A son + twins on the way

tyfrazi · August 2013

Hello group. My hubsand and I just found out we are expecting twins. We have a 2 yo son, too. We are wondering if we need to worry about our son feeling like an odd man out ( for lack of better words)

aliwisewoman · August 2013

Welcome to the board! I've got a 4 yo DS and a 2 yo DD, with twins due this Oct/Nov. I don't have any practical advice, as I haven't lived through it. But from my experience it is always good to read books and talk about upcoming changes. We read lots of books about having a baby and being a big brother before our second child was born. He had a lot of interest in babies and pregnant women! Lol

Dragonfly1226 · August 2013

Our son was 2yrs and 4months when we had K&A. We haven't had a problem with him feeling left out, but we have made a big effort to include him. We took him to pick out gifts for his sitters when I was pregnant (he got them their loveys) and we had presents bought for him from his sisters. Every time he came to the hospital to visit he had a gift to open - a small Thomas train set, a book from the series he loves, a truck puzzle, a vehicle stamp set... small things that we knew he would love.

We also made a big deal about him being a big brother. He had a shirt to wear that said "I'm the Big Brother."

Mostly we are just very conscious of making sure that he gets attention from us. We make sure he gets one on one time with me and also with DH during the week. I am a SAHM and when I have all three kids I include DS. When the babies do tummy time, DS likes to lay on the blanket and do tummy time with them. It sounds silly but he thinks it is fun. My girls are still young and only stay awake for a hour at a time so DS still gets lots of attention while they are asleep.

I think that as long as you are consciously including your son and making sure he still gets your attention then he will be alright. Congratulations on your twins!

Mamavogel · August 2013

I am so glad you asked, we are in the exact same boat. He is such a mama's boy I am going crazy worrying about how he'll feel. I also worry about how he'll do while I'm in the hospital, he's only slept over at nana and papa' s once. He did fine but 4 days away from mom might be pretty tough. Good luck to you!

TobieRose · August 2013

Congratulations!

We are in a very similar situation--our little guy will be 18-19 months when his two little brothers arrive, so he's a bit younger than yours, and I'm hoping that will work for the best in terms of them growing up and bonding together (as opposed to the twins bonding with each other and not as much him ... that's one of my fears!).

It will be interesting to see how the transition works, for all of us ... he is very much the center of attention right now from everyone (first grandchild on both sides), but our plan is just to make sure he still gets as much individual attention as possible and try to involve him in "helping" with the babies (fetching a diaper for mama, etc).

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