Back to work...help

delino · August 2013

My days home are numbered and that number is 3. It hurts so bad to think about leaving her. I know she'll be fine at daycare. I like and trust the place we've chosen. I don't mind going back to work and I don't even want to be a FT SAHM. So why can't I stop crying? Why does the thought of leaving her make me feel like I'm never going to see her again? Why can't I reason with myself?

If you've bitten this bullet already, how has it been? Was the anticipation worse than actually leaving them? Any tips?

I can't help but to feel like I'm going to miss every milestone and she's going to forget me.

MOMama987 · August 2013

Just a quick post, since I actually have to get back to work... but YES, it gets SO much easier. I promise. Stay busy, keep pictures around, and before you know it, you'll be back into a routine. It'll be stressful, sure, and you'll have your moments (I still do) but I'm now a couple weeks in, and it's much, much easier. Hang in there.

(and make sure to post on the working moms posts... there's a bunch of us... every Wednesday!)

flyliceandcoffee · August 2013

For me, I found it easier to wean myself into it. I started work on a Thursday so for the first 3 days of that week I took S to daycare, but slowly extended how long she'd be there. I don't know if that's an option for you, but it definitely helped me.

She hasn't had any milestones yet though, so I'm sure I'll be sad if/when they tell me she rolled over for the first time and I wasn't there to witness it. It is amazing though when I get home from work and her face lights up when she sees me. It totally makes up for not being around all day since I don't get that same reaction on weekends when she sees me all day every day.

MOMama987 · August 2013

Oh, I totally second the starting daycare early. If you can swing it, by even a day, I'd definitely recommend it. And, my daycare's pretty good about NOT telling parents about milestones if they don't want to hear it. I know that sounds silly, but I think there could be others that do that, too. That way, when you see it... as far as YOU"RE concerned, it's the first time

(They'll tell us if we want to know... but they said a lot of the moms don't want to. They said the dads are fine with it, though. ?)

delino · August 2013

I decided against starting her early. I wanted every last moment with her. A friend mentioned asking them not to tell me about milestones. I might take that approach. Still makes me sad

snowgirl427 · August 2013

I go back next Tuesday and even though ill be close by, in still aA I won't be right with him all day.

Good luck!!

amcongdon · August 2013

My mom took him the first day and then we started daycare. I cried the first day leaving him. Then last night I had a sobbing snotty meltdown while nursing. Quite the visual. He didn't smell like me/us and I flipped out. Today was day 3 and I didn't cry. I think it gets better every day. And we asked not to be told milestones to avoid my guilt. I do enjoy being back at work but wish my job was more flexible. I'm sticking with its going to get easier every day though.

rebaann · August 2013

I go back to work on Monday and I'm in the same boat. I want and need to go back to work, I like her daycare, she likes her daycare and I still don't want to go.

Angela183 · August 2013

I could've written this post myself. Here's to hoping the next week drags by for me, as it is my last week before returning to work.

wku2011 · August 2013

Anticipation was definitely worse than what it was. To be honest, it was refreshing to be back in a swing of things. I am such a lazy bum when I'm at home all day, that I have such respect for those who do it full time. I dreaded it & had a meltdown the day I got my leave papers staying my official return date, but it really is wonderful. The only downside is the whole pumping stress & paranoia, but I think that part will get easier in time.

Someone on this board had mentioned how being back at work allows then to really focus on LO when they're home, and that really is true too. My quality of time is much better now.

delino · August 2013

Thanks ladies. Mommacakes I'm so afraid she'll like them more than she likes me!

I decided to take Wednesday off so that it's not 5 straight days the first week. It's helping me deal right now, but Monday is for sure going to be difficult.

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