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I feel crazy!

HMSosieHMSosie member
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I was looking at my 18 month old the other day and realized I'm ready for number 2. My husband and I had a LONG talk about it and came to the decision that now is not the right time, I'm in nursing school and he's not ready, so we're waiting another 2 years until I finish school. The thing was I had my mirena removed on Tuesday for other medical reasons and started that evening on ortho tri cyclen. The doc warned that the OCP wouldn't be effective immediately. My husband decided he wanted to DTD Wednesday and I told him I'm willing but we may not be 100% protected from a pregnancy and he said he was fine with taking the risk. Then Wednesday I came down with a UTI and now I'm on septra. I feel so torn. I feel like God has a plan and if I'm meant to get pregnant there's a reason and he keeps throwing all these things my way that are saying something. I think I would be THRILLED if we got pregnant "by mistake" but my husband probably wouldn't be too happy...Is it really wrong for me to feel this way? I'm not hiding the fact that we're less protected so I don't feel as if I'm lying to him but is it bad to think maybe...it'll just happen...that God does have a plan?
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Re: I feel crazy!

  • Rach21Rach21 member
    Why do you have a baby ticker if you're not pregnant?

    I'm a Christian so I believe in God, and I believe He has a plan. I also believe God gives people common sense (in varying degrees). If you are experiencing medical issues, your husband thinks it's not the right time, and your gut tells you that to attempt TTC is being dishonest to your husband's wishes, I don't see how God is telling you things. Sorry. I think you've got BOTB but you need to slow down until your husband is on board.
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    TTC #2: My chart
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  • biomaj5biomaj5 member
    If you're not KU, why do you have a ticker?
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    7,065/13,000=54.3%
    Started TTC in June 2008. Not bothering any more.

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  • DucktaleDucktale member
    I am also a Christian, but unless your religious beliefs tell you otherwise (and it sounds like they don't) you should be doing what you can to avoid pregnancy if you know it's not the right time. Use a condom. You would not want to feel guilty if you did get pregnant and he really did not want that right now.
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    BFP 6/15/14   EDD: 2/24/15

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  • bugandbibsbugandbibs member
    I call bullshit.
    Baby boy H is here! Born 2/1/2014 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Mysterious_wife: "And for the love of all things that sparkle, remove your last name" on BOTB.
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  • MarcoIslandMommyMarcoIslandMommy
    It's never wrong in the way you feel, although it may appear so to others its still the way you feel. Communication is so important between couples, and even though your husband says okay lets have sex the risk is okay, you know thats not the case he just wants some hot lovin ;) But I think you two should totally sit down and put everything out on the table and come to an understanding, or a compromise or something, so that way all concerns/thoughts/feelings are settled and you don't have to feel so ... conflicted? 
    Idk.. best of luck to you all!
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