new perspective

I think I have finally figured out how to deal with SD having visitation with BM again.

SD has had enough time with us and other healthy influences in her life that BM has little hold or power over her. She knows as much as, if not more than, any kid about privacy and safety and the right to control her own body. She is 7 yo now. That is old enough to say no and tell if something happens. BM has no power to swear her to secrecy, no power to bully or intimidate her.

When everything happened before, all the children were very much under her thumb. But now SD is free, and BM is too cowardly to try to do anything if she thinks SD might say something or fight with her.

Since at this time we must allow SD to resume "supervised" visits with BM, my confidence in DH and my parenting is going to have to be my peace of mind. That and my never ceasing prayers for God's protection around her.

And just looking at things a little differently have made this past week a little easier. It really is the first breath I have taken since the judge's ruling. We did get everything else we asked for, and that is a blessing to be noted as well.

So this thread really had very little point to it. Just wanted to share my new peace with someone.