cottage, thought it was a great idea and gave her blessing to do it.

But BSC girlfriend, told me in private, that FIL and his brother had majority ownership and said no. That isn't true. Grandma was pissed but didn't want to get in the middle of it. So because he ruined our plans, he said he'd pay for the rehearsal and we'd have it at the reception venue, different room, different food.

We really didn't want anyone else paying for anything so we could have the ultimate decision making power. They insisted, we eventually agreed. So they chose the guest list. I very delicately emailed and asked that our MC and his wife, plus DH's grandma [FIL's own mother] be invited, knowing that the BSC girlfriend hated all three.

I asked because I didn't feel it was fair not to include our MC and his wife in the rehearsal, and DH's other grandma was going to be there, so it seemed rude to not invite this one. PLUS, our MC, his wife, and grandma live together. How uncomfortable would they feel leaving her at home?

Anyway... BSC crazy girlfriend flipped her shit. Not because we asked they be invited, but because I emailed her to ask, as if I was afraid to ask her in person. I didn't want to point out the irony that the exact yelling, finger wagging, stomping, standing above me, and swearing, was why I didn't ask in person. Not to mention, she waited until we were alone to do all of this.

We are now estranged from both FIL and the BSC crazy girlfriend. Mostly because of her crazy behaviour, but it got way, way beyond the wedding. FIL refuses to even acknowledge that she has ever said or done anything wrong, so DH cut the cord.

notkateanymore · August 2013

auroraloo said:

nope. in fact, she had a gin and tonic in her hands all night (more than one) and she didn't tell anyone until she left. She told my aunt "you should take me to a hospital now, because I think I had a stroke during the dancing", but not until they were in the car.

She was 89 at the time, she is now 94 and spends most of her time commenting on old pictures on Facebook.

LOL That's hilarious.

BTW, USGgirl...if my child got married at 18, I might lock them out too!

kristen714 · August 2013

Not so much drama but a funny story. Just for background we were married outside. So the guys were waiting at the end of the aisle and apparently my aunt somehow tripped and fell over and her dress went over her head. So the groomsmen and my DH all got a nice shot of her goods. I guess it was good that she was at the front so only the 5 guys saw everything.

smores715 · August 2013

My MIL got herself nice and drunk during the cocktail hour. During dinner she was livid that no one was dancing, because of course everyone was eating-dinner was being served, and tried to fire the DJ. Luckily we had told him during one of our prewedding meetings to pay no attention to her so he just rolled with it. DH's brothers and sister were of no help in trying to talk some sense into their mother so one of my bridesmaids pulled her outside and told her she could either straighten up or she would personally take her back to the hotel. She was somewhat better after that. The mother/son dance was a little awkward to watch as she was still tipsy and was hanging all over DH. She at least realized that she acted like a fool and did apologize for it though she is still mad at my bridesmaid for yelling at her during the reception.

jak554 · August 2013

I had my sister as one of my BMs and I paired her with the 15 year old GM, who is H's cousin, (she was 20) and her jackass baby daddy wanted to beat him up cuz she had to walk back down the aisle and do one dance with him. She did leave with him and their kids after the bridal party dance and I didn't know about it til after the wedding, but H would've had no problem kicking butt if BD tried to start a fight.

notkateanymore · August 2013

How many kids can you have at 20?

rockyrollgirl · August 2013

@ExpentantSteelerFan that sounds familiar about the MOB dress. I wonder if it is the same forum I am thinking of...although there were a bunch of posts like that on that particular board.

jak554 · August 2013

KateMW said:
How many kids can you have at 20?

She has 2 and has been talking bout #3 but I think it's cuz she sees DS and wants the cute baby again. :shrugs: Her life I suppose.

joyfullyfound · August 2013

Well, reading through these made for a highly enjoyable 10 minutes!

caybeh · August 2013

No big drama. Our ring bearer and nephew puked right before the processional. Not many guests saw it and thankfully, he didn't get any on his tux or my sister's dress. My BIL was an usher and had just finished seating my mom, so he took nephew downstairs of the church. Also, my BIL's parents were at my wedding, so they helped take care of the nephew. He was 2.5 and in hadn't been feeling well most of the day prior to that. I felt really bad for him.

jnksmom · August 2013

FIL and his wife threatened not to come because SMIL's corsage was the same as the grandmothers not my mom and MIL's. H was 23 when His parents divorced and FIL remarried. He doesn't even consider her a stepmom, just his dads wife. She is BSC and should have been happy she was invited and got a corsage at all. She then showed up in a bright gold dress that was horribly ugly. MIL and my grandma showed up in the same dress. I felt really bad for MIL. She was so upset. My grandma had showed me a dress she said she was wearing but found this one last minute and decided to wear it instead.

KaylaL08 · August 2013

I fired my photographer 4 days before my wedding.

We were friends and I was also a BM in her wedding 2 months before. In between booking her for MY wedding, and being in HER wedding, I realized what a horrible person she is. She actually wanted me to drive 60 miles one way so my mom could see her portfolio.

She didn't like DH, and made hateful comments to him. The final straw was when she was going to let her 13 year old sister be her second shooter, and she got an attitude when I questioned her about it.

I found another photographer at the last minute and fired her. Turns out the new photographer used to be BFF"s with the old photographer and they had a following out as well. New photographer and I are very close now.

DSS was 26 months when we got married and he walked over the back of my dress during the ceremony. A few people flipped out because he got it dirty, but I thought it was hilarious.

vlagrl29 · August 2013

my mom and grandma for sure. i wasn't expecting it. it was my 2nd marriage. It's like they didn't want me to marry DH and to me I really didn't understand why they were acting like bitches. Apparently he used too strong of a tone or looked at them wrong. My mom called me the next morning to bitch him out to me....the day after our wedding and I had just woken up. This behavior continued all the way up to the day I DD was born. I got so sick of it that i just told her I wasn't divorcing him and if she wanted to see me and DD she would have to see him as well or she wouldn't see any of us. It was really starting to hurt my feelings. I guess she actually expected me to divorce him the week after we were at home with the baby. Like that was one of the things on my list (sarcasm).

MesmrEwe · August 2013

All I can think is Oh man Ya'll had to put up with some deep craziness!!! Ours is SO tame in comparison!!!

Our big drama was because of FIL's health, it was best that we have it up here where the (at the time) IL's family business was (FIL was blind). That one change basically tripled the price of everything and took it from easy to plan into complicated (if it'd been "back home" it'd been 5-7 phone calls and DONE!).. The IL's were of means and the last thing I ever wanted was to appear to be taking advantage. Well, my FIL being the ever "thrifty" one met his match in me and told SIL "I don't want her to make me look cheap" (to this day, I'm the only person late FIL ever said this about!)...I'm told there were people spitting coffee out their nose because they couldn't believe what they had just heard come out of FIL!

But from there, we literally had EVERY flipp'n detail go wrong!! DH was nowhere to be found in the planning process. I really didn't get to enjoy our wedding day because I was working the whole time (I.e. the "go to" person for vendor questions)... My bridesmaids I discovered were the type who wanted to just show up.. The cake - well let's just say the early days of "Cake Wrecks" started on TK, and ours was one of the first "what they ordered vs. what they got", it was wrong down to the flavor... Our DJ cancelled out on us in an elaborate lie that was caught on TK... From there our florist, no word (after messages), then two weeks before the wedding she left a nasty message on my machine saying that she wasn't going to be able to do our wedding if we didn't pay her by the next day since she hadn't heard from me, then says "oh, I don't use the number listed on my BUSINESS card!"

On a funny note though, during the course of the reception, my brother had lost the keys to one of the vehicles. Thankfully my Mom brought along a backup set (just in case!)... There is the most awesome picture of my brother and I going head to head (you can see the neither one of us was going to back down in this pic!) and he's asking me to go climb in the back of the truck to look for the keys myself, and me telling him No way!... He asks me why and I kid you not, I said "DUH! BIG WHITE DRESS!"

I think the best things to come out of the day are that DH & I are married, and Thank our lucky stars we never have to do THAT again!!!

kcisthebombdotcom · August 2013

These stories are the reasons we eloped. Lol! No drama at all and it was really romantic.

catycate · August 2013

KC_13 said:

These stories are the reasons we eloped. Lol! No drama at all and it was really romantic.

Yep. Well, that, and the fact that I was 3 months pregnant.

WinsyWade · August 2013

khill86 said:

FIL's BSC girlfriend decided she wanted to be a wedding planner while we were planning our wedding. She was even taking online courses. She really, really, really wanted to decorate the reception venue so I let her, insisting she had my approval. That was fine. She asked if she could get pictures for her portfolio. Again, fine. Well then I saw what she used for the portfolio. It's pictures of all the flowers... That SFIL arranged. He's a florist and it's the family business. So that was weird. She also changed outfits between the ceremony and the reception. AND, insisted our MC use FIL's last name when introducing her, even though they aren't married. And she happens to have MIL's first name, and she hadn't intended on changing her last name when she remarried because her 3 kids have her married name. So they were intoduced with the same names. That was awkward. BUT. The most drama filled part, was planning our rehearsal. We wanted to do a BBQ at the family cottage, which is literally 3 minutes from where we got married. DH's grandma, who owns the cottage, thought it was a great idea and gave her blessing to do it. But BSC girlfriend, told me in private, that FIL and his brother had majority ownership and said no. That isn't true. Grandma was pissed but didn't want to get in the middle of it. So because he ruined our plans, he said he'd pay for the rehearsal and we'd have it at the reception venue, different room, different food. We really didn't want anyone else paying for anything so we could have the ultimate decision making power. They insisted, we eventually agreed. So they chose the guest list. I very delicately emailed and asked that our MC and his wife, plus DH's grandma [FIL's own mother] be invited, knowing that the BSC girlfriend hated all three. I asked because I didn't feel it was fair not to include our MC and his wife in the rehearsal, and DH's other grandma was going to be there, so it seemed rude to not invite this one. PLUS, our MC, his wife, and grandma live together. How uncomfortable would they feel leaving her at home? Anyway... BSC crazy girlfriend flipped her shit. Not because we asked they be invited, but because I emailed her to ask, as if I was afraid to ask her in person. I didn't want to point out the irony that the exact yelling, finger wagging, stomping, standing above me, and swearing, was why I didn't ask in person. Not to mention, she waited until we were alone to do all of this. We are now estranged from both FIL and the BSC crazy girlfriend. Mostly because of her crazy behaviour, but it got way, way beyond the wedding. FIL refuses to even acknowledge that she has ever said or done anything wrong, so DH cut the cord.

@khill86- They need to add a "Yikes!" button. Holy cow!

pastalady · August 2013

My best guy friend held a wedding shower for me in our hometown. After I flew there he picked me up from the airport. On the way to the shower he told me he loved me and tried to get me to call off my wedding. We talked it out and it was okay but akward lol! He still flew down for my wedding a few months later and was in my wedding party. I didn't tell DH because I thought he lives in another city, whatever. We get back from our honeymoon and he has moved to our city and is living with my parents. He then lived with them for two years. Needless to say my DH got tired of it. He tried to really cause drama with DH and I. Now he is happily married and I hoped we could be good friends again. He doesn't seem that interested. P

jnksmom · August 2013

I forgot to add that our rehearsal was a disaster also. FIL paid for it and he and his wife threw a fit about the food H and I wanted catered in. We wanted BBQ from this local place that is really good. They insisted we have some fancy crap food that neither of us liked. H talked me into giving in. The food was nasty and the kicker is FIL and his wife didn't even show up to the rehearsal. I was so pissed.

emeraldanchor · August 2013

My dad threatened to not come because I wanted my step-dad to give me away. It was huge drama and I almost eloped because of it. I ended up having them both give me away.

I also had some bridesmaid drama, but thankfully it all passed over.

Minipenguin · August 2013

My wedding was ALL drama. First of all, the best man (DH's brother) didn't come to the reception at all. 2 weeks before the wedding, DH's cousin and DH's cousin's son (a groomsman and ring bearer) dropped out because his cousin decided it wasn't fair that we were picking their clothes and he didn't want to wear pants, he wanted to wear his shorts. We were all, are you fucking serious? You have to wear pants anyway. But he showed up in his camo shorts (Oh, and he was almost 30 at the time).

Oh, and we had a dry wedding but some people showed up with whiskey and got hammered. The valet people never showed up so there were cars lined up of guests trying to park with no where to go...

And then, when we got to the hotel, there was another wedding going on in the ballroom there. The people down the hall to us were guests of that wedding and the boyfriend had gotten drunk and started assaulting his girlfriend who ran down the hall screaming for help while security chased him away.

It was awful. I am so glad it is over. 3 years later, I can almost laugh about it.

WinsyWade · August 2013

Minipenguin said:

My wedding was ALL drama. First of all, the best man (DH's brother) didn't come to the reception at all. 2 weeks before the wedding, DH's cousin and DH's cousin's son (a groomsman and ring bearer) dropped out because his cousin decided it wasn't fair that we were picking their clothes and he didn't want to wear pants, he wanted to wear his shorts. We were all, are you fucking serious? You have to wear pants anyway. But he showed up in his camo shorts (Oh, and he was almost 30 at the time).

Oh, and we had a dry wedding but some people showed up with whiskey and got hammered. The valet people never showed up so there were cars lined up of guests trying to park with no where to go...

And then, when we got to the hotel, there was another wedding going on in the ballroom there. The people down the hall to us were guests of that wedding and the boyfriend had gotten drunk and started assaulting his girlfriend who ran down the hall screaming for help while security chased him away.

It was awful. I am so glad it is over. 3 years later, I can almost laugh about it.

Ugh, that sounds horrible. I can't believe your 30 yr old cousin. Wow.

MesmrEwe · August 2013

I Heart The 80s said:

This whole thread is like a weird reality show.

LOL - if you only knew!!! For a while I was licensed as a cake decorator (long story how I ended up leaving the biz, and it wasn't because of lack of success or a bad business plan thankfully!!! But instead is when I unexpectedly ended up a SAHM), OMG, the stories I could tell of things that have not only happened to me, but my cake friends as well!!! I've come to the conclusion that "Weddings, Funerals, and Babies bring out the best AND the worst in people!!"

kaydee77 · August 2013

DH's 15 year old nephew got trashed - he was stealing drinks out of guests hands and drinking them, and also did really bad karaoke in front of everyone. And he told our friends' 14 year old daughter that she was really pretty, over the microphone. AND he tried hitting on one of my married friends!! Oy - he's a good kid and actually lives with us now (he's 20), but I was pretty pissed that he got drunk at our wedding.

My BIL's girlfriend (now -ex) got drunk, took off her high heel to throw at BIL, he ducked and it hit MIL square in the eye. Then the girlfriend decided to call MIL a stupid bitch, to her face. MIL had a huge black eye the next day. The girlfriend ended up being taken back to MIL's house for the rest of the night, and had to be watched by someone because she was acting kind of suicidal.... Thankfully this crazy beotch is not a part of our family anymore!!

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