September 2013 Moms
Kimmynicole2400
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Visitors in hospital
Kimmynicole2400
member
Just wondering if you welcomed all visitors and how soon after birth? I know MIL wants to be there for birth which is not happening and expects to be in room right after birth to see baby. I wanted time to have skin to skin and try to breastfeed before people all rush in to visit. Also thought that time being new mom and dad with just us and baby for a few would be special. I just dont know how i will feel after giving birth and dont want his parents there asap.
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Re: Visitors in hospital
I don't know how long it'll be before we're ready to have people come visit, but I just don't want to be stressed about it. I say you and your H should come to a decision and he can discuss with his mother. It's most important that you're united in your decision.
Personally, I am letting my MIL in the room for birth and my sister is she makes it in time. I told them they are required to stay above the head, although I have a feeling I wont care at the time. My negotiation with he being in there is that I plan on kicking everyone out soon after birth(I'm thinking like an hour) to have my Mommy and Daddy time and breastfeeding and all of that. I know I am different than most though
This time, we don't have any family nearby, so I'm open to a few church friends stopping by briefly after 8-12 hours. That is mainly because DH will have to spend some time at home with DD for her naps and such, so a bit of company might be nice for me. We are doing a 24 hour checkout if all goes well, so there won't be much time for many visitors given these guidelines.
You can tell your L&D nurses that no one is allowed in and they won't be. Ever.
I personally don't want my LO to be passed around to lots of people while in the hospital... I think I will let our immediate family hold her and that's about it. People will have plenty of chances to hold her when were out of the hospital.
If we end up having to have a hospital birth, we will ask for no visitors until the next day (or if she's born early in the morning, that evening). I know my family will ALL want to come for the birth, so I plan on not telling anyone (except our parents) we're in labor until after she's born. We'll probably set a time, like "why don't you come down around 5pm" and all the family can come at once instead of people trickling in all day long.
I say, put up your boundaries before and let everyone know the rules. Tell the nurses and enjoy your delivery, time with your husband and new baby!
I regret not having boundaries my first time around. This time will be very different for me.
Hope all goes well!
Boy 7-11-2007 (has Autism),
Boy 2-26-2009 to 11-2-11 (had cancer at 4mo),
Boy 3-28-2011 (has Autism)
Girl 9-3-2013
Baby due 2-22-2016
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It really depends on the time of day. Dd2 was born at 8:30pm, and was early, so dh's parents didn't make it till the next day (they live 9 hours away). My parents were there with dd1 so mom could take pics, and dad watched dd1 in the hall during the actual delivery. They stayed fr about a half an hour then left. So we had the rest of the evening alone. Visitors started coming late the next morning, around 10.
If we have a morning delivery, I think I'll be ok with people coming that afternoon.
Honestly, I'd rather people come to visit in the hospital instead of at our house. We don't have much room, and will have ILs there for a few days, and I'd rather visit with them than have a bunch of our friends hangin around.